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About rules we have all been taught them all our lives, that is the reason for punishment by parents, to learn to abide by rules. Normal parents , not the abusive ones.
Anyway, normal parents occassionally let things slide by, so to enjoy a little fun. To enjoy life, is to let somethings go without acting like the police all the time.
CS is like a family, sometimes we have to correct someone who is way out of line, but the rest of the time we should enjoy communicating with others and having a little fun.
Anyway, normal parents occassionally let things slide by, so to enjoy a little fun. To enjoy life, is to let somethings go without acting like the police all the time.
CS is like a family, sometimes we have to correct someone who is way out of line, but the rest of the time we should enjoy communicating with others and having a little fun.
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once i had to be in a country where a dictator ruled
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
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weenig: i think it would be a good idea to stop smoking pot first .clear your mind and start to think about things a little more clearly
im soooo glad someone has shown up to replace alex as the biggest bunion on the toe of CS
yes this is of course just my opinion
but i am starting to think you are the father of another know it all gentleman...he's young there is still hope for him
i wonder if it really is more peaceful to know all??
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alex_192: once i had to be in a country where a dictator ruled
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
well if you don't start using the flippin emoticons/smiley faces I may shoot you..
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alex_192: once i had to be in a country where a dictator ruled
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
get giggy with it!!
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alex_192: once i had to be in a country where a dictator ruled
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
at some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
You have shown you can have a great sense of humour...so just be yourself and don't worry about the rest!!!!!!!!
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Hugz_n_Kissez: It's fine for you to adhere to the rules...if others choose to bend or break them...that's up to them...let them deal with the consequences....they don't need to be pointed out or reminded....because we are all adults here...so just let them do their thing.....
point taken
then let me ask another question
why will bother people i adhere to thje rules
as for example, i dont recall any rule regarding to how old a thread is, to be able to post
i have seen a lots of complains i posted in old threads, and as i am almost not posting only reading the threads i come to realize the same people are also posting in old threads
then when it comes to "complains" if i decided to report those post, i will be only one person reporting
but whe the rest star reposrting, they weill be a large number of members reporting me
the mods are not the police and they do not get involved, they just take in acount the number of complains agains one member
again i might have all the town of sarasota gaisnt me, for driving at the speed limit, but no one can go to the police to complain, in real life they know they have no right to complain
why is the diference in folowing the rules on dating sites and real life?
whould it be the same, or as we are unable to see the other one it shuold be diferent?
again, no complains here, just trying to undertand
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alex_192: once i had to be in a country where a dictator ruledat some point, i was taken in coustudy
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
i was order to sign a paper
i had no rights but my dignity and morals were intact
i look at the officer
i stud up and said
"i am not signing it, yu can shoot me if you want, i am leaving"
and i walked away
that was more than 25 years ago
all my life i knew what to do, only in this internet dating world things seems to change avery minute acording to the mood of some stanges facts
Ok, here goes, last time. This is not a dictatorship country. The mods are not going to chop off anyone's hands for breaking rules. Some people get punished for it, cause it's blatent or hurtful. Other things are harmless and fun. If you can't tell the difference, I really can't explain it to you any further.
A lot of us have the attitude that you did with that officer. You stood up to not signing something you didn't believe in. Now you're the one acting like that officer, trying to force the rules down everyone's throats all the time. We're not signing on just cause you say so.
We don't care if you wanna follow every rule to the letter. As long as you don't care if we don't, we won't have any problem.
This ain't life and death here, but there are some things that can be ignored. You really oughta try it.
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alex you clearly want to stay focused on your opinion
and annoyance from this-you keep defending your response
so be here and be miserable
thats your choice
we always have a choice
what are you choosing? you choose to try every way you can think of to get people at CS to change
you get frustrated
you try to be an example
you defend yourself
you try to "reason" with members
you explain whyyy
and ask why
its not helping us or you get to know each other
if we are trying to change people we will not get to know and appreciate them--i hope you can come to peace about this.
