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Jan 29, 2009 5:40 PM CST Alcoholism...
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
thesagacontinues: I love him very much. He quit the weed for a few months, but then he started again. He is the sweetest person, when he's drinking he's not mean or anything, he's just...annoying.

And yes, he gets a nice shot in the butt every two weeks for his meds. The nurse comes to our house.


OH honey....... I am the sweetest guy on earth, just ask me..angel

Give me one drink of any kind of alcohol, you will not see me for at least 2 or 3 days.sigh If you do see me, you will surely wish you had not..very mad
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Jan 29, 2009 5:40 PM CST Alcoholism...
thesagacontinues
thesagacontinuesthesagacontinuesBoonsboro, Maryland USA1 Threads 33 Posts
And as for the crack. I know what he's like when he's on it.

Sighing....breathing heavy...drinking mass amounts of coffee at 10pm...acting bugged out...

He's off it.
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Jan 29, 2009 5:41 PM CST Alcoholism...
thesagacontinues
thesagacontinuesthesagacontinuesBoonsboro, Maryland USA1 Threads 33 Posts
HJFinAZ: OH honey....... I am the sweetest guy on earth, just ask me..

Give me one drink of any kind of alcohol, you will not see me for at least 2 or 3 days. If you do see me, you will surely wish you had not..


Yes but he's not mean ot angry or anything. He just wants to talk, stay up late, vacuum the house at 2am, and be irritating.
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Jan 29, 2009 5:41 PM CST Alcoholism...
Dusty45
Dusty45Dusty45Louisville, Kentucky USA54 Threads 2,642 Posts
thesagacontinues: I love him very much. He quit the weed for a few months, but then he started again. He is the sweetest person, when he's drinking he's not mean or anything, he's just...annoying.

And yes, he gets a nice shot in the butt every two weeks for his meds. The nurse comes to our house.


He's got a hard serious problem. Now, you take this seriously.
Start with yourself. You deserve it, sweetperson.
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Jan 29, 2009 5:42 PM CST Alcoholism...
thesagacontinues
thesagacontinuesthesagacontinuesBoonsboro, Maryland USA1 Threads 33 Posts
Dusty45: He's got a hard serious problem. Now, you take this seriously.
Start with yourself. You deserve it, sweetperson.


purple heart
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Jan 29, 2009 5:45 PM CST Alcoholism...
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
thesagacontinues: Yes but he's not mean ot angry or anything. He just wants to talk, stay up late, vacuum the house at 2am, and be irritating.


Go buy the book (or get it from the library) titled "Alcoholics Anonymous". Read it, see if you can find him or yourself in that book. Pay special attention to The Doctors Opinion, and chapters 8 & 9....
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Jan 29, 2009 5:49 PM CST Alcoholism...
vinny1967
vinny1967vinny1967Dublin, Cork Ireland131 Threads 7 Polls 11,475 Posts
thesagacontinues: My boyfriend has a drinking problem, and I don't know how to help him, any suggestions?

He doesn't drink large quantities, it's more like a 6 or 8 a night.

I'm just looking for some advice. And yes, I know this is a singles website, but as my profile says, I'm not single and not looking. I just like to talk. =)


As various people have said.......it's not a problem until he admits it........Then and only then will he seek help.........

I wish you well with this......

teddybear
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Jan 29, 2009 6:04 PM CST Alcoholism...
HJFinAZ: GUILT, may work for some, it never worked for me..
Obsession too big.sigh
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Jan 29, 2009 6:06 PM CST Alcoholism...
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland136 Threads 9,702 Posts
thesagacontinues: My boyfriend has a drinking problem, and I don't know how to help him, any suggestions?

He doesn't drink large quantities, it's more like a 6 or 8 a night.

I'm just looking for some advice. And yes, I know this is a singles website, but as my profile says, I'm not single and not looking. I just like to talk. =)





Get Rid.......cheers
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Jan 29, 2009 6:09 PM CST Alcoholism...
thesagacontinues: Yes but he's not mean ot angry or anything. He just wants to talk, stay up late, vacuum the house at 2am, and be irritating.
Patience,that will come as the Illness progresses!You need to take care of #1,yourself.
He'll fetch someday sooner or later,one way or another!We all did.wave
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Jan 29, 2009 6:10 PM CST Alcoholism...
tina_olson
tina_olsontina_olsonWestby, Wisconsin USA1 Threads 694 Posts
thesagacontinues: Yes but he's not mean ot angry or anything. He just wants to talk, stay up late, vacuum the house at 2am, and be irritating.


Listen to all the advice you are getting from people who have been through this--I was 19 when I met who I thought was the man of my dreams...Everybody thought he was such a great guy also as did I in the beginning...But he wasn't behind closed doors after a couple of years, I got the brunt of his drinking and what turned into anger...I stayed 20 years because of many reason's..Now I look back and would sometimes like to kick myself for all the wasted years.....
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Jan 29, 2009 6:12 PM CST Alcoholism...
thesagacontinues
thesagacontinuesthesagacontinuesBoonsboro, Maryland USA1 Threads 33 Posts
tina_olson: Listen to all the advice you are getting from people who have been through this--I was 19 when I met who I thought was the man of my dreams...Everybody thought he was such a great guy also as did I in the beginning...But he wasn't behind closed doors after a couple of years, I got the brunt of his drinking and what turned into anger...I stayed 20 years because of many reason's..Now I look back and would sometimes like to kick myself for all the wasted years.....


