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Oct 25, 2008 1:55 AM CST Frustrations...?
BarrenPneuma
BarrenPneumaBarrenPneumaGolden Staircase, Ontario Canada121 Threads 4 Polls 2,496 Posts
Do the inherent obstacles of distance keep you separated from the one to whom you know your heart would indelibly be drawn had circumstances of distance not intervened to create seemingly inseparable gulfs?
Are there persons here to whom you would divulge your desires if their profiles were more accepting of contact?
Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?
Do some people cause you to feel less than worthy through no actions of their own other than their presence?

How do you overcome such barriers?
Do you even consider the attempt to overcome these barriers?

I am just curious as to how those of us who are here for the forums and friends only could be negatively impacting the search for Love that is the ultimate purpose of this site.
Personally I see those who are happily engaged in relations, fulfilling enough to allow them to maintain some sembance of presence here, as an educational experience and testament to the grace of Love which most seek. Do others see committed people as a deterent or hindrance much like a single's club filled with married couples?

Just curious, and hopefully not offensive in any way as I value all contributions to these forums from all person's single, looking, married or just taking a break from the rigors of Love's complicated game.hug bouquet
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Oct 25, 2008 1:58 AM CST Frustrations...?
gypsykisses
gypsykissesgypsykissesPort Huron, Michigan USA9 Threads 1 Polls 3,242 Posts
patience is a virtue....however some do not have the patience for the long haul-which makes me wonder

if they even had the patience for the real life long haul.
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Oct 25, 2008 6:37 AM CST Frustrations...?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
BarrenPneuma: Do the inherent obstacles of distance keep you separated from the one to whom you know your heart would indelibly be drawn had circumstances of distance not intervened to create seemingly inseparable gulfs?
Are there persons here to whom you would divulge your desires if their profiles were more accepting of contact?
Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?
Do some people cause you to feel less than worthy through no actions of their own other than their presence?

How do you overcome such barriers?
Do you even consider the attempt to overcome these barriers?

I am just curious as to how those of us who are here for the forums and friends only could be negatively impacting the search for Love that is the ultimate purpose of this site.
Personally I see those who are happily engaged in relations, fulfilling enough to allow them to maintain some sembance of presence here, as an educational experience and testament to the grace of Love which most seek. Do others see committed people as a deterent or hindrance much like a single's club filled with married couples?

Just curious, and hopefully not offensive in any way as I value all contributions to these forums from all person's single, looking, married or just taking a break from the rigors of Love's complicated game.



My dear Barren...

Good questions.

Distance would not keep me from a person who I knew had caught me with his rod... It would be more time as opposed to distance..

I changed my profile, because my 'looking for' was like a shopping list and I thought it was awful to read, so I changed it. To 'not really looking for anything' I was feeling negative about the whole place...

Because I know what I am looking for and I know when I will see it and feel it.


Yes, there are two people here that I would divulge my desires to, and they know who they are, and if they do not then they get a kick up the a**...


Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?


If a person is not seeking and I am drawn to them, I would not force myself on them...

I believe that something of thi nature would happen if it was going to happen... Some things happen naturally, and people drop into love without realising it...

I think it is good that people who are involved in the heady game of love are here, I think it gives off a nice atmosphere, certainly welcoming to people who are looking to join the forums...

So cetainly not a hindrance, all of those lovely people who are happily involved...
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Oct 25, 2008 6:53 AM CST Frustrations...?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
BarrenPneuma: Do the inherent obstacles of distance keep you separated from the one to whom you know your heart would indelibly be drawn had circumstances of distance not intervened to create seemingly inseparable gulfs?
Are there persons here to whom you would divulge your desires if their profiles were more accepting of contact?
Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?
Do some people cause you to feel less than worthy through no actions of their own other than their presence?

How do you overcome such barriers?
Do you even consider the attempt to overcome these barriers?

