Is going to meet someone in another city after talking to them for one week on the phone to early (49)
kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 PostsMy daughter meet a guy on a different dating site who lives in another city about 4 hours from us. She has been talking online for a month and started phone conversations today. He wants her to come there this week end, do you think it is too soon to go to someone's home you just started to talk to in person.
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well I presume he will not actually be staying in her home?
In that case I think, no harm, just follow common sense rules we should all follow when meeting someone for the first time.
Meet in public place, make sure someone knows where you are and what time to expect you back etc,,,
In that case I think, no harm, just follow common sense rules we should all follow when meeting someone for the first time.
Meet in public place, make sure someone knows where you are and what time to expect you back etc,,,
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kitty01: My daughter meet a guy on a different dating site who lives in another city about 4 hours from us. She has been talking online for a month and started phone conversations today. He wants her to come there this week end, do you think it is too soon to go to someone's home you just started to talk to in person.
Kitty, it is hard to say. Does she have other friends in that town? It is not uncommon for the guy to come visit her. It is a safer situation, and I would not find it unusual at all that I would make the trip. Usually, I only made trips related to doing business somewhere, but 4 hours it not unrealistic to make a trip. I would say, usually the guy makes the trip first. Then if she feels comfortable, going to visit him makes sense.
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if he was a gent, he would travel to meet her not the other way around.
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I'm a leary one...but thats just me. I wish her the best tho..
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She is the one who wants to go there first as she does not want him to meet her children until later, and he lives in a basement apartment and his dad lives upstairs. She is getting a round trip ticket and has a cell phone but does not know anyone there.
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Sorry Kitty, as you can see I miss read, to be honest I wouldnt go to visit him, if he is interested he could come to visit me
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Yes unless you have realy checked this dude out I would have some real ??s and would do everything possible to keep her home and safe. First I belive he could be telling here anything and putting her in real danger and never let her go alone.
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vonney: Sorry Kitty, as you can see I miss read, to be honest I wouldnt go to visit him, if he is interested he could come to visit me
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hard to say
on the one hand i think after that amount of interaction
its good to see if there might be dating potential
get it out of the way before too much time passes
by the same token, he should come
but if he cant travel for some reason
she should stay in a motel that he doesnt know about
and like any first date
only be in public with him...
why should internet be different or less safe than other dating?
plus if its goofy she can just split
if he doesnt know where she sleeps or where her car is
she is better off-cabs are good-damage can be done w/ lic plate numbers
better overly cautious-right mom?
if hes offended-forget him
boundaries are healthy
on the one hand i think after that amount of interaction
its good to see if there might be dating potential
get it out of the way before too much time passes
by the same token, he should come
but if he cant travel for some reason
she should stay in a motel that he doesnt know about
and like any first date
only be in public with him...
why should internet be different or less safe than other dating?
plus if its goofy she can just split
if he doesnt know where she sleeps or where her car is
she is better off-cabs are good-damage can be done w/ lic plate numbers
better overly cautious-right mom?
if hes offended-forget him
boundaries are healthy
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Is not necessary for him to meet the children.cant he take a room somewhere and the two of them meet up just like any first date?and I dont mean in the room
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hi kitty ....
hi there well i think that he should come to her kitty ..xx
kitty01: She is the one who wants to go there first as she does not want him to meet her children until later, and he lives in a basement apartment and his dad lives upstairs. She is getting a round trip ticket and has a cell phone but does not know anyone there.
hi there well i think that he should come to her kitty ..xx
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He is on AISH and so is she so both of them do not have much money. It cost about 120.00 for a round trip. He could just afford the ticket, and he also.
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It would be more proper for the guy to come see the girl and at night he can rent a room while she is at home, I would have to say no way should she go.
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kitty thats whats been said about him
not what is known
and besides-if its too hard maybe thats a sign?
lets not be desperate
wait on the lord...?
i didnt realize she has children or intended an introduction?
i say no no no
not good for them or safe
no boundaries in any of it
a predator of any kind is absolutely looking for those that set no limits
and they drop immediately the ones who do set limits.
obviously not all online are predators but to varying degrees many are
and if a person is willing to throw caution to the wind
on self protection issues in the start of a relationship
the future doesnt look too bright for anyone...
i think is someone is ready to stretch strain and compromise so much
so early-that person needs to slow down and look at themselves.
its not healthy.
this is a stranger and that is desperation kinda huh?
kids are starting to think internet people arent strangers-
because of the way we act like they are friends...this is not good
and im sure its not going unnoticed by the bad guys
not what is known
and besides-if its too hard maybe thats a sign?
lets not be desperate
wait on the lord...?
i didnt realize she has children or intended an introduction?
i say no no no
not good for them or safe
no boundaries in any of it
a predator of any kind is absolutely looking for those that set no limits
and they drop immediately the ones who do set limits.
obviously not all online are predators but to varying degrees many are
and if a person is willing to throw caution to the wind
on self protection issues in the start of a relationship
the future doesnt look too bright for anyone...
i think is someone is ready to stretch strain and compromise so much
so early-that person needs to slow down and look at themselves.
its not healthy.
this is a stranger and that is desperation kinda huh?
kids are starting to think internet people arent strangers-
because of the way we act like they are friends...this is not good
and im sure its not going unnoticed by the bad guys
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I feel he should come here first also, but I was hoping if she read all the responses advising not to go there she would have second thoughts and be more careful. She tells me she is 25 and is an adult and can do what she wants.
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kitty01: I feel he should come here first also, but I was hoping if she read all the responses advising not to go there she would have second thoughts and be more careful. She tells me she is 25 and is an adult and can do what she wants.
An adult she may be but she is also a mother and it is her responsibilty not to put herself in a situation which could deprive her children of their mother.
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Why not meet halfway? And both stay in a hotel or B &B preferably seperately. I wouldn't be going to anyone's house (especially not to stay the night) unless i had met them in person first and spent a few hours in their company and saw for myself they were not a complete nutjob...
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vonney: An adult she may be but she is also a mother and it is her responsibilty not to put herself in a situation which could deprive her children of their mother.
What she said ^^^^^^^^
Hey Vonney
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Hi Kitty,
When I read your thread I had a mild anxiety attack. If it has only been a month since they met on line, IMHO, it is way too soon, of course I tend to be overly cautious in these types of situations.
You know your daughter better than any of us, but I would advise her to NOT stay with him & if she needed some extra money to stay at an inexpensive motel, I would give it to her.
Better safe than sorry.
When I read your thread I had a mild anxiety attack. If it has only been a month since they met on line, IMHO, it is way too soon, of course I tend to be overly cautious in these types of situations.
You know your daughter better than any of us, but I would advise her to NOT stay with him & if she needed some extra money to stay at an inexpensive motel, I would give it to her.
Better safe than sorry.
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