intellect and matching (36)
I need to be with someone who is my intellectual equal at least! I cannot put up with an idiot!
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Definatly. The cute dumb blonde act is cute for a time but in the end I still want someone I can talk to on an intelligent level otherwise I might as well just talk to my kids more and not worry about an actual partner...
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I'll leave for the evening with this thought...
I have dated scholarly men, wealthy men, dirt poor guys, hard working laborers & all the ilk in between. Each had their own special personality.
At the end of the day, I found I liked the ones who could keep up with me... not in a conversational diction sense, but just by way of simple communication.
I am verbose enough for two!
We all believe in our own thing... some of us share beliefs & feel there is an absolute need for that.
I like to think I am spiritual enough to be secure, no matter what my partner feels...
(providing he doesn't roast duckies over a rather ornate alter to Wacko Jacko.)
When I give myself to my match, he gets all of me.
All I ask is that we find a common means of communicating our needs & desires.
I have dated scholarly men, wealthy men, dirt poor guys, hard working laborers & all the ilk in between. Each had their own special personality.
At the end of the day, I found I liked the ones who could keep up with me... not in a conversational diction sense, but just by way of simple communication.
I am verbose enough for two!
We all believe in our own thing... some of us share beliefs & feel there is an absolute need for that.
I like to think I am spiritual enough to be secure, no matter what my partner feels...
(providing he doesn't roast duckies over a rather ornate alter to Wacko Jacko.)
When I give myself to my match, he gets all of me.
All I ask is that we find a common means of communicating our needs & desires.
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Oh my goodness yes!
Intellectual bonding is terribly exciting...one of the most attractive things in all the world for me...invigorating and vibrant in the extreme when found in your partner.
A woman who is brighter than me...can point things out and explain them to me with the grace and discretion you'd expect from a lady...WOW!
Intellectual bonding is terribly exciting...one of the most attractive things in all the world for me...invigorating and vibrant in the extreme when found in your partner.
A woman who is brighter than me...can point things out and explain them to me with the grace and discretion you'd expect from a lady...WOW!
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Intellectual compatibility ..
I don't know that I LOOK for it.. but it's what I am drawn too.
(mine might be low tho!)..
I don't know that I LOOK for it.. but it's what I am drawn too.
(mine might be low tho!)..
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common sense is more important to me
sometimes the most intellectual person just dont have any savvy
sometimes the most intellectual person just dont have any savvy
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hahah! 
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I knew a girl just like that...it was so sweet to be honest...so much so I fell in love with her.
She didn't have much of a clue about the mundane matters of everyday life, but by golly she was mercurial in o many other ways...I was helpless!
She didn't have much of a clue about the mundane matters of everyday life, but by golly she was mercurial in o many other ways...I was helpless!
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In regards to Spirituality, there must at least be a modicum of seeking. The path is of no concern. A questing for inner depth and peace is a prerequisite that must be there for me.
Intellectually, post caveman is at least the first step. There need not be equality here as each partner brings different pices to the whole. A sense of communication is mandatory but to require an equal to any person's intellect is ludicrous to imagine. As we are all completely different, we each have experienced different stimuli from our environments and seekings in life. It would be nice but unrealistic to desire such.
Therefore someone who has retained their ability to learn and grow would be much more realistic and truly the requirement for a fulfilling relationship.
So to summarize this, no to both circumstances. Just the ability to grow and share. A teacher and a pupil for both subjects on either side of the relationship.
Mark
Intellectually, post caveman is at least the first step. There need not be equality here as each partner brings different pices to the whole. A sense of communication is mandatory but to require an equal to any person's intellect is ludicrous to imagine. As we are all completely different, we each have experienced different stimuli from our environments and seekings in life. It would be nice but unrealistic to desire such.
Therefore someone who has retained their ability to learn and grow would be much more realistic and truly the requirement for a fulfilling relationship.
So to summarize this, no to both circumstances. Just the ability to grow and share. A teacher and a pupil for both subjects on either side of the relationship.
Mark
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I have to be intellectually attracted...as well as motivated. I love it when a man is just a bit brighter than me (ahhhh, such a rare breed, though ). Seriously, I like to be kept on my toes and to feel that I can learn and grow in my relationships. A sharp mind and a sharp sense of humor do it for me every time!
