Why Can't I Find A Nice and Decent Guy? ( Archived) (20)

Very good question. First please keep in mind that people don't like to "air their dirty laundry" to others especially if it makes them look bad. Most relationships likely are not as good as people make them out to be for various reasons. No one really wants to admit that their partner is driving them nuts and they can't bring themselves to DO anything about it simply because they are afraid to be alone (or whatever reason they have) so they put a good face on it and try to convince themselves and others it's all good. Lol don't get me wrong there ARE good relationships and we'd all love to find one. Second, as to why you feel like a third wheel is that when you're around other people who share a personal relationship you aren't part of their communication with each other when they are using shared knowledge and experience that you don't share. Kind of like they suddenly start to speak a foriegn language. We all fell like a third wheel when people we are with start to speak a language we don't understand. You are effectively being excluded from the conversation and the "group". It's only natural to feel like a third wheel and I try to let others know if they are doing it (politely of course) that we are out together as a group and that the personal issues between them don't belong there. The easiest way is to simply change the topic of conversation back to what you all have in common. I'm sorry this is so long but I thought you might like a "different" view of things. Oh yes, friends is the very best way to start ANY relationship, if you can't manage that then the rest is just a lie. I do hope this helps some