People will always find some fault or another, in other people. That's life. I try to accept people for who they are, to the best of my ability. That said, some people are not my cup of tea - so to speak - and I am not theirs, either. No problem.
There are those in my life who do accept me for who I am, and those are the people closest to me. I have many faults, and I know this. It's okay if people don't accept me for who I am. Acceptance is subjective.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
deedee123xo: Yes I grew up like that...but the beauty of being an adult is you can make your own choices and not have to answer to anyone anymore. U also have the choice as an adult to remove urself from those kinds of people.
Yes, we don't always have the choice, as u grew up with some, and have to work with some, which u can't readily just get rid of that easily...….
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
RedHeadedTaurus: People will always find some fault or another, in other people. That's life. I try to accept people for who they are, to the best of my ability. That said, some people are not my cup of tea - so to speak - and I am not theirs, either. No problem.
There are those in my life who do accept me for who I am, and those are the people closest to me. I have many faults, and I know this. It's okay if people don't accept me for who I am. Acceptance is subjective.
Hi Sweetie. Even tho some of us accept people for who they r, u still have an opinion, once u got to know them very well, and if it is a give and take relationship, they will listen to u, and so will u listen to them, but it requires respect from both sides, as we all have little irritating habits sometimes......
ChesneyChrist: Most people wouldn’t bother to think about me personally and I wouldn’t be personally offended by every piece of advice given to me. If joe public warns me there’s a copper round the corner and I’m driving down a one way street with no lights on then I’m glad of it, my response isn’t to say don’t try to change me.
Anyway most people do close to me try to change me in one way or another. Which is just as well because they’ve earned the right to influence me maybe. I’m not an autistic psychopath deaf to the words of even trusted loved ones.
Generally speaking I find people to be live and let live and if they do try to change you it’s more helpful than not.
My view of the typical person is that he’s mostly indifferent to me and my life but leans slightly to good/lawfulness when it comes to public behaviour. There really was a policemen around that corner and the drinking public stepped in to correct my behaviour and save me from a fine.
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
pKrema: I am quite suspicious towards people who say "I am not changing for no one"...
Krem....it is like any saying....blabbermouth....and no knowledge.....I just ignore people like that....thus I ignore a lot......they cannot help themselves....and I definitely am Not wasting my time.....
Do people always find some fault with u.....? Not possible, I'm totally flawless.
What will U do....? I will go paddle kayak.
People, with whom you socialise on regular basis, accept you as you are. Plus your imployer, if you still have that job. Your immediate family won't never, no matter what you do. What options haven't I covered?
Snookums33OPJoburg, Gauteng South Africa5,760 posts
Tulefell: Do people always find some fault with u.....? Not possible, I'm totally flawless.
What will U do....? I will go paddle kayak.
People, with whom you socialise on regular basis, accept you as you are. Plus your imployer, if you still have that job. Your immediate family won't never, no matter what you do. What options haven't I covered?
It is very good to have a high opinion of urself…..till someone gets jealous and go out or their way to break u down.....
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People have a tendency to want to change others,
to what they feel is good for themselves.....
The person they r trying to change,
will either accept this or not.....
Remember u have other options too.....
What will U do....?