shipoker55: as a carpenter, you learn to finish one project before starting another!! If you are not SINGLE....you are not SINGLE. End of story!
Yup, and don't waste my time trying to convince me otherwise. I've come across a few guys who try to put me down for not wanting to get involved because they are "separated" but I'm thinking - WHY can't you follow through and end it???????
If they are married, as far as I'm concerned they are not available. If they are separated, I don't want to get involved. If they are divorced, I am very reluctant to start a relationship. Single or widowed, no problem.
alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
Divorced, prefrerably for more than a few months.
Widowed, def more than a few months, probably more like a year or two.
Some people don't give themselves enough time to heal, and I'm not a bandaid.
Married, nope, nada, never, ain't changing my mind about that so don't try. Separated, see me when it's over, really over, and then take a few months off.
I'm emotionally available, expect my partner to be also. Is that too much to ask?
alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
friendsfirst: I ask if they are legally separated.
Legally separated doesn't mean schit in my book. They need to be completely divorced, no entanglements left, as little contact with the ex as possible. Any ongoing relationship with an ex puts them off-limits for me. Don't need the drama.
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If they say separated.... depends on how long and are they really separated.....
Divorced or single, widowed, if some one was interested.... yes I would not have a problem dating....
(depends on other factors as well, but...I wondered because I have seen ladies go after a guy that is married, or with someone)