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polyamory vs monogamy (40)

Sep 21, 2008 7:20 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
ekspain
ekspainekspainvalladolid, Castille and Leon Spain2 Threads 49 Posts
I've recently been reading Osho's "being in love", and he makes an interesting point for polyamory, and promoting the idea of extra-marital affairs- being good for a relationship. While I see a certain logic in his reasoning, I personally can't envision the idea for myself- well not that I'm married, or ever have been- I even find it slightly disturbing. Perhaps its my own insecurity that can't allow me to accept the idea. For me, if a loved one were to love another man, I'd go a bit crazy with jealousy, and I'd probably end it right there- and be depressed for months.
Are there any thoughts on the idea? If anybody is unfamiliar with Osho, google him, and polyamory- (I may be spelling that incorrectly)
My current partner thinks its possible to be in-love with 2 people simultaneously. I personally don't believe that to be possible.

by the way, hope everyone had a nice summer!
Sep 21, 2008 7:27 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
markizamkd25
markizamkd25markizamkd25Skive, Central Jutland Denmark276 Threads 5 Polls 6,664 Posts
Ive been reading Osho not that book but others and thats the only thing i cant agree with him scold i dont like it
Sep 21, 2008 7:32 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
ekspain
ekspainekspainvalladolid, Castille and Leon Spain2 Threads 49 Posts
yes I agree... but the question is why? I ask myself, and the only thing i can come up with, is fear.
Sep 21, 2008 7:39 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
markizamkd25
markizamkd25markizamkd25Skive, Central Jutland Denmark276 Threads 5 Polls 6,664 Posts
Ok this will be hard for me in English.

In one of his books he says that body is only house of soul and that u have to offer your house(body) to everyone that has need for it but ur centar will stay connected with centar of other person or ur soulmate,thay r not connected from his view.
Sep 22, 2008 1:43 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
no1brightongirl
no1brightongirlno1brightongirlbrighton, East Sussex, England UK15 Threads 286 Posts
dont think you can be in love with two people at the same time and you would always really have a favourite
Sep 22, 2008 2:22 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
lisalee1960
lisalee1960lisalee1960st pauls, Majjistral Malta9 Threads 260 Posts
three is always a crowd and no it doesnt work
Sep 22, 2008 2:24 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
Lagoona22
Lagoona22Lagoona22Bugibba, Majjistral Malta249 Threads 28 Polls 18,518 Posts
I think monogamy is indigenous to homo sapien..where you find the emotions of love and connection, you will also find possession and jealousy...and hurt..

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Sep 22, 2008 11:06 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
smoky
smokysmokyUnterland, Zurich Switzerland300 Threads 6 Polls 13,267 Posts
markizamkd25: Ok this will be hard for me in English.

In one of his books he says that body is only house of soul and that u have to offer your house(body) to everyone that has need for it but ur centar will stay connected with centar of other person or ur soulmate,thay r not connected from his view.


Any idiot can write a book, and some people believe what they read - like the "written word" is gospel.

I like to take things to the extreme to test them .... so just imagine this scenario.........

"My body is just the house of my soul" says your love partner "tis not ME, the Real Me only lives inside this house, and now and again I invite strangers to come inside and visit - but they dont live here, they just pop in now and again, mostly when you not home anyway, and we have some fun together, no harm done to the house, they very well behaved". "No darlin`, not tonight, I had visitors today and I`m tired now .... Go see if you can be accomodated by Lilly next door? and if she`s entertaining already, then try Mavis down the road?"

Then ...... your daughter needs some extra money to buy something ..... and she uses her body to raise the cash. Well, its not like she did anything wrong - she only rented out her "house" for a few moments -not her Real Inner Self. Being young and inexperienced she may make a few mistakes in choosing her visitors, and then find she got left with a few "reminders" of their visit. But that should be okay too, cause it was for a good cause .... "someone had need of her vacant `house` and like any good hostess she willingly let them in, whats a few virus`s or STD`s between friends? ... she can share them around with all the other visitors who can share them with other charitable and hospitable "house" owners....... `

Of course, the natural spin-off comes when a new baby is due in the household - as long as its not an issue who the actual father is, then surely there can be no harm done? After all, the babys soul is more important than its body or genetic inheritance?

