Do You Think You Could Spot A Diamond In The Rough? (18)
Lionhearted1967London, Ontario Canada143 Threads 10 Polls 9,887 PostsWe all have our idea of what we want in a mate as an all around person. Do you think you could see further into a person to see their true potential? Maybe they are a little screwed up from some things in their lives but have potential and just need someone to believe in them. Maybe they have their stuff together but could look better? Kind of like I guess, have you ever seen an overweight woman or man and see as they would be at the right weight, etc? Would you be one to polish that gem or pass it up because it isn't perfect and needed refining?
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Lionhearted1967: We all have our idea of what we want in a mate as an all around person. Do you think you could see further into a person to see their true potential? Maybe they are a little screwed up from some things in their lives but have potential and just need someone to believe in them. Maybe they have their stuff together but could look better? Kind of like I guess, have you ever seen an overweight woman or man and see as they would be at the right weight, etc? Would you be one to polish that gem or pass it up because it isn't perfect and needed refining?
We are all gems, no matter what size or how many flaws we have. We should appreciate all the gems for one gem cannot be like another even though they are similar. All gems compliment each other in some way.
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no
been down that road
chose those types i guess
eventually learned i had a habit of wanting to hang in
because i could see his potential
aso eventually figured out it was just another form of ego
i wanted to stay and endure and then in 10 yrs when he was a good man-all he could be-and we were happy somehow i was waiting cuz i wanted to take credit for that
a good friend said to me once-
as a rule of thumb
if you knew he was never going to be any different
than he is right now would you marry him today?
i find that helpful when the rlationship
reaches the crossroads of continue or part...
man that was good advice-
i mean it wasnt even the guys' fault-it was ME!
it reminds me of forgiving someones bad or uncaring (or worse)
behavior because you "understand" where it comes from
(their painful past or whatever)
even tho that seems like a victim mentality
there is ego involved there too-
lack of a healthy one that you deserve better
and a sick one that you can fix it by "being compassionate"
i may be harassed today for being cereral-or thoughtful in posting today but #1 i wont be here long today anyway-
and #2-its YOU who is asking such provocative questions
been down that road
chose those types i guess
eventually learned i had a habit of wanting to hang in
because i could see his potential
aso eventually figured out it was just another form of ego
i wanted to stay and endure and then in 10 yrs when he was a good man-all he could be-and we were happy somehow i was waiting cuz i wanted to take credit for that
a good friend said to me once-
as a rule of thumb
if you knew he was never going to be any different
than he is right now would you marry him today?
i find that helpful when the rlationship
reaches the crossroads of continue or part...
man that was good advice-
i mean it wasnt even the guys' fault-it was ME!
it reminds me of forgiving someones bad or uncaring (or worse)
behavior because you "understand" where it comes from
(their painful past or whatever)
even tho that seems like a victim mentality
there is ego involved there too-
lack of a healthy one that you deserve better
and a sick one that you can fix it by "being compassionate"
i may be harassed today for being cereral-or thoughtful in posting today but #1 i wont be here long today anyway-
and #2-its YOU who is asking such provocative questions
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I'm an expert, i know what good is, and i know what rough looks like, after all i only have to look in the mirror.
Good job i have a personality and a sense of humour, as i have a face like a chimps backside after its had the shingles.
Lifes tough on mingers
Good job i have a personality and a sense of humour, as i have a face like a chimps backside after its had the shingles.
Lifes tough on mingers
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Serenity1971: We are all gems, no matter what size or how many flaws we have. We should appreciate all the gems for one gem cannot be like another even though they are similar. All gems compliment each other in some way.
It's good to see you Lion
It's good to see you Lion
Good to see you too Serenity!..
That is true..all gems are unique in their own way, they are not always appreciated though. Some are dull on the outside as they are not yet refined but are very valuable on the inside. People look at them as a mere rock and they are taken for granted because they do not yet shine. It is only when they shine they get appreciated.
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That is what people (ladies) tell me!!! At my age you would think I would be polished and refined by now...