I am just curious as to how those of us who are here for the forums and friends only could be negatively impacting the search for Love that is the ultimate purpose of this site.
Personally I see those who are happily engaged in relations, fulfilling enough to allow them to maintain some sembance of presence here, as an educational experience and testament to the grace of Love which most seek. Do others see committed people as a deterent or hindrance much like a single's club filled with married couples?

Just curious, and hopefully not offensive in any way as I value all contributions to these forums from all person's single, looking, married or just taking a break from the rigors of Love's complicated game.



While I can be intellectual and wax poetic... at the core of me is a very physical being... I purr under the right caress and arch my back for more... so yes, distance is a huge obstacle for me. There are a couple of men who I find intriguing and would love the opportunity to meet but the reality is that while I enjoy the passionate words and mental intrigue... without the physical act of touching and being held... it soon loses the magic it may have started with.

If someone has a barrier it is for them to lower, not for me.... and I love the input that people in a happy relationship give to this site... it gives us all a bit of hope.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:01 AM CST Frustrations...?
PietroPaoloV
PietroPaoloVPietroPaoloVGöteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden113 Threads 5 Polls 1,509 Posts
A woman I spent years with, not feeling very well within herself. It’s a long story which I will not go into much detail here. To give an idea, as a child she had been sexually abused by some close family, was recently out of an abusive relationship, had a brother who was one of the most notorious criminals in our city, he spent more time in jail than out, they had a father who sometimes simply disappeared, for months at a stretch, leaving wife behind to struggle with debts which he had accumulated, and there was an alcoholic uncle, only other family here, going blind. As a result, she was in a severely depressed state, which she hid very well, at first.

Rather, I guess when the two of us met, it made her feel much better, she became delirious and managed to hold back the depression. Love can be a medical blocker.

When you fall for someone, none of these stories matter, none of this luggage is important when it comes to whether you’ll remain or run. You don’t run.
She was a beautiful woman, a beautiful person, an amazing heart, and one of the strongest human beings I have ever had the honor of meeting. If you met her, you would think that she was the happiest person alive. You could never tell what had happened in her life, I didn’t see a single hint, any sign, hear a word that would distract the complete happiness we shared the first 5-6 months. And then, I did. But I was hooked, I was madly, deeply, as they say, I was hers. Infatuation is a powerful gift of the gods.

But, as mentioned, the honeymoon ended and she, no matter how hard she tried, couldn’t keep the depression at bay anymore. And it would grow, become a downward spiral. She would get depressed, often lock herself up in her own world of chaos. She tried to commit suicide several times, didn’t know, herself, exactly why, other than that she was feeling as someone at the end of a bottomless pit, no matter how much love she would receive, or in fact, this would worsen things. Sometimes she would allow me in, sometimes cry on my shoulder, then cry even more because of the expressed feeling she had of ruining my life.

She didn’t, I was with her for six years.

Mostly, she was in that state where I could not get through to her, I could not, with any means, reach her, could not make her feel happy. Sometimes I could make her feel better, dampen the evil of the ghosts, but never make her completely happy. It tore my heart apart. It sent screams of anguish through my soul, and an invisible burned hunched my back.

We parted as friends. I got her to, after years of trying to convince her, finally accept that professional counseling was a must. Once she started, it became evident that for the counseling to work to its fullest, she had to live on her own, she had to sort herself out before she could embrace someone else, and this would take years, maybe a life-time, so mutually agreed and with mutual sadness, we parted and have never met nor spoken since. It is best that way.

You, BarrenP, might wonder what all of this has to do with your query. Well, here is my response.

I’m in Gothenburg, Sweden. If I was an albatross, the magnificent maestro of the skies, and had to wing my way to the most distant spot of land here on earth, I’m not sure where exactly it would be. I’m guessing some remote island off New Zealand. It’s a mighty task, to get across the oceans and the mountains, a mighty long trip, a dangerous trip to add.

But you know what?

If what awaits at the end of that journey is something which will make an hour not near it feel like aeons, if it’s something where the greatest peril can’t make you hesitate, I’ll fly.

