In the sense that you meant it, yes, this can be off-putting. But it is understandable that people don't want to have to have a whole load of pain dumped on them instead of getting the chance to start again "clean"
I think if you see that term than best to figure out what the person means by "baggage". If it means kids, or just your too wacky then tell them by. Seems everyone has thier own definaition of baggage... When in doubt, ask questions...
Sorry, I have to disagree...if that baggage is carried through to the new relationship, it invariably breaks it. And that goes for people of either gender, who bring young children who have not yet reached the age of reason, into the relationship, without the experience or immense maturity of understanding, that this entails.
Everyone has a past, good bad or indifferent, remember the good times, but leave the bad times behind, if your new relationship is to stand a realistic chance of success.....
Wouldn't it be funny if each evening Fallingman has a new look? Like, glasses one night, a moustache the next, bald one night, goatee and a pipe in his mouth the next??
Alleged upcoming Halloween party? Guess I haven't read the thread you must be referring to. The Phantom....never saw the original movie, but saw the Andrew Lloyd Weber stage production 3 times and absolutely love the music. Especially "All I ask of You." Beautiful song.
I have no difficulty with that statement....and never have done...we have personal issues, that have never been resolved, and may never be resolved...but I still love you and always have done....
Yeah, someone was suggesting a Halloween party -- thought it was a good idea. I was afraid I'd Webber a bit sappy, but quite the contrary. Damn, there's some beautiful, moving music in there.
I like "All I Ask..." but am especially partial to "Point of No Return" and "Music of the Night."
lostsoulinspacechocowinity, North Carolina USA521 posts
I asked this same question when i joined, Its not dwilling on the past, learn from it and go on. but, you are right, its your history, your life, and its what made you what you are now, people might want to say, no unresolved baggage, I dont know if that help you are not, your on the right track, there are some ladies that can explane it better then me. Marge
mime61Summerville, SC, South Carolina USA339 posts
regardless whether they mean children or emotional, I hate that term...heard it a few times...my kids are not baggage...they will be the future one day....and as for my emotional termoil..I am quite sure everyone has had their own share of emotional drifts....when I hear it from someone...they lose out on me!
One of my favorite posts by one of my favorite people - good to see it resurface.
The only baggage I would object to would be those extra-large trunks that hold corpses. Other than that, it's *almost* all good (another expression I really dislike, but what can one do?).
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