Everyone thinks he's great. That sounds so much like me.
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Jan 29, 2009 6:13 PM CST Alcoholism...
SexyAttorney
SexyAttorneySexyAttorneyClearwater, Florida USA25 Threads 976 Posts
I just read your profile and it states you are getting married in August? You are marrying a schizo drug user and alcoholic according to your own testiment. Good luck to you. You are definitely going to need it.
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Jan 29, 2009 6:20 PM CST Alcoholism...
coolieno1
coolieno1coolieno1point fortin, Point Fortin Trinidad and Tobago96 Threads 546 Posts
thesagacontinues: My boyfriend has a drinking problem, and I don't know how to help him, any suggestions?

He doesn't drink large quantities, it's more like a 6 or 8 a night.

I'm just looking for some advice. And yes, I know this is a singles website, but as my profile says, I'm not single and not looking. I just like to talk. =)
i started drinking when i had 8 years when i was 13 i could drink two bottles of rum an still keep standing, i got into alot of fights alcohol is something some men can control an some can't, there are men who drink an beat their wives an children. you need to talk to him make him understand that's he's damaging himself.
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Jan 29, 2009 6:40 PM CST Alcoholism...
coolieno1: i started drinking when i had 8 years when i was 13 i could drink two bottles of rum an still keep standing, i got into alot of fights alcohol is something some men can control an some can't, there are men who drink an beat their wives an children. you need to talk to him make him understand that's he's damaging himself.


This is an Excerpt of a Paper written by Dr. Silkworth quite a few years ago.

We believe, and so suggested a few years ago, that the action of alcohol on these chronic alcoholics is a manifestation of an allergy; that the phenomenon of craving is limited to this class and never occurs in the average temperate drinker. These allergic types can never safely use alcohol in any form at all; and once having formed the habit and found they cannot break it, once having lost their self-confidence, their reliance upon things human, their problems pile up on them and become astonishingly difficult to solve.

Frothy emotional appeal seldom suffices. The message which can interest and hold these alcoholic people must have depth and weight. In nearly all cases, their ideals must be grounded in a power greater than themselves, if they are to re-create their lives.
If any feel that as psychiatrists directing a hospital for alcoholics we appear somewhat sentimental, let them stand with us a while on the firing line, see the tragedies, the despairing wives, the little children; let the solving of these problems become a part of their daily work, and even of their sleeping moments, and the most cynical will not wonder that we have accepted and encouraged this movement. We feel, after many years if experience, that we have found nothing which has contributed more to the rehabilitation of these men than the altruistic movement now growing up among them.

Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time differentiate the true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only normal one. They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see others taking with impunity. After they have succumbed to the desire again, as so many do, and the phenomenon of craving develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.

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Jan 29, 2009 6:48 PM CST Alcoholism...
Sommerauer71
Sommerauer71Sommerauer71Salzburg, Austria133 Threads 4 Polls 12,414 Posts
HJFinAZ: I have to attend those damn Al Anon meetings every week and have been for over 20 years. It is all because of that damn drunk I look at in the mirror every day..


Ah, well, when the sober one looks back at the drunk one, then you will know you are recovered.

Alcoholism, as you know, is a very misunderstood disease.

I could talk about this for hours, I have a friend who is a recovering alcoholic, and the programme he is on, is pretty strident.

I have been to meetings with him, he lost everything, his home, his children, his business, his friends, and there are a bunch of us, rallied around to help him, got him a place and we went with him to meetings and the clinic each week to have his blood tested.

Another drink would kill him, or if not land him in a room 6 x 4.

We are not about to let that happen.
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Jan 29, 2009 6:51 PM CST Alcoholism...
SexyAttorney
SexyAttorneySexyAttorneyClearwater, Florida USA25 Threads 976 Posts
Personally, I would definitely think twice about marrying this man until he is sober and drug free.
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Jan 29, 2009 8:24 PM CST Alcoholism...
Me4u2
Me4u2Me4u2here, Georgia USA66 Posts
mbcasey: Check out Alanon..it is for people who have a loved one who are alcoholics.

It is ultimately up to him to determine his sobriety. Alanon can help you a great deal understanding many questions you may have.

Good luck to you....
dub dat hear. thumbs up
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Jan 29, 2009 8:28 PM CST Alcoholism...
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
thesagacontinues: My boyfriend has a drinking problem, and I don't know how to help him, any suggestions?

He doesn't drink large quantities, it's more like a 6 or 8 a night.

I'm just looking for some advice. And yes, I know this is a singles website, but as my profile says, I'm not single and not looking. I just like to talk. =)



confused "just" 6 or 8 a night?

wow

i guess its all relative

doh



cheers



im glad i found out i was allergichead banger

welcome to CShandshake
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Jan 29, 2009 8:33 PM CST Alcoholism...
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
Dusty45: It's amazing how fast we flew in.


who?uh oh
rolling on the floor laughing


i like the part where she "got him off the drugs"


help thumbs up
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