mylife good morning
i think there is nowhere near the group chastening here
when people are unkind and worse
as there once was-
it was a good system
those willing to stand up, guide newbies and hold up other net and forum traditions (online not just at this site) arent here anymore
for many varied reasons
so we can be here or not
it is what it is
and if there was anyplace we would rather be im sure we would be there
and annoyance from this-you keep defending your response
so be here and be miserable
thats your choice
we always have a choice
what are you choosing? you choose to try every way you can think of to get people at CS to change
you get frustrated
you try to be an example
you defend yourself
you try to "reason" with members
you explain whyyy
and ask why
its not helping us or you get to know each other
if we are trying to change people we will not get to know and appreciate them--i hope you can come to peace about this.
mylife good morning
i think there is nowhere near the group chastening here
when people are unkind and worse
as there once was-
it was a good system
those willing to stand up, guide newbies and hold up other net and forum traditions (online not just at this site) arent here anymore
for many varied reasons
so we can be here or not
it is what it is
and if there was anyplace we would rather be im sure we would be there
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Go with the flow alex.
Stop trying to swim upstream,
you'll be ok
Stop trying to swim upstream,
you'll be ok
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I guess more or less people DO try to follow rules .. except few who might outright deny them and even get punished for the same.
But other times .. slowly being here for a while you realise people are close knit here are different levels , so it takes the shape of a little more relaxed ,comfortable atmosphere and rules are bent here and there.
I am sure very very few would do it for the sake of " breaking the rules" per se.
Hmm .. Alex in your situation , sometimes i think you need to take the time to understand what the other person is saying ( and for them to grasp what you are saying ) , think if its worth replying or if you both are saying the same thing or there is a place for argument.
Then put forth your argument , discuss or debate and leave it at a point .. i.e. having made your point.
I hope this helps.
But other times .. slowly being here for a while you realise people are close knit here are different levels , so it takes the shape of a little more relaxed ,comfortable atmosphere and rules are bent here and there.
I am sure very very few would do it for the sake of " breaking the rules" per se.
Hmm .. Alex in your situation , sometimes i think you need to take the time to understand what the other person is saying ( and for them to grasp what you are saying ) , think if its worth replying or if you both are saying the same thing or there is a place for argument.
Then put forth your argument , discuss or debate and leave it at a point .. i.e. having made your point.
I hope this helps.
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mylifewithu: About rules we have all been taught them all our lives, that is the reason for punishment by parents, to learn to abide by rules. Normal parents , not the abusive ones.
Anyway, normal parents occassionally let things slide by, so to enjoy a little fun. To enjoy life, is to let somethings go without acting like the police all the time.
CS is like a family, sometimes we have to correct someone who is way out of line, but the rest of the time we should enjoy communicating with others and having a little fun.
Anyway, normal parents occassionally let things slide by, so to enjoy a little fun. To enjoy life, is to let somethings go without acting like the police all the time.
CS is like a family, sometimes we have to correct someone who is way out of line, but the rest of the time we should enjoy communicating with others and having a little fun.
the analogy is a good one
but again, it is the parents to decide whether to punish or not for breaking the rules
but in real life
have you ever seen a kid complaining his brother always folows the rules and ask the parent to punish him?
have you ever seen in real life a parent that ask the kids to bend the rules if he wants to be part f the family?
a great analogy, and if will be great if it was a real one
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alex_192: point taken
then let me ask another question
why will bother people i adhere to thje rules
as for example, i dont recall any rule regarding to how old a thread is, to be able to post
i have seen a lots of complains i posted in old threads, and as i am almost not posting only reading the threads i come to realize the same people are also posting in old threads
then when it comes to "complains" if i decided to report those post, i will be only one person reporting
but whe the rest star reposrting, they weill be a large number of members reporting me
the mods are not the police and they do not get involved, they just take in acount the number of complains agains one member
again i might have all the town of sarasota gaisnt me, for driving at the speed limit, but no one can go to the police to complain, in real life they know they have no right to complain
why is the diference in folowing the rules on dating sites and real life?
whould it be the same, or as we are unable to see the other one it shuold be diferent?
again, no complains here, just trying to undertand
then let me ask another question
why will bother people i adhere to thje rules
as for example, i dont recall any rule regarding to how old a thread is, to be able to post
i have seen a lots of complains i posted in old threads, and as i am almost not posting only reading the threads i come to realize the same people are also posting in old threads
then when it comes to "complains" if i decided to report those post, i will be only one person reporting
but whe the rest star reposrting, they weill be a large number of members reporting me
the mods are not the police and they do not get involved, they just take in acount the number of complains agains one member
again i might have all the town of sarasota gaisnt me, for driving at the speed limit, but no one can go to the police to complain, in real life they know they have no right to complain
why is the diference in folowing the rules on dating sites and real life?
whould it be the same, or as we are unable to see the other one it shuold be diferent?
again, no complains here, just trying to undertand
Did you ever see the movie "the Dream Team"? There's a part in it where Christopher Lloyd goes around picking up trash off the streets-his goal is to clean up the world.
