Wonderful man, friend, but not a match... ( Archived) (48)

Dec 30, 2008 8:44 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
HealthyLiving
HealthyLivingHealthyLivingSomewhere In, Tennessee USA527 Threads 2 Polls 4,775 Posts
As most of you know, Abram came to visit with me.
He arrived Christmas eve night, wearing a Big Red Bow!
He is a wonderful man, very sweet and kind, helpful, and genuine.
What can I say? I am difficult!!!
I want to count him as a friend, a good friend, and I feel badly that I may have broken his heartbroken heart
Just wanted everyone to know that we will not be starting a relationship.
It's okay though.
I am sure that I hurt him, due to an issue we had about his dog.
The dog issue kept me stressed the entire time they were here.
I am sorry Abram!!!crying
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Dec 30, 2008 8:52 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
hopefloats
hopefloatshopefloatsSlim's Lady, Tennessee USA51 Threads 6,660 Posts
hug to both of you!
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Dec 30, 2008 8:55 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
LACali
LACaliLACaliSouthern California, California USA3 Threads 936 Posts
HealthyLiving: As most of you know, Abram came to visit with me.
He arrived Christmas eve night, wearing a Big Red Bow!
He is a wonderful man, very sweet and kind, helpful, and genuine.
What can I say? I am difficult!!!
I want to count him as a friend, a good friend, and I feel badly that I may have broken his heart
Just wanted everyone to know that we will not be starting a relationship.
It's okay though.
I am sure that I hurt him, due to an issue we had about his dog.
The dog issue kept me stressed the entire time they were here.
I am sorry Abram!!!


You're a sweetheart and he's a very nice man. I know you'll have a lovely friendship. hug
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Dec 30, 2008 8:55 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
sassy49senior
sassy49seniorsassy49seniorItty Bitty, Nebraska USA274 Threads 4,632 Posts
HL, I am so sorry to hear this. Did you not discuss the
dog situation before his arrival? Hopefully you will
remain friends. hug
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Dec 30, 2008 8:57 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
gypsykisses
gypsykissesgypsykissesPort Huron, Michigan USA7 Threads 1 Polls 2,405 Posts
HealthyLiving: As most of you know, Abram came to visit with me.
He arrived Christmas eve night, wearing a Big Red Bow!
He is a wonderful man, very sweet and kind, helpful, and genuine.
What can I say? I am difficult!!!
I want to count him as a friend, a good friend, and I feel badly that I may have broken his heart
Just wanted everyone to know that we will not be starting a relationship.
It's okay though.
I am sure that I hurt him, due to an issue we had about his dog.
The dog issue kept me stressed the entire time they were here.
I am sorry Abram!!!



comfort it happens....time heals all wounds..teddybear
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Dec 30, 2008 9:06 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
HL, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't turn out to be more as you both had wished. I hope that the two of you can remain friends. What's meant to be will be, and at least the two of you had the opportunity to meet and discover what could and couldn't be for you.

My heart goes out to both of you. hug hug
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Dec 30, 2008 9:16 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
Glad you found a new friend, and wish the best for the both of you. But, one should not approach a possible relationship with so much expectation, especially after you have at least met...to see what the chemistry is like. We can't all be the others match, for many different reasons. To find your match(men and women), is a lot like a combination lock...it has to have the right combination to unlock your hearts. JMO dancing
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Dec 30, 2008 9:17 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
DOGS...........sigh

A woman would stand a chance here either, the little dog (Wiggles) would put up a fight if someone wanted her 80% of the bed..sigh

Hang in there young lady, it is all about "availability" on those 4 planes..wink
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Dec 30, 2008 9:28 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
Sorry it didn't work out for you guys...
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Dec 30, 2008 9:35 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
HealthyLiving
HealthyLivingHealthyLivingSomewhere In, Tennessee USA527 Threads 2 Polls 4,775 Posts
TheresMyFriend: Glad you found a new friend, and wish the best for the both of you. But, one should not approach a possible relationship with so much expectation, especially after you have at least met...to see what the chemistry is like. We can't all be the others match, for many different reasons. To find your match(men and women), is a lot like a combination lock...it has to have the right combination to unlock your hearts. JMO



You are right in what you have said.
I had no worldly expectations of Abram, or anyone else.
In my situation, the spiritual connection must be absolutely equaled, or he must have excelled past where I am spiritually.
This would be the connection to unlock my heart.