). Seriously, I like to be kept on my toes and to feel that I can learn and grow in my relationships. A sharp mind and a sharp sense of humor do it for me every time!------ This thread is Archived ------
** A sharp mind and a sharp sense of humor do it for me every time!**
Me too Athens.. it blinds me really, so that mostly all I see is that.
Me too Athens.. it blinds me really, so that mostly all I see is that.
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this is a case for.......In my opinion!!
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markmeunier: In regards to Spirituality, there must at least be a modicum of seeking. The path is of no concern. A questing for inner depth and peace is a prerequisite that must be there for me.
Intellectually, post caveman is at least the first step. There need not be equality here as each partner brings different pices to the whole. A sense of communication is mandatory but to require an equal to any person's intellect is ludicrous to imagine. As we are all completely different, we each have experienced different stimuli from our environments and seekings in life. It would be nice but unrealistic to desire such.
Therefore someone who has retained their ability to learn and grow would be much more realistic and truly the requirement for a fulfilling relationship.
So to summarize this, no to both circumstances. Just the ability to grow and share. A teacher and a pupil for both subjects on either side of the relationship.
Mark
Intellectually, post caveman is at least the first step. There need not be equality here as each partner brings different pices to the whole. A sense of communication is mandatory but to require an equal to any person's intellect is ludicrous to imagine. As we are all completely different, we each have experienced different stimuli from our environments and seekings in life. It would be nice but unrealistic to desire such.
Therefore someone who has retained their ability to learn and grow would be much more realistic and truly the requirement for a fulfilling relationship.
So to summarize this, no to both circumstances. Just the ability to grow and share. A teacher and a pupil for both subjects on either side of the relationship.
Mark
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Without music, life would be a mistake.-Nietzsche
If we're not on the same wave, I'm sorry, but I can't surf with you. I dance to my own tune, and I've yet to find anyone who hears the same drum beat.
It's okay, my guitar still loves me...
If we're not on the same wave, I'm sorry, but I can't surf with you. I dance to my own tune, and I've yet to find anyone who hears the same drum beat.
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Yes, I do. I want to be compatible especially on an intellectual level. Spiritually, too, but that has some wiggle room.
I'm looking for a long term relationship, if I'm not intellectually compatible with someone, what would we talk about for the next few decades?
I'm looking for a long term relationship, if I'm not intellectually compatible with someone, what would we talk about for the next few decades?
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I would usually make a self deprecating joke here, but I have a serious question...
I consider myself somewhat intelligent, but shy. When I meet a woman for the 1st time, I am lost in thought on what to say sometimes and come off as an idiot. Only until I am comfortable with someone is when I can loosen up and talk freely. One reason I tried daing sites was to meet women where I can get to know them 1st and then feel comfortable. Does anyone else have this problem?
Also, I have always believed there are alot of people out there who know how to "talk a good ballgame", meaning they are great converstaionalists, but somewhat devoid of intellect. Do you look for good converstaionalists, or is a shy intellectual type OK? You rarely see both these days...
I consider myself somewhat intelligent, but shy. When I meet a woman for the 1st time, I am lost in thought on what to say sometimes and come off as an idiot. Only until I am comfortable with someone is when I can loosen up and talk freely. One reason I tried daing sites was to meet women where I can get to know them 1st and then feel comfortable. Does anyone else have this problem?
Also, I have always believed there are alot of people out there who know how to "talk a good ballgame", meaning they are great converstaionalists, but somewhat devoid of intellect. Do you look for good converstaionalists, or is a shy intellectual type OK? You rarely see both these days...
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I'm not gonna lie, i'm certainly visual, i'm a guy. ( bundling us all into a single category ).
But a relationship based on looks alone never goes far.
But a relationship based on looks alone never goes far.
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Eupho: Intellectual compatibility ..
I don't know that I LOOK for it.. but it's what I am drawn too.
(mine might be low tho!)..
I don't know that I LOOK for it.. but it's what I am drawn too.
(mine might be low tho!)..
Oo who is this girl ^.. I like herrrr... I think I would have said the same thing..
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In other words do u look for a certain level of spiritual development and intellectual compatibility?