Does living together strengthen or ruin a relationship? (41)
Merriweather: Good Evening Doc and everyone...
You know Doc, I just cannot get over how much you have changed from the first time you were on to now..
You seem much more at ease... perhaps you are happier now..?
in any case, is there something in the air here at CS???
But to reply to the post...
I would love to live with someone I have decided.. its taken me a long time to get round to thinking this way... I am so unhappy for my lonely house.. I think its definately time to add some sound to these four walls. This being quiet as a mouse is getting to me.. the silence is deafening...
I guess your right as I do not remember but thought I am the same and point from beginning you were willing to travel with me had I come to Spain. You know Doc, I just cannot get over how much you have changed from the first time you were on to now..
You seem much more at ease... perhaps you are happier now..?
in any case, is there something in the air here at CS???
But to reply to the post...
I would love to live with someone I have decided.. its taken me a long time to get round to thinking this way... I am so unhappy for my lonely house.. I think its definately time to add some sound to these four walls. This being quiet as a mouse is getting to me.. the silence is deafening...
I'm actually not happier so to speak but take things in stride moreso now I guess. Could be the CS water-
I agree with the empty house but no marriage which some may be turned off too although I am a 1 woman man, it may not cut any ice with females intent on marriage for whatever reason..
drbombay: I experienced it first hand & til this day I don't understand..
Maybe it is complacency. Perhaps people work more at a relationship if it hasn't been made 'legal.'
leigh2154: Ah so true, there are no guarantees in life....but a life without taking chances is no life at all...JMO, but is how I operate....And, so far I have no complaints and a lot of good memories!!
I'm sure we've talked about this many times, but I so agree, Leigh.
There can be little solice at the end of one's life, reflecting back with regrets and what if's. If it can be done, I would rather go ahead, than not...regardless of the outcome. If something is that important, it is worth the effort. The same with living together. And as years pass us by, why waste precious time. Too much to life to waste on one's own, though I would rather that than being in a dysfunctional relationship. I would never settle for the latter, just to be with someone.
drbombay: I guess your right as I do not remember but thought I am the same and point from beginning you were willing to travel with me had I come to Spain. I'm actually not happier so to speak but take things in stride moreso now I guess.
Could be the CS water-
I agree with the empty house but no marriage which some may be turned off too although I am a 1 woman man, it may not cut any ice with females intent on marriage for whatever reason..
Could be the CS water-
I agree with the empty house but no marriage which some may be turned off too although I am a 1 woman man, it may not cut any ice with females intent on marriage for whatever reason..
Never mind Doc, about the Spain thing.. I hired Steve5721 as a minder and we had a great time... He drove me to Barcelona, and took me about then drove me back to Moirira..That's interesting... your house has the I'm lonely look and feel about it too.?.. I swear, my house is just about ready to accept squatters . It only has its own shadow for company.. I guess I should look to change that... for the sake of the house of course...
Marriage is a bit of a bother tho... all that fuss for just one day..
No No.. I dont mean that... I had a happy marriage.. and my dad Mr Traditional paid for the wedding.. I dont think he'd pay for another one.. dang... perhaps that's why I have not married since...
I feel it's a personal thing, depending on the two people involved. For some it strengthens their bond, for others, it opens their eyes and allows him/her to see the other more clearly, and gives one the opportunity to....run screaming for the hills. 
Something that does play a factor is................timing.
It has to feel right, a natural progression, not forced on one person and the relationship needs to be stable. There's going to be teathing problems, so if its a rocky relationship its going to end in tears....
It has to feel right, a natural progression, not forced on one person and the relationship needs to be stable. There's going to be teathing problems, so if its a rocky relationship its going to end in tears....
almera03: Something that does play a factor is................timing.
It has to feel right, a natural progression, not forced on one person and the relationship needs to be stable. There's going to be teathing problems, so if its a rocky relationship its going to end in tears....
It has to feel right, a natural progression, not forced on one person and the relationship needs to be stable. There's going to be teathing problems, so if its a rocky relationship its going to end in tears....
Quite right... I am waiting for a Satori....
felixis99: statistically - and I really don't know how this was measured - in an article I read a couple of years ago, it apparently is not a good idea if you want to get married. There were some speculations as to the idea of it being to easy to "get out" when the going got rough because a marital commitment was not there
whether or not that is the case, they did find that engaged couples who lived together actually did not marry in as percentage of the time as those who did not live together
I have no opinion as I have not cohabitated on any regular basis with a man except of course when I was married, but have nothing against it
whether or not that is the case, they did find that engaged couples who lived together actually did not marry in as percentage of the time as those who did not live together
I have no opinion as I have not cohabitated on any regular basis with a man except of course when I was married, but have nothing against it
I lived with someone for six years. I gave up a great job to do it because he was in another state. The minute I moved in with him I learned how controlling he was. It's true that you don't know someone until you live with them but I doubt I would try it again. I know I won't marry again. Spending weekends together or week vacations together but not on a 24/7 basis.
missingLondon: What do you think?
Well my b/f and I live together and we've been going strong.If we were to get married I think it would ruin what we have.
We argue like a married couple and his family has asked him many times how your wife doing.LOL
Partners, he and she need to be responsible and give wow for themselves that they will stay strong as a couple and not be torn as soon as little challenge is shaking them up. Or even big problem. Then its almost no difference if they put it on paper or not. But People who do it, put on paper from the believe, not for the sake of status or money or getting sth. they make a seal for their wow. It's more trustworthy. 
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I agree Boban despite the research I read because I think if there are going to be huge "divorceable issues" I'd rather find out "sooner than later" if u know what I mean
and I agree I think living together does sound nice - with a man who I would want to spend that much time with, of course