Well both see many other things also, but their attention is more on this. women want men with bright future while men want women with clear past. Maybe not all people think like that but most of do so.
Decent_Love: Women look at men's future. Men look at women's past.
A woman looks like she has a pretty good hand, but folds anyway because there's always the chance someone might have a better one. Be wary, be religious or be communist, be whatever your milieu expects you to be. Never revolt, always give in to the dominant force.
A man puts his twos and three into a run and bluffs his way because there's no evidence for god, it's just a confidence trick.
"My experience has been that more often it is the woman who seeks change and growth. Perhaps this is true, if it is, because women seem to monitor a relationship more carefully, while men seem to equate their well-being with outer parameters, such as career or possessions. They may be equally unhappy, but they are likely to differ on what to address. Women seek to recontextualise the relationship, men are more concerned to fix what is broken. Their goals are similar, but the means are poles apart."
men's feelings are like a fire in dry grass, it flares up very quickly and burns out very quickly. Women's feelings are like a fire in thick wood, which neither flares up quickly nor extinguishes quickly.
bodleing2: "My experience has been that more often it is the woman who seeks change and growth. Perhaps this is true, if it is, because women seem to monitor a relationship more carefully, while men seem to equate their well-being with outer parameters, such as career or possessions. They may be equally unhappy, but they are likely to differ on what to address. Women seek to recontextualise the relationship, men are more concerned to fix what is broken. Their goals are similar, but the means are poles apart."
James Hollis....The Eden Project
Nature has made men and women superior in different qualities. What gave less to men, gave more to women and what gave less to women, gave more to men. Both have been made incomplete so that both can be complete together. Just need understanding in both.
Nature has made men and women diametrically opposite to each other in many things. There are many situations in life where different qualities are needed, sometimes strength is needed, sometimes tenderness, sometimes patience is needed, sometimes there is urgency, sometimes emotion and sometimes intellect. Together, both can face the difficult situations of life with the help of each other's qualities.
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Men look at women's past.