So, we must come to the conclusion that the words "Adultery", "Whore", "Prostitute", "Pimp", "Paedophile", "Rape", "s*xual Voyeur", "Swingers", etc etc, are Non Words and can and should be scrapped from general vocabulary. There is no such behaviour. All s*xual penetration should be sanctioned irrespective of the Who, When, How, What, Age or Circumstances of the "Hospitality Group/Couple"?

I`m writing a Book - I hope you all buy it, and believe every word I write? Then you can all join my New Religion, and Worship me!grin
Sep 22, 2008 11:16 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
Lagoona22
Lagoona22Lagoona22Bugibba, Majjistral Malta249 Threads 28 Polls 18,518 Posts
I would like to coin a new term here, gleaned from all of this wise stuff here...."Polyamorous"....being the scientific term for a flirt with a hard-on....

Monogamy, meaning sex with short people....or would that be polypygmy.....??

Oh well, trying to stay just a whiff this side of politically incorrect...

Yours truly,
Lagonnabotomy,

confused
Sep 22, 2008 11:17 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
markizamkd25
markizamkd25markizamkd25Skive, Central Jutland Denmark276 Threads 5 Polls 6,664 Posts
smoky: Any idiot can write a book, and some people believe what they read - like the "written word" is gospel.

I like to take things to the extreme to test them .... so just imagine this scenario.........

"My body is just the house of my soul" says your love partner "tis not ME, the Real Me only lives inside this house, and now and again I invite strangers to come inside and visit - but they dont live here, they just pop in now and again, mostly when you not home anyway, and we have some fun together, no harm done to the house, they very well behaved". "No darlin`, not tonight, I had visitors today and I`m tired now .... Go see if you can be accomodated by Lilly next door? and if she`s entertaining already, then try Mavis down the road?"

Then ...... your daughter needs some extra money to buy something ..... and she uses her body to raise the cash. Well, its not like she did anything wrong - she only rented out her "house" for a few moments -not her Real Inner Self. Being young and inexperienced she may make a few mistakes in choosing her visitors, and then find she got left with a few "reminders" of their visit. But that should be okay too, cause it was for a good cause .... "someone had need of her vacant `house` and like any good hostess she willingly let them in, whats a few virus`s or STD`s between friends? ... she can share them around with all the other visitors who can share them with other charitable and hospitable "house" owners....... `

Of course, the natural spin-off comes when a new baby is due in the household - as long as its not an issue who the actual father is, then surely there can be no harm done? After all, the babys soul is more important than its body or genetic inheritance?

So, we must come to the conclusion that the words "Adultery", "Whore", "Prostitute", "Pimp", "Paedophile", "Rape", "s*xual Voyeur", "Swingers", etc etc, are Non Words and can and should be scrapped from general vocabulary. There is no such behaviour. All s*xual penetration should be sanctioned irrespective of the Who, When, How, What, Age or Circumstances of the "Hospitality Group/Couple"?

I`m writing a Book - I hope you all buy it, and believe every word I write? Then you can all join my New Religion, and Worship me!
Exactly Smoky-----i want to keep my house cleanlaugh laugh anyway Osho is one of greatests philosophers of new age but that doesent mean we agree with him
Sep 22, 2008 11:49 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
kamelia
kameliakameliaNegotino, Macedonia16 Threads 2 Polls 704 Posts
In theory, even if you love two people at the same time, you will still unconsciously prefer the one over the other. So polygamy is not only being unfair to your partner, but being dishonest to yourself as well.
Sep 22, 2008 4:19 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
ekspain
ekspainekspainvalladolid, Castille and Leon Spain2 Threads 49 Posts
Lagoona22: I would like to coin a new term here, gleaned from all of this wise stuff here...."Polyamorous"....being the scientific term for a flirt with a hard-on....