And sometimes, far too often, do people in this world live right next to one another, and it is a greater distance between the two, they are worlds apart, so what is a distance, any distance, between two persons who want to enjoy one another’s company… on this one world?
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Oct 25, 2008 7:16 AM CST Frustrations...?
dillinger
dillingerdillingersexxay town, Fife, Scotland UK31 Threads 970 Posts
I don't really understand how those of us who only use the forums to chat can be preventing others from finding what they're looking for. i've seen a few threads about game players and I would imagine they'd be the biggest causes of frustrations. i'm often surprised that people have actually met up and have relationships. that's quite a nice thing and I expect it gives others encouragement. I don't know how those long distance relationships work, it must be tough. expensive too. personally I can barely afford the taxi to work, never mind a plane ticket. poor as a church mouse I am.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:21 AM CST Frustrations...?
BarrenPneuma: Do the inherent obstacles of distance keep you separated from the one to whom you know your heart would indelibly be drawn had circumstances of distance not intervened to create seemingly inseparable gulfs?
Are there persons here to whom you would divulge your desires if their profiles were more accepting of contact?
Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?
Do some people cause you to feel less than worthy through no actions of their own other than their presence?

How do you overcome such barriers?
Do you even consider the attempt to overcome these barriers?



Yes, and it sucks

I don't care what profiles say, I'll still make contact for the hell of it, but I don't cause I am not into wasting my time.

Yes

Never

I'm through with overcoming barriers. Been there done that one too many times, and it goes back 12 years. I just don't have the f*ckin heart for long distance bullshit so I don't even consider overcoming these barriers. I hate long distance things, too much experience with that.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:31 AM CST Frustrations...?
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria164 Threads 4 Polls 19,249 Posts
StressFree: Yes, and it sucks

I don't care what profiles say, I'll still make contact for the hell of it, but I don't cause I am not into wasting my time.

Yes

Never

I'm through with overcoming barriers. Been there done that one too many times, and it goes back 12 years. I just don't have the f*ckin heart for long distance bullshit so I don't even consider overcoming these barriers. I hate long distance things, too much experience with that.



Well, Tony, you put us straight there...

Why do you not care what profiles say? I am confused by your statement...

You see, for me distance is no object, and nor would be entering a long distance relationship, I would make sure that every damn weekend we had plans, that is is easy for me in Europe... Further afield, then I would be reluctant to consider. Simply because I need to have my guy with me, during the week I am ok, I can be apart because of work, but of course, doing the job that I do, I can move anywhere, after my contract has finished of course... I would not have a problem with a weekend only relationship at all, because once May is here, I am free for the summer, as I have the summer off..

I have worked away alot and I had a weekend only situation, with a partner, but we still lived together and he was away all the time too...

So even if you live together there are going to be times that we will be apart...
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Oct 25, 2008 7:43 AM CST Frustrations...?
Sommerauer71: Well, Tony, you put us straight there...

Why do you not care what profiles say? I am confused by your statement...

You see, for me distance is no object, and nor would be entering a long distance relationship, I would make sure that every damn weekend we had plans, that is is easy for me in Europe... Further afield, then I would be reluctant to consider. Simply because I need to have my guy with me, during the week I am ok, I can be apart because of work, but of course, doing the job that I do, I can move anywhere, after my contract has finished of course... I would not have a problem with a weekend only relationship at all, because once May is here, I am free for the summer, as I have the summer off..

I have worked away alot and I had a weekend only situation, with a partner, but we still lived together and he was away all the time too...

So even if you live together there are going to be times that we will be apart...


If a woman's profile says she is looking for men between 25- 30 or 38-50, I'll still drop a line.

I've had nothing but long distance relationships my who life it seems like. When I was first with my kids mother when she was pregnant, I was coming to Sweden every three months until I decided to move.

Anyways, I see the merits with your point Tracey. It totally makes sense and if someone is willing, then distance will never be a factor. Things can change over time and I am always open to change. That is all....
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Oct 25, 2008 7:48 AM CST Frustrations...?
Darkhorseman
DarkhorsemanDarkhorsemanGladstonia ... it's a strange, Queensland Australia54 Threads 4 Polls 2,063 Posts
If I may quote Spock ... The Vulcan, not the psychiatrist.

