HOW MANY OF YOU REALLY WANT A FULL TIME PARTNER? ( Archived) (128)

Dont know about marriage but i would hope to meet someone to share everything with 24/7

I definitely want to find my best friend, partner, lover, protector, life mate..whatever comes is what comes.

I have to say if you are with that special someone you should be able to take alone time and be able to eat when you want,stay in,slob around if you want and your partner should understand ..... i have done the your place and mine thats ok for a while to see how things go but not what I want. I'll take the life long company.

Been married, divorced, and did the lived together thing..like being on my own..would like to have someone to chat with, go out occasionally with, cook for once in awhile, and make love with, but with all this there would have to be monogamy...but don't think I would want the 24/7 thing anymore.

That really poses a difficult question Cerrone.....and a good one too!!!!!!

I've been free, lonely, alone, do-whatever-I-want for three years as well and yes, I can relate to the weeping, sobbing, crying-your-eyes-out part as I've been there and done that. My ex-partner and I have been together for almost ten years before splitting up. I've never cheated on him and I do believe I can say the same about him.

However, I don't think one becomes used to being on your own completely, otherwise you would not have cried and sobbed and weeped during the dark nights.......I still get lonely and I still get that urge to call him sometimes, only to hear his voice, so I guess I never really got completely over him. Therefore I cannot say that I'm completely 100% sure that I'm ready to move on or not. I guess I will only know when I meet someone else. Then again, I met an old friend of mine and we decided to give it a try although we were living miles apart form each other. He has his job and I have mine and neither of us were ready to give it up for the other. We decided to make turns to visit each other each weekend, and that was a total disaster too.

The thing is, one gets set in his/her ways and you get used to living in a comfort zone. Also, you've been through relationships and are scared to give it one more try as you are afraid of disappointment and rejection. You like to have things done your way and find it difficult to give in to another's.

All in all, I agree that it would have been nice if one could have a relationship like the one you mention, but it's just not possible.

JMO

I can honestly say I have never been lonely for any length of time. I love the night and it's quietness. A 24/7 partner would drive me nuts, too independent. An equal to run away with occasionally would be fine.

I understand all about the loneliness but also know the becoming independent as well. Not sure how to blend the old with the new after a 40 year marriage and having lived alone the last 6 years due to his illness.

I have thought the solution might be to buy or build a Duplex together, live together and share together but from time to time have your separate space all to yourself...

YES I WANT A FULL TIME RELATIONSHIP!!

I wanna share my life with someone but....

This does not mean that I cant have my own space, be a slob etc.....whoever I share my life with will understand that we are TWO SEPERATE people...we both need our own time and I need my own time with my son!

Someone once told me that there are 2 kinds of relationships -

A relationship - join the tips of ur 2 thumbs together, then the tips of ur forefingers to make a triangle....push both together and what happens???? They disconnect an push eachother over

H relationship - join your thumbs again but leave ur forefingers free....what happens??? ur Thumbs still connect but ur forefingers are free....

My point being - u need to have space and interests outside of the relationship......push on someone or sped too much time with someone and it will pull u apart no matter how much love there is!

Having been single 39 years, I don't walk around with a laundry list of what I want or don't want. Hopefully, when my special man finds me, we'll discover, together, just what it is that we want.

There are so many arrangements that can work...it's a matter of the two of us adjusting...together.

thruth is........I am 56 y.o. and still don't know what I want!! I know what i should want. But for the first time in my adult life I am alone. Some days a diamond....some days a stone!!