Kinda the same concept, best to let your thoughts go to happier places and leave the questions unanswered. Unanswered questions are God's way of saying we will NEVER know it all
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alex_192: point taken
then let me ask another question
why will bother people i adhere to thje rules
as for example, i dont recall any rule regarding to how old a thread is, to be able to post
i have seen a lots of complains i posted in old threads, and as i am almost not posting only reading the threads i come to realize the same people are also posting in old threads
then when it comes to "complains" if i decided to report those post, i will be only one person reporting
but whe the rest star reposrting, they weill be a large number of members reporting me
the mods are not the police and they do not get involved, they just take in acount the number of complains agains one member
again i might have all the town of sarasota gaisnt me, for driving at the speed limit, but no one can go to the police to complain, in real life they know they have no right to complain
why is the diference in folowing the rules on dating sites and real life?
whould it be the same, or as we are unable to see the other one it shuold be diferent?
again, no complains here, just trying to undertand
then let me ask another question
why will bother people i adhere to thje rules
as for example, i dont recall any rule regarding to how old a thread is, to be able to post
i have seen a lots of complains i posted in old threads, and as i am almost not posting only reading the threads i come to realize the same people are also posting in old threads
then when it comes to "complains" if i decided to report those post, i will be only one person reporting
but whe the rest star reposrting, they weill be a large number of members reporting me
the mods are not the police and they do not get involved, they just take in acount the number of complains agains one member
again i might have all the town of sarasota gaisnt me, for driving at the speed limit, but no one can go to the police to complain, in real life they know they have no right to complain
why is the diference in folowing the rules on dating sites and real life?
whould it be the same, or as we are unable to see the other one it shuold be diferent?
again, no complains here, just trying to undertand
There is no rule against that...but also...things done in moderation...are always good...too much of one thing is never a good thing!!!!!!!!! I like the old threads myself...but it's always nice to have a mix!!!!!!!
So again...be you and who you are....and think less is more!!!!!!!!!!
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alex_192: the analogy is a good one
but again, it is the parents to decide whether to punish or not for breaking the rules
but in real life
have you ever seen a kid complaining his brother always folows the rules and ask the parent to punish him?
have you ever seen in real life a parent that ask the kids to bend the rules if he wants to be part f the family?
a great analogy, and if will be great if it was a real one
but again, it is the parents to decide whether to punish or not for breaking the rules
but in real life
have you ever seen a kid complaining his brother always folows the rules and ask the parent to punish him?
have you ever seen in real life a parent that ask the kids to bend the rules if he wants to be part f the family?
a great analogy, and if will be great if it was a real one
yes i have seen that
so whaat?
just make a decision
what will alex do?
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bodleing: Go with the flow alex.
Stop trying to swim upstream,
you'll be ok
Stop trying to swim upstream,
you'll be ok
awww
a babushka
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mylife good morning
Good Morning Mindful, I hope you are doing well today
Ooops I broke a rule and said something off topic, So shoot me!!
Good Morning Mindful, I hope you are doing well today
Ooops I broke a rule and said something off topic, So shoot me!!
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mindfful:
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is it just me or does al need to be restrained?
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is it just me or does al need to be restrained?
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oddly enough I'm starting to see his point as it unfolds...
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i must not be way off
i see a few others saying the same thing
you are clearly not willing to change your habit as you call it
if you dont understand that all relationships are different
such as work and dating
you have little hope my friend
you want the world to be different but you are not willing to be different
that isnt attractive-at all
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and oh claayer shutUP
just cuz i 'get it' dont mean i can walk it out
alex relax or leave-if you can only be frustrated here what is the point? i say this with kindness because you will not change CS
or the behavior of other people-ever-at work or at home-you can only change your responses...