"Having is not always as pleasurable as wanting. It is not logical but it is often true."

Old Spock was worth listening to.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:57 AM CST Frustrations...?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
Very interesting thread.

My profile clearly states my reasons for being here. Now, if a man living on the other end of the globe wants to believe that by flirting with me, he's going to have my heart, then i really can't be blamed for that. Some men have stopped talking to me, when i've gently reminded them that i am not looking for anything long distance, after recieving friendly emails ( no strings attached) from them. I feel it is my duty, to always warn someone before they get 'too close' and start blaming me. Let's face it, i'm not going to quit uni., then pack up and leave Finland for something long distance!!!! I always insist, that when i do move ( when i'm done doing what i'm here for), i won't blindly move to any country of the world for love *alone*, how would i support myself if finding a job there would be impossible?? No, i don't want a man to take care of me ( financially), even though i find financial security important in a man. Imagine if i left here and moved to Germany.....i'm not originally from here, and i'm probably not interested in learning another language to survive. I don't have grown up kids, i'm still at the 'want to have a family' phase, so yes, we both have to be living in the same country and working, WHEN i do decide i can enter into a 'serious' relationship.


Meanwhile, i have no problem making friends with men here.

Most of the men who contact me from Finland ( not many, believe me), have either been uninteresting, or not capable of speaking in english...sorry, my finnish sucks and won't rely on gestures for communication. It's a major turn off for me. If i do hear from one that i feel i could connect with, then yes, i will probably consider developing something.....though i'm not into the idea of living here for eternity ( language and weather).......i'm ok with it, for now. I almost met one, he bragged too much and i called it off an hour or so, before we met. I wasn't surprised at his response, he said he was not hurt by the move, because he was extremely rich at my age ( didn't understand why i'm not....hahaha), and would probably get along better, with a rich white woman......see why i want to stand on my own two feet? I think independent women know what i'm saying!



Still, i won't decieve myself in the long distance nonsense....been there, done that.


Any one from around here interested? grin

Forget that, off to take a shower. joy cartwheel
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Oct 25, 2008 8:04 AM CST Frustrations...?
jbibiza
jbibizajbibizaIbiza, Balearic Islands Spain133 Threads 6 Polls 7,679 Posts
Sommerauer71: Well, Tony, you put us straight there...

Why do you not care what profiles say? I am confused by your statement...

You see, for me distance is no object, and nor would be entering a long distance relationship, I would make sure that every damn weekend we had plans, that is is easy for me in Europe... Further afield, then I would be reluctant to consider. Simply because I need to have my guy with me, during the week I am ok, I can be apart because of work, but of course, doing the job that I do, I can move anywhere, after my contract has finished of course... I would not have a problem with a weekend only relationship at all, because once May is here, I am free for the summer, as I have the summer off..

I have worked away alot and I had a weekend only situation, with a partner, but we still lived together and he was away all the time too...

So even if you live together there are going to be times that we will be apart...



I understand what you say about distance and overcoming it... my question is how do you get to that point if you meet online and the distance is already there? I know myself well enough to know... no matter how perfect things may seem in a written relationship, you know nothing until you meet in person and after that it can take months before you know if that person is the one for you.

To get a true perspective of a relationship it means spending time with each other, seeing each others bad habits, and annoying little quirks, it´s easy to be romantic and perfect if you only see each other a couple of times a month.... I know this because it´s how I wound up marrying my ex husband. If we had just spent a month living day to day with each other we never would have married.

So reality tells me that to try to start something with someone halfway around the world is just setting myself up for a disappointment, why spend months months on a slight maybe cutting yourself off from possibilities much closer.
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Oct 25, 2008 9:26 AM CST Frustrations...?
PietroPaoloV
PietroPaoloVPietroPaoloVGöteborg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden113 Threads 5 Polls 1,509 Posts
In response to: Yes, there are two people here that I would divulge my desires to, and they know who they are, and if they do not then they get a kick up the a**...