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mindfful: no
been down that road
chose those types i guess
eventually learned i had a habit of wanting to hang in
because i could see his potential
aso eventually figured out it was just another form of ego
i wanted to stay and endure and then in 10 yrs when he was a good man-all he could be-and we were happy somehow i was waiting cuz i wanted to take credit for that
a good friend said to me once-
as a rule of thumb
if you knew he was never going to be any different
than he is right now would you marry him today?
i find that helpful when the rlationship
reaches the crossroads of continue or part...
man that was good advice-
i mean it wasnt even the guys' fault-it was ME!
it reminds me of forgiving someones bad or uncaring (or worse)
behavior because you "understand" where it comes from
(their painful past or whatever)
even tho that seems like a victim mentality
there is ego involved there too-lack of a healthy one that you deserve better
and a sick one that you can fix it by "being compassionate"
i may be harassed today for being cereral-or thoughtful in posting today but #1 i wont be here long today anyway-
and #2-its YOU who is asking such provocative questions
been down that road
chose those types i guess
eventually learned i had a habit of wanting to hang in
because i could see his potential
aso eventually figured out it was just another form of ego
i wanted to stay and endure and then in 10 yrs when he was a good man-all he could be-and we were happy somehow i was waiting cuz i wanted to take credit for that
a good friend said to me once-
as a rule of thumb
if you knew he was never going to be any different
than he is right now would you marry him today?
i find that helpful when the rlationship
reaches the crossroads of continue or part...
man that was good advice-
i mean it wasnt even the guys' fault-it was ME!
it reminds me of forgiving someones bad or uncaring (or worse)
behavior because you "understand" where it comes from
(their painful past or whatever)
even tho that seems like a victim mentality
there is ego involved there too-lack of a healthy one that you deserve better
and a sick one that you can fix it by "being compassionate"
i may be harassed today for being cereral-or thoughtful in posting today but #1 i wont be here long today anyway-
and #2-its YOU who is asking such provocative questions
good question
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mindfful: no
been down that road
chose those types i guess
eventually learned i had a habit of wanting to hang in
because i could see his potential
aso eventually figured out it was just another form of ego
i wanted to stay and endure and then in 10 yrs when he was a good man-all he could be-and we were happy somehow i was waiting cuz i wanted to take credit for that
a good friend said to me once-
as a rule of thumb
if you knew he was never going to be any different
than he is right now would you marry him today?
i find that helpful when the rlationship
reaches the crossroads of continue or part...
man that was good advice-
i mean it wasnt even the guys' fault-it was ME!
it reminds me of forgiving someones bad or uncaring (or worse)
behavior because you "understand" where it comes from
(their painful past or whatever)
even tho that seems like a victim mentality
there is ego involved there too-
lack of a healthy one that you deserve better
and a sick one that you can fix it by "being compassionate"
i may be harassed today for being cereral-or thoughtful in posting today but #1 i wont be here long today anyway-
and #2-its YOU who is asking such provocative questions
been down that road
chose those types i guess
eventually learned i had a habit of wanting to hang in
because i could see his potential
aso eventually figured out it was just another form of ego
i wanted to stay and endure and then in 10 yrs when he was a good man-all he could be-and we were happy somehow i was waiting cuz i wanted to take credit for that
a good friend said to me once-
as a rule of thumb
if you knew he was never going to be any different
than he is right now would you marry him today?
i find that helpful when the rlationship
reaches the crossroads of continue or part...
man that was good advice-
i mean it wasnt even the guys' fault-it was ME!
it reminds me of forgiving someones bad or uncaring (or worse)
behavior because you "understand" where it comes from
(their painful past or whatever)
even tho that seems like a victim mentality
there is ego involved there too-
lack of a healthy one that you deserve better
and a sick one that you can fix it by "being compassionate"
i may be harassed today for being cereral-or thoughtful in posting today but #1 i wont be here long today anyway-
and #2-its YOU who is asking such provocative questions
thats a good idea to keep in mind...i've thought it many times, but nice to see it in words...
miss you mf
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hi hoooney!!!
((dragonfly))
robbie you are so full of it
you know youre hot
((dragonfly))
robbie you are so full of it
you know youre hot
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blue_eyed_blonde: thats a good idea to keep in mind...i've thought it many times, but nice to see it in words...
miss you mf
miss you mf
miss MEEE?!!
youre the one never here anymore
i 'preciate you too BEB
yeah my best friend told e that a few years ago
its been really helpful for me
ive been insane previously
as in not sane like i am now
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Hell, I couldn't spot a ton of bituminous coal....let alone a diamond in the rough. 