Monogamy, meaning sex with short people....or would that be polypygmy.....??

Oh well, trying to stay just a whiff this side of politically incorrect...

Yours truly,
Lagonnabotomy,
:


rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Sep 22, 2008 4:25 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
gongman
gongmangongmanCarcassone, Occitanie France35 Threads 2 Polls 698 Posts
I only have one breakfast tray anyway. grin
Sep 22, 2008 5:01 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
pat123
pat123pat123london, Greater London, England UK8 Threads 124 Posts
kamelia, a brilliant reply
Sep 22, 2008 6:00 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
CuspofMagic
CuspofMagicCuspofMagiclight, South Australia Australia320 Threads 2 Polls 10,696 Posts
pat123: kamelia, a brilliant reply


---Just love "nutshells"
Sep 22, 2008 8:44 PM CST polyamory vs monogamy
AdriansonCrusoe
AdriansonCrusoeAdriansonCrusoeMadrid, Spain3 Threads 24 Posts
kamelia: So polygamy is not only being unfair to your partner, but being dishonest to yourself as well.


Polyamory is not poligamy. See Wikipedia.
Sep 23, 2008 5:09 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
Written by a Great New Age Philosopher?
The Term "Charlatan" comes to mind.uh oh dunno mumbling
Oct 26, 2008 9:52 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
Glennage
GlennageGlennageMarsaskala, Xlokk Malta5 Posts
Polygamy is pandemic. It is necessary for the spread of genes, the maintenance of genetic health and the continued development of the species. Love doesn't come into it. All love is, is an emotional response to good genetic matching - we try to ringfence what we consider (whether consciously or unconsciously) to be a good genetic match. Beautiful, intelligent, handsome, muscular or proportionately fit: these are signs that these people would be good to mate with, because they would produce strong offspring. It is no more complicated than that.

That we choose to try to 'keep' such matches is egotistical in the case of males, and in the case of the female of the species, related to security.
Oct 26, 2008 10:07 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
guiriman
guirimanguirimansouth of milan, Lombardy Italy66 Threads 6 Polls 2,964 Posts
Glennage: Polygamy is pandemic. It is necessary for the spread of genes, the maintenance of genetic health and the continued development of the species. Love doesn't come into it. All love is, is an emotional response to good genetic matching - we try to ringfence what we consider (whether consciously or unconsciously) to be a good genetic match. Beautiful, intelligent, handsome, muscular or proportionately fit: these are signs that these people would be good to mate with, because they would produce strong offspring. It is no more complicated than that.

That we choose to try to 'keep' such matches is egotistical in the case of males, and in the case of the female of the species, related to security.


very interesting, Glennage. why is polygamy necessary for the spread of genes? What is your reasoning? Do you mean that if a woman has sex with more than one man, there is more chance she will become pregnant? Perhaps you mean that a woman should have children by different fathers so that the gene pool is as diverse as possible? popcorn
Oct 26, 2008 10:25 AM CST polyamory vs monogamy
rusty_knight
rusty_knightrusty_knightGozo, Malta254 Threads 4 Polls 10,684 Posts
guiriman: very interesting, Glennage. why is polygamy necessary for the spread of genes? What is your reasoning? Do you mean that if a woman has sex with more than one man, there is more chance she will become pregnant? Perhaps you mean that a woman should have children by different fathers so that the gene pool is as diverse as possible?


Monogamy is,in my view equal to cowardice!

I am a natural born coward............

I'm happy with what I've got, so why risk losing it?

Like the young man earlier who posted I'd not feel 'over the moon' if I knew my partner was having s*xual intercourse with another guy - and, I hope, vice versa.

I don't know why - that's just the way it is.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

I'm happy with what I've got.

I do not wish to 'rock the boat' or have my little canoe sunk without trace.......... ENDEX!

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