But men are about as able to get these kind of things as a one-legged man is able to win an a** kicking contest. I think you should write them out, and add a third just in case, Miranda.
Just for the rest of us to know who's not a good one to pick a fight with.

grin
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Oct 25, 2008 10:01 AM CST Frustrations...?
lusciousmile
lusciousmilelusciousmileThere, Aland Islands Finland31 Threads 2 Polls 17,895 Posts
StressFree: If a woman's profile says she is looking for men between 25- 30 or 38-50, I'll still drop a line.

I've had nothing but long distance relationships my who life it seems like. When I was first with my kids mother when she was pregnant, I was coming to Sweden every three months until I decided to move.

Anyways, I see the merits with your point Tracey. It totally makes sense and if someone is willing, then distance will never be a factor. Things can change over time and I am always open to change. That is all....






PietroPaoloV: But men are about as able to get these kind of things as a one-legged man is able to win an a** kicking contest. I think you should write them out, and add a third just in case, Miranda.
Just for the rest of us to know who's not a good one to pick a fight with.



Are you two talking to the same person (Sommer)? If so, one of you is in trouble and is going to be here a long time.

rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

tongue grin
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Oct 25, 2008 10:19 AM CST Frustrations...?
BarrenPneuma
BarrenPneumaBarrenPneumaGolden Staircase, Ontario Canada121 Threads 4 Polls 2,496 Posts
From a personal perspective I have written this in some sort of attempt to alleviate concerns that I have begun to have. As my profile states I am here for nothing more than friends and the forums (which allow me to dump to carnage of an overly active mind free of charge and with the small hope that occasionally some simple sentence that manages to fall out in a lucid form could possibly be coherent and in line with the OP of whichever thread grows unlucky enough to captivate my imagination and curiosity). I have indeed made a few very dear friends and opened the door to many acqauintances who in time may well consider me a friend as well. This is the fulfillment I seek here, and nothing more.
On occasion I do receive mail that begins in such a modest manner, respectful of my clearly stated goals here, and sometimes it comes to a head where the person mailing me believes that I am merely wounded and withholding myself from some grand eloquence that they themselves have to offer. At times like these I am forced to become very blunt and reiterate my stance as nothing more than what I believe. It hurts me to seem so callous in my own defense, as I am in truth much better at defending others than myself. I try to be very cautious in any position where my words can be misunderstood for flirtation and ponder endlessly before I actually post where any thing I may have written could be seen in any way shape or form as any sort of invitation. Fortunately most who have written me in this manner have gracefully left well enough alone but on accoasion there are a few thus far who have become cold or bitter. I realize that I cannot please all of them, nor do I in truth wish to, but I do wish to remain at worst neutral and leave as slight a trail in their lives as possible.
For clarity's sake my heart is spoken for and will remain so until I draw my last breath. I apologize in advance for any possibility that my involvement here can be misconstrued as any sort of relationship seeking.
I know that the heart and mind can do things to our being that we are not very much in control of, and I do not seek to admonish anyone for thinking anything of me in that way. It is just that when I have been prompted to make my position clear I do hate the sour connotation that might arise. I would like to know if anyone has any meas by which they have successfully dissuaded (in the most altruistic manner only please!) someone from attempting to be more than they could ever be.
Again I have met a few wonderful friends here and I do realize that their has to be some sort of connection for this to occur. But in these cases I must point out that they are the ones to whom my utmost respect goes out unfettered as that is exactly what they have shown me. My life would be much darker than it has to be withouth their light to share with me. I am truly blessed by their friendship and wouldn't trade any of the for the world.
I just can't help but feel like a sore thumb at times. I am just a regular guy who tends to post in a long winded sort of way and I truly am sorry if this invokes any sort of curiosity that does not ultimately have friendship as its goal. I cannot offer more and at times it makes me feel more of a hindrance to these lovely women who would do best to be my friend or seek elsewhere for someone who can Love them in the way that they truly deserve.
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Oct 25, 2008 12:17 PM CST Frustrations...?
Hugz_n_Kissez
Hugz_n_KissezHugz_n_KissezSomeplace, Ontario Canada82 Threads 3 Polls 34,865 Posts
Mark if you have stated your intent on your profile...and you kindly remind people of why you're actually here, yet they persist because they want to save you...that's on their shoulders not yours....that has nothing to do with you at all but their willingness to listen to what you're really saying....so no people here who are taken...married whatever present no hindrance whatsoever...I see them as people...the same people they were before they were committed to someone....and like I say...if it's clearly stated on someone's profile that they are taken...and someone misconstrues something...then it's on that persons shoulders and their problem....I have been in a few situations where I have clearly laid it out to certain people that I only want to be friends...which they agree to...yet eventually persisted to try to turn it into something it wasn't...well as far as I am concerned they never wanted to be friends in the first place if they couldn't even listen to and respect what I was saying...so yes more than once someone has got pissed at me for what was their own fault for not listening and I just ended up cutting off communication with them.....for the simple reason...I don't want people or friends in my life who don't listen and hear what I have to say...I don't want people in my life who think they can manipulate me into doing something I clearly don't want to do...I don't want a friend with an agenda....so when I cut off communication with these people...I don't feel as if I have lost anything including friendship...because obviously they never really were friends to begin with...so like I said...the fact that others don't listen and hear what you are actually saying...and persist...has nothing to do with you or your actions..but their inability to hear and respect what you're saying.....hug teddybear hug bouquet