Hey, I haven't even thought of meeting anyone in over 7 years.
At least I took the step in that direction and actually met someone face to face. No intimacy took place, as I do not believe in having intimacy with anyone I barely know. All things must line up and balance before I would even consider it.
He was very respectful of this and I truely appreciate this in him.

As I said, I had no expectations, just excited about meeting a real person!!!

I am sure things would have been much more relaxed, had the dog not come. He was a 6 month old black labradore retreiver, a huge puppy! I have a little dog, whom I have had for 11 years. She is very dominating and disciplined. The pup was undisciplined. Very kaotic!!!
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Dec 30, 2008 9:51 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
HealthyLiving: You are right in what you have said.
I had no worldly expectations of Abram, or anyone else.
In my situation, the spiritual connection must be absolutely equaled, or he must have excelled past where I am spiritually.
This would be the connection to unlock my heart.

Hey, I haven't even thought of meeting anyone in over 7 years.
At least I took the step in that direction and actually met someone face to face. No intimacy took place, as I do not believe in having intimacy with anyone I barely know. All things must line up and balance before I would even consider it.
He was very respectful of this and I truely appreciate this in him.

As I said, I had no expectations, just excited about meeting a real person!!!

I am sure things would have been much more relaxed, had the dog not come. He was a 6 month old black labradore retreiver, a huge puppy! I have a little dog, whom I have had for 11 years. She is very dominating and disciplined. The pup was undisciplined. Very kaotic!!!


Your right in handling the situation in the manner you did. I would not have brought a dog with me on an initial visit...poor decision(JMO).

It's common for your dog to be the dominate pooch, in his home...when a new dog shows up. I would have left my dog at home, especially on a 1st visit...to see how things would go.

I think the added dog visit, was added stress on you and your dog. Especially sense his was chaotic, and that would be expected in the puppy behavior.

It is good that you have added a good friend to your life. Just hang in there till your "Mr Right" comes along. I'm aware of what you say about the 7 year thing...I'm like that myself(maybe too picky on my part)!

OK, Happy New Year coming up...and you'll do just fine...God bless you and yours.

comfort
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Dec 30, 2008 11:25 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
vinny1967
vinny1967vinny1967Dublin, Cork Ireland131 Threads 7 Polls 11,475 Posts
HealthyLiving: As most of you know, Abram came to visit with me.
He arrived Christmas eve night, wearing a Big Red Bow!
He is a wonderful man, very sweet and kind, helpful, and genuine.
What can I say? I am difficult!!!
I want to count him as a friend, a good friend, and I feel badly that I may have broken his heart
Just wanted everyone to know that we will not be starting a relationship.
It's okay though.
I am sure that I hurt him, due to an issue we had about his dog.
The dog issue kept me stressed the entire time they were here.
I am sorry Abram!!!


Am sorry to hear that HL,

Hope you and Abram grow as friends and you both find what your looking for.

teddybear
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Dec 30, 2008 11:35 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
rwantin
rwantinrwantinRoyal Oak, Michigan USA17 Threads 8,924 Posts
Sorry to hear that HL. Take solace in trying, for if we don't, we certainly remain alone.
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Dec 30, 2008 11:58 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
I am sorry for your disappointment...you are a dear!!sad flower
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Jan 7, 2009 7:03 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
Diamond789
Diamond789Diamond789Fort Worth, Texas USA39 Threads 440 Posts
HealthyLiving: As most of you know, Abram came to visit with me.
He arrived Christmas eve night, wearing a Big Red Bow!
He is a wonderful man, very sweet and kind, helpful, and genuine.
What can I say? I am difficult!!!
I want to count him as a friend, a good friend, and I feel badly that I may have broken his heart
Just wanted everyone to know that we will not be starting a relationship.
It's okay though.
I am sure that I hurt him, due to an issue we had about his dog.
The dog issue kept me stressed the entire time they were here.
I am sorry Abram!!!


