Abandonment... ( Archived) (49)

How does this impact an adult life? Especially if it happened as a youth? What does it make you do or make you unconsciously feel you should do?
Is it merely a self-preservation mechanism to protect us from being hurt again?
How do you overcome this disabling hurt?

Just curious as I am sure we have all experienced it to some degree.

Alright 18 views in 10 minutes and nary a single post? I realize that three of the views were by the mods but someone surely has some input? This thread is beginning to feel a mite abandoned methinks... And after all the work I had to do to just convince it that everything was going to be alright.

You my friend so often come from the extreme left field and I cherish what wisdom you carry with you. This is not what I would have expected but it strikes a chord deep within my heart. I do believe you may have shared a profundity most quixotic in the deepest sense of healing. I admire your intellect.

Hi there, Barren, I was looking for a thread to get my teeth into and I can usually rely on you.

The impact it had onme was immense. Circumstances after the abandonment, were not pretty. It changed my world to a level that I had never experienced before...

And I did not know how to pull myself out of it...

I shut myself away for eight months, I did not work, I sat in my house for eight months...

I had the phone line disconnected and I did not speak to anybody, just emailed people, and had my shopping delivered by internet.

Two friends came one day, shouting through the letterbox, I did not answer, so they smashed the window.

They were shocked, they sat me down, said I had one hour to get myself sorted out, showered, hair washed, make up on... Or they would leave my life..

45 minutes I was down... Ready, they welcomed me back and I began putting myself, with the love of my friends who took the utmost care of me and were very instrumental in that journey, back together...

That was the end of marriage, it hurt, it was agonising, it nearly killed me.

That is what impact it had on my life...

Hmm abandonment as in by family , friends or in love .. sorry i didnt understand the thread ..

Abandonment is hard to accept at any age under any situation. I was abandoned by my husbad leaving my daughter with out her dad. With me raising her myself yes she is a wll rounded little girl she is smart. I notice the older she gets the more she longs for that relationship that she does not have. I have talked to others that have been abanded by others and they all have a lack of trust when it comes to people wanting to get to close to them they become scared that if they get to close it will happen again.