As far as distance...I don't really see it as a hindrance...I am pretty open and sure that if things are meant to be then they will be and two people who love and are committed to each other for the long haul will always find a way that is best for them and their relationship!!!!!


teddybear
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Oct 25, 2008 12:21 PM CST Frustrations...?
Dknew
DknewDknewBarrington, New Hampshire USA319 Threads 14 Polls 9,166 Posts
BarrenPneuma: Do the inherent obstacles of distance keep you separated from the one to whom you know your heart would indelibly be drawn had circumstances of distance not intervened to create seemingly inseparable gulfs?
Are there persons here to whom you would divulge your desires if their profiles were more accepting of contact?
Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?
Do some people cause you to feel less than worthy through no actions of their own other than their presence?

How do you overcome such barriers?
Do you even consider the attempt to overcome these barriers?

I am just curious as to how those of us who are here for the forums and friends only could be negatively impacting the search for Love that is the ultimate purpose of this site.
Personally I see those who are happily engaged in relations, fulfilling enough to allow them to maintain some sembance of presence here, as an educational experience and testament to the grace of Love which most seek. Do others see committed people as a deterent or hindrance much like a single's club filled with married couples?

Just curious, and hopefully not offensive in any way as I value all contributions to these forums from all person's single, looking, married or just taking a break from the rigors of Love's complicated game.



Sometimes you find What you were looking for when not searching for it.
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Oct 25, 2008 12:39 PM CST Frustrations...?
BarrenPneuma: Do the inherent obstacles of distance keep you separated from the one to whom you know your heart would indelibly be drawn had circumstances of distance not intervened to create seemingly inseparable gulfs?
Are there persons here to whom you would divulge your desires if their profiles were more accepting of contact?
Are there persons on this site who are not seeking to whom you wish you could have the chance to press a case for possibilities of enduring Love?
Do some people cause you to feel less than worthy through no actions of their own other than their presence?

How do you overcome such barriers?
Do you even consider the attempt to overcome these barriers?

I am just curious as to how those of us who are here for the forums and friends only could be negatively impacting the search for Love that is the ultimate purpose of this site.
Personally I see those who are happily engaged in relations, fulfilling enough to allow them to maintain some sembance of presence here, as an educational experience and testament to the grace of Love which most seek. Do others see committed people as a deterent or hindrance much like a single's club filled with married couples?

Just curious, and hopefully not offensive in any way as I value all contributions to these forums from all person's single, looking, married or just taking a break from the rigors of Love's complicated game.