I'm sure Abram is embarrassed at this time since this type of thing is, should be considered a private situation.
I would have been very embarrassed.
However if Abram goes for it then all is well. I hope you talked with him first and told him you were going to post yer date on the inter-net ?
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Jan 7, 2009 7:06 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
Big_John
Big_JohnBig_JohnOcean Springs, Mississippi USA19 Threads 9,767 Posts
Diamond789: I'm sure Abram is embarrassed at this time since this type of thing is, should be considered a private situation.
I would have been very embarrassed.
However if Abram goes for it then all is well. I hope you talked with him first and told him you were going to post yer date on the inter-net ?


I agree with Diamond. Talking about failed relationships on the Threads are something I dislike. These should be private.
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Jan 7, 2009 7:13 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
vonney
vonneyvonneyDublin, Ireland24 Threads 6,371 Posts
Diamond789: I'm sure Abram is embarrassed at this time since this type of thing is, should be considered a private situation.
I would have been very embarrassed.
However if Abram goes for it then all is well. I hope you talked with him first and told him you were going to post yer date on the inter-net ?




This was my first thought also.
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Jan 7, 2009 7:13 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
HealthyLiving: You are right in what you have said.
I had no worldly expectations of Abram, or anyone else.
In my situation, the spiritual connection must be absolutely equaled, or he must have excelled past where I am spiritually.
This would be the connection to unlock my heart.

Hey, I haven't even thought of meeting anyone in over 7 years.
At least I took the step in that direction and actually met someone face to face. No intimacy took place, as I do not believe in having intimacy with anyone I barely know. All things must line up and balance before I would even consider it.
He was very respectful of this and I truely appreciate this in him.

As I said, I had no expectations, just excited about meeting a real person!!!

I am sure things would have been much more relaxed, had the dog not come. He was a 6 month old black labradore retreiver, a huge puppy! I have a little dog, whom I have had for 11 years. She is very dominating and disciplined. The pup was undisciplined. Very kaotic!!!


Diamond789: I'm sure Abram is embarrassed at this time since this type of thing is, should be considered a private situation.
I would have been very embarrassed.
However if Abram goes for it then all is well. I hope you talked with him first and told him you were going to post yer date on the inter-net ?

Big John wrote:
I agree with Diamond. Talking about failed relationships on the Threads are something I dislike. These should be private.

I, too would hope my date would keep things private. I have two Lab mix pups. 6 months is not a large milestone for them. They are babies til well past the age of two yrs. I also hope you discussed with him prior to posting this. . .

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However, I am sorry it did not work out.sad flower hug hug
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Jan 7, 2009 7:19 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
SummerUK
SummerUKSummerUKWashington UK, Tyne and Wear, England UK24 Threads 8,842 Posts
In response to: As most of you know, Abram came to visit with me.
He arrived Christmas eve night, wearing a Big Red Bow!
He is a wonderful man, very sweet and kind, helpful, and genuine.
What can I say? I am difficult!!!
I want to count him as a friend, a good friend, and I feel badly that I may have broken his heart
Just wanted everyone to know that we will not be starting a relationship.
It's okay though.
I am sure that I hurt him, due to an issue we had about his dog.
The dog issue kept me stressed the entire time they were here.
I am sorry Abram!!!



Blimey I'd be well pissed off if someone discussed something so private in the forums...How can you be so sorry and then discuss it here for all to see????? confused
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Jan 7, 2009 8:32 AM CST Wonderful man, friend, but not a match...
wixomwizard
wixomwizardwixomwizardWixom, Michigan USA35 Threads 3,636 Posts
Blimey I'd be well pissed off if someone discussed something so private in the forums...How can you be so sorry and then discuss it here for all to see?????[/quote]

Exactly
Let's just embarrass the guy even further...what do you say? doh
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