Dating & Mental Health (78)
see could be the begining of something.
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I say proceed with caution. If you automatically dismiss someone, you could be missing out on the love of your life. On the other hand, it is important to have a clear understanding of the situation for your own protection.
Scubadiva: My guess is that a fair number of people who are "on the market" have or have had mental health issues; some more, some less serious; some temporary, some permanent. Perhaps most common are depression, anxiety, or OCD. Some people have anger issues or fears (say of abandonment, etc).
This is not to say we're all nutz, have been nutz or that people who aren't "on the market" don't have those issues. Just to be clear.
So then you meet someone and after you've established a preliminary relationship, they reveal to you that they're on 4 different meds to keep themselves mentally balanced.
How do you react? What mental health issues do you feel prepared to deal with, if any? Do you see it as a quid pro quo situation (i.e. I have anxiety issues, you're depressed, we both have issues, therefore we're okay type of thing)? Where does the mental health of your potential partner rank say compared to physical health?
This is not to say we're all nutz, have been nutz or that people who aren't "on the market" don't have those issues. Just to be clear.
So then you meet someone and after you've established a preliminary relationship, they reveal to you that they're on 4 different meds to keep themselves mentally balanced.
How do you react? What mental health issues do you feel prepared to deal with, if any? Do you see it as a quid pro quo situation (i.e. I have anxiety issues, you're depressed, we both have issues, therefore we're okay type of thing)? Where does the mental health of your potential partner rank say compared to physical health?
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mbcasey: Read my archives of forum posts....
I have talked extensively of being bipolar.
I have dated other women with bipolar disease and would so again.
Mental health has a very wide range, but I would date pretty well anyone who had mental health problems, BUT are trying to maintain their health through medication and/or therapy.
I have talked extensively of being bipolar.
I have dated other women with bipolar disease and would so again.
Mental health has a very wide range, but I would date pretty well anyone who had mental health problems, BUT are trying to maintain their health through medication and/or therapy.
admirable,,mb,,,I have a close friend with the same ill-ness,,but chooses to "forget" the medication. On top of it, enjoys his martini's,,not a healthy combination
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mbcasey: Read my archives of forum posts....
I have talked extensively of being bipolar.
I have dated other women with bipolar disease and would so again.
Mental health has a very wide range, but I would date pretty well anyone who had mental health problems, BUT are trying to maintain their health through medication and/or therapy.
I have talked extensively of being bipolar.
I have dated other women with bipolar disease and would so again.
Mental health has a very wide range, but I would date pretty well anyone who had mental health problems, BUT are trying to maintain their health through medication and/or therapy.
Same for me I've not hidden that aspect of my life at all.
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takeit4granted: admirable,,mb,,,I have a close friend with the same ill-ness,,but chooses to "forget" the medication. On top of it, enjoys his martini's,,not a healthy combination
Horrible combination for your friend...drinking with the meds. I hope he will be ok.
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Scubadiva: My guess is that a fair number of people who are "on the market" have or have had mental health issues; some more, some less serious; some temporary, some permanent. Perhaps most common are depression, anxiety, or OCD. Some people have anger issues or fears (say of abandonment, etc).
This is not to say we're all nutz, have been nutz or that people who aren't "on the market" don't have those issues. Just to be clear.
So then you meet someone and after you've established a preliminary relationship, they reveal to you that they're on 4 different meds to keep themselves mentally balanced.
How do you react? What mental health issues do you feel prepared to deal with, if any? Do you see it as a quid pro quo situation (i.e. I have anxiety issues, you're depressed, we both have issues, therefore we're okay type of thing)? Where does the mental health of your potential partner rank say compared to physical health?
This is not to say we're all nutz, have been nutz or that people who aren't "on the market" don't have those issues. Just to be clear.
So then you meet someone and after you've established a preliminary relationship, they reveal to you that they're on 4 different meds to keep themselves mentally balanced.
How do you react? What mental health issues do you feel prepared to deal with, if any? Do you see it as a quid pro quo situation (i.e. I have anxiety issues, you're depressed, we both have issues, therefore we're okay type of thing)? Where does the mental health of your potential partner rank say compared to physical health?
Luckily, depression and mental health issues in general have a much higher profile now than 20 years ago, and more is understood about them.
There can still be a stigma attached to sufferers though, and in my humble opinion it is mainly due to fear and lack of knowledge.
I feel very sorry for women who suffer post natal depression; it must be hell to deal with that as well as looking after a young child..
Hopefully knowledge will continue to increase, and humanity in general will learn just how common these issues are, and the fact that they can affect people from all walks of life.
JMO
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Luckily, depression and mental health issues in general have a much higher profile now than 20 years ago, and more is understood about them.
There can still be a stigma attached to sufferers though, and in my humble opinion it is mainly due to fear and lack of knowledge.
I agree whole heartedly. Look at the number of soldiers diagnosed with PTSD. Nothing has changed with soldiers minds over the generations and conflicts but now it's starting to be cared for (the mind) almost to the point of lunacy that every soldier has PTSD because there is really no black and white understanding to it.
There can still be a stigma attached to sufferers though, and in my humble opinion it is mainly due to fear and lack of knowledge.
I agree whole heartedly. Look at the number of soldiers diagnosed with PTSD. Nothing has changed with soldiers minds over the generations and conflicts but now it's starting to be cared for (the mind) almost to the point of lunacy that every soldier has PTSD because there is really no black and white understanding to it.
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You may find this hard to believe, but I have a mental illness!!