Sometimes that special person can be right under our noses when we least expect them to be cause we're not really looking.
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Oct 25, 2008 12:50 PM CST Frustrations...?
Kevint
KevintKevintWorcester, Home of the sauce, West Midlands, England UK13 Threads 727 Posts
gypsykisses: patience is a virtue....however some do not have the patience for the long haul-which makes me wonder

if they even had the patience for the real life long haul.



Wow there, run that by me again LONG HAUL !!!!! whats that about, the expression Long Haul usually

refers to being in a confined space for longer than you really want to be, creating misery and distress.



Is that how you see being in a loving relationship is going to be, what happened to the joy, passion, affection the growing old together in a harmony that was built on friendship and joint knowledge

No wonder there so much .............Oh whats the point frustrated frustrated frustrated

moping doh doh doh
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Oct 25, 2008 12:53 PM CST Frustrations...?
BarrenPneuma
BarrenPneumaBarrenPneumaGolden Staircase, Ontario Canada121 Threads 4 Polls 2,496 Posts
OK another long winded response for the resident letter hog. This is directed to the two posts above me as I have to agree with them whole-heartedly.

One night I came home from work, sat at my computer to seek out some music and answers to the multitude of silly little questions that decided to plague me during work. I had just bothered to get the Internet just prior; to quell my endless need for answers to every ridiculous question that ever reared itself in my head. I could not help feeling guilty pressing my needs for resolve upon my friends at every hour of every day potentially. I was sifting through site after site seeking songs my memory held but my brain could never identify without sound, when I saw a link for a site called Connecting Singles. Curiosity drew me into this site. I looked around for a bit, but it felt wrong- like some sort of twisted perversion. I never opened a single profile fearing the repercussions that could unfold through potential misconstruction of my intent or desire. I saw the chat feature and felt that perhaps there could be some form of companionship and safety amongst a group, while sharing valuable communication with others. I realized within a couple of weeks that despite my lack of response to amorous overtures, that mere communication would never suffice for many here and I was quickly becoming disillusioned with the chat feature to provide me with what I required from CS. I withdrew from the chat portion and instead decided to anonymously float throughout different forums, reading, absorbing and learning. My curiosity and strength of opinion, bolstered by my unwavering faith was keeping me reading and driving me to post. Fearing that once again it would attract undesired attention, from people I knew in my heart I would never be able to commit to, I battled every day with just closing my account. I had struggled long and hard to accept my life to this date, and could not justify myself allowing someone else to potentially seek in me something that I felt I ‘knew’ could never be. At my final position of ‘shit or get off the pot,’ happenstance occurred as it so often does. On my profile home page I was seeking where to find the link to cancel my account, and after looking in a few wrong places, I just happened to look down at the line of tiny pictures of other women inhabiting this site and saw the most breath-taking beauty I have ever had the pleasure of laying eyes upon. Sure a few others had caught my eye before but in comparison they were never more than the carbon from which true diamonds are borne. This tiny little picture stopped me dead in my tracks, and stole my breath. I took a second look immediately after tearing my gaze from this raw wonder, which astonished me, for the sheer fact that I have never done so before in real life or otherwise. My cursor hovering over this little picture before I even realized that I had moved it there. A flush came upon my cheeks and I could feel the heat escaping the collar of my shirt. I had resolutely come to the conclusion that I was visiting this site for the last time and with but a single look at this tiny little picture my resolve was melting. My will never hesitates, and this threw my brain into a mild, crazy panic. My mind racing, and my heart pulsing as though entering the forbidden, I clicked the link before I could talk myself out of it. My brain went silent instantly and I fought a frenzy building to find the ‘X’ tab before this unknown beauty could know that some voyeur had broken into her profile and rifled through her personal things. Before I could do so, your picture popped up and my body froze. I am unsure of how long I stared into your eyes before I realized that my hands were sweating and clasped together in my lap. I have never before in my life been silenced like I was then. I left your profile open and went into my living room to shake my head clear.
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