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Take Me As I Am (Or Let Me Go)
Bob Dylan/Boudleaux Bryant
May 1969
SELF PORTRAIT
Why must you always try to make me over
Take me as i am or let me go
White lilies never grow on stalks of clover
Take me as i am or let me go.
You're tryin' to reshape me in a mold love
In the image of someone you used to know
But i won't be a-standin' for an old love
Take me as i am or let me go.
You tried to change me ever since you've met me
Take me as i am or let me go
If you can't overlook my faults, forget me
Take me as i am or let me go.
You're tryin' to reshape me in a mold love
In the image of someone you used to know
But i won't be a-standin' for an old love
Take me as i am or let me go.
Bob Dylan/Boudleaux Bryant
May 1969
SELF PORTRAIT
Why must you always try to make me over
Take me as i am or let me go
White lilies never grow on stalks of clover
Take me as i am or let me go.
You're tryin' to reshape me in a mold love
In the image of someone you used to know
But i won't be a-standin' for an old love
Take me as i am or let me go.
You tried to change me ever since you've met me
Take me as i am or let me go
If you can't overlook my faults, forget me
Take me as i am or let me go.
You're tryin' to reshape me in a mold love
In the image of someone you used to know
But i won't be a-standin' for an old love
Take me as i am or let me go.
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Lionhearted1967: We all have our idea of what we want in a mate as an all around person. Do you think you could see further into a person to see their true potential? Maybe they are a little screwed up from some things in their lives but have potential and just need someone to believe in them. Maybe they have their stuff together but could look better? Kind of like I guess, have you ever seen an overweight woman or man and see as they would be at the right weight, etc? Would you be one to polish that gem or pass it up because it isn't perfect and needed refining?
Sounds like a description of the 'Be an Interior Decorator!' ads. I've always thought that those who seek to make others over are just that...What if the ad said 'Be an Interior!' would that be a new concept of 'method acting' perhaps...%)
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patrickthomas: Exactly, true worth shines through. A person can be rough in their ways but not in their soul, just as a holier than thou can be a cruel and malicious. What people present on the exterior is usually very shallow and easy to see through.
.... dunno... I think most 'negative' behaviour is symtomatic of fear or insecurity... (with the exception of a few malignant or machevelian people).... I also agree that 'holier than thou people' can be quiet awful... primarily because often these people can have little empathy and can be quick to judge.. .however.. sometimes what you see is what you get.. however.. rarely are these special people one dimensional...
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Aries01: .... dunno... I think most 'negative' behaviour is symtomatic of fear or insecurity... (with the exception of a few malignant or machevelian people).... I also agree that 'holier than thou people' can be quiet awful... primarily because often these people can have little empathy and can be quick to judge.. .however.. sometimes what you see is what you get.. however.. rarely are these special people one dimensional...
To think that there is good in everyone is a fatal mistake, there are people who are bad, and I mean real bad, this may be defined by professionals as mad but when the two are combined, watch out!
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patrickthomas: To think that there is good in everyone is a fatal mistake, there are people who are bad, and I mean real bad, this may be defined by professionals as mad but when the two are combined, watch out!
I know there are truly bad people.... I have seen it.... u normally see it in their eyes.. and they have an aura that would make ur blood curdle... it is more rare than people think though... people do all sorts of things.. which are 'wrong' or 'not right' for various reasons.. including mental illness.. what concerns me though is this lack of trust which pervades our society.... things really aren't as bad as they seem... if we exercised more compassion, forgiving and exercised less judgment.. we would be surprised what we might find... JMV... I know its not a common one...
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patrickthomas: Exactly, true worth shines through. A person can be rough in their ways but not in their soul, just as a holier than thou can be a cruel and malicious. What people present on the exterior is usually very shallow and easy to see through.
True worth is quite visible in that there is congruency, grace, intelligence, finesse; more often than not there is a certain elusive humbleness to such diamonds in the rough. Sometimes the diamond himself or herself is aware of his/her own worth but by nature are and remain humble; they shy away from being polished and undestandably so in a way; they remain in the rough by chance sometimes by choice. Very interesting topic
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constanza: True worth is quite visible in that there is congruency, grace, intelligence, finesse; more often than not there is a certain elusive humbleness to such diamonds in the rough. Sometimes the diamond himself or herself is aware of his/her own worth but by nature are and remain humble; they shy away from being polished and undestandably so in a way; they remain in the rough by chance sometimes by choice. Very interesting topic
Ok, badly drawn girl, got me thinking
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