And I ain't so bed(most of the time)
And I ain't so bed(most of the time)
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takeit4granted: I wonder how many people would admit to having a mental health issue,,knowing how it may be perceived,,but knowing gives everyone an option
to admit sounds like its shameful
illness is illness
shame some have stigma
std's
chemical imbalance
infertility
mastectomy
many people w/ various maladies share that info easily and comfortably because they would also rather weed out potential failed relationships early and also to give others permission to investigate the possibility of solutions for what may be challenging THEM
if someone was witholding such info i would be more concerned
and the issue of felons was raised...i know hundreds of felons/
ex felons--lots of charges are felony charges-good lord-we have all regretted choices
if we continue to have such a list of no's it might be hard to find a yes
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pretzelman: You may find this hard to believe, but I have a mental illness!!
And I ain't so bed(most of the time)
And I ain't so bed(most of the time)
the list of successful people living with chemical imbalance is staggering
start w/ abe lincoln
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mbcasey: Both redheads?
It is part of keeping your sanity Pat. And by all means practice safe mental health....
It is part of keeping your sanity Pat. And by all means practice safe mental health....
I don't know........ Being old & senile, I would forget..
I have no sanity, and today I enjoy my insanity...
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mbcasey: Horrible combination for your friend...drinking with the meds. I hope he will be ok.
not to mention drinking instead of meds
hiiii MB
the number of people using other substances unknowingly to treat correctable chemical imbalance is well over 80% as far as research of people in recovery-meaning those that have come to the end of their drink/drug careers...
i know how we all love stats-
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mindfful: not to mention drinking instead of meds
hiiii MB the number of people using other substances unknowingly to treat correctable chemical imbalance is well over 80% as far as research of people in recovery-meaning those that have come to the end of their drink/drug careers...i know how we all love stats-
hiiii MB the number of people using other substances unknowingly to treat correctable chemical imbalance is well over 80% as far as research of people in recovery-meaning those that have come to the end of their drink/drug careers...i know how we all love stats-
I would well believe the percentage is high MF
An old girlfriend I had suffered from Depression and she refused to acknowledge it. She used to take 8 - 10 Solpadeine tabs a day for the Codeine in them...........
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Scubadiva: My guess is that a fair number of people who are "on the market" have or have had mental health issues; some more, some less serious; some temporary, some permanent. Perhaps most common are depression, anxiety, or OCD. Some people have anger issues or fears (say of abandonment, etc).
This is not to say we're all nutz, have been nutz or that people who aren't "on the market" don't have those issues. Just to be clear.
So then you meet someone and after you've established a preliminary relationship, they reveal to you that they're on 4 different meds to keep themselves mentally balanced.
How do you react? What mental health issues do you feel prepared to deal with, if any? Do you see it as a quid pro quo situation (i.e. I have anxiety issues, you're depressed, we both have issues, therefore we're okay type of thing)? Where does the mental health of your potential partner rank say compared to physical health?
This is not to say we're all nutz, have been nutz or that people who aren't "on the market" don't have those issues. Just to be clear.
So then you meet someone and after you've established a preliminary relationship, they reveal to you that they're on 4 different meds to keep themselves mentally balanced.
How do you react? What mental health issues do you feel prepared to deal with, if any? Do you see it as a quid pro quo situation (i.e. I have anxiety issues, you're depressed, we both have issues, therefore we're okay type of thing)? Where does the mental health of your potential partner rank say compared to physical health?
I being mentally unhealthy (IE: Depression) , would have hoped they would have been upfront about it early on, but I can understand had they not been. It would set things back a little bit on the trust issue, but nothing majorly because I understand the stigma that is attached to mental issues. I would insist that they be more upfront about who they are but on that same note, I would still let them know that I am there for them and that I still have feelings for them.
-JMO-
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druidess6308: If someone has that many issues that they're on that many meds for a mental health issue I would most likely have a problem with that. Usually it only requires two, and further meds are to treat the symptoms caused by the first two. Which would lead me back to Naturopathy...
Problem is, 4 can be reasonable. I take Lithium, which enhances the Wellbutron, but because of the insomnia associated with my depression, I take trazadone (Sleeping Pill) and Provigil (to counteract the Trazadones post-sleep grogginess). So in enssance, you end up taking alot of pills that counteract to balance different effects of different meds. They aren't all just for said mental disturbance.
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petalbabe: Luckily, depression and mental health issues in general have a much higher profile now than 20 years ago, and more is understood about them.
There can still be a stigma attached to sufferers though, and in my humble opinion it is mainly due to fear and lack of knowledge.
I feel very sorry for women who suffer post natal depression; it must be hell to deal with that as well as looking after a young child..
Hopefully knowledge will continue to increase, and humanity in general will learn just how common these issues are, and the fact that they can affect people from all walks of life.
JMO
There can still be a stigma attached to sufferers though, and in my humble opinion it is mainly due to fear and lack of knowledge.
I feel very sorry for women who suffer post natal depression; it must be hell to deal with that as well as looking after a young child..
Hopefully knowledge will continue to increase, and humanity in general will learn just how common these issues are, and the fact that they can affect people from all walks of life.
JMO
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There is a diffrence between havin a mental problem and being crazy. I have PTSD and i am up front with everyone, friends and anyone i may date, or be interested in dating. If they decide they cant deal with it oh well, their loss, im just like everyone else with the exception of the occasional flashback or nightmare. 
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Nick_24: There is a diffrence between havin a mental problem and being crazy. I have PTSD and i am up front with everyone, friends and anyone i may date, or be interested in dating. If they decide they cant deal with it oh well, their loss, im just like everyone else with the exception of the occasional flashback or nightmare.
i haaaaaad to come in just to see what you said
good job
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