Your baby is horribly deformed. Do you abort it? ( Archived) (30)

Also, by using the words "...recoil in horror. Your baby is hideously deformed..." it puts it in the realm of archaic witchery, bedevilment and general prejudice regarding disability.

To see the scan image of the child growing inside of you is just plain awesome. The fear that you are about to find out if everything is healthy with your child is acute. The relief at being told that you baby is alive and well...there are no words to describe it.

If I were told, or if I saw that there was something seriously amiss, I wouldn't recoil from my own child that I may lose. I'd want to hold on to him, or her. I'd want to nuture him, or her like I could make everything better.

There are times when parents have to make awful decisions in the best interests of their child, whether they are unborn, or have been born.

I doubt recoiling in horror is an accurate description without depression being an issue.

Slowly, slowly, a little faster than rain and wind eroding the side of a mountain, so man erodes and undermines a woman, women and their rights to be treated with dignity, respect and compassion in regards to their body, their thoughts and their reproductive rights.

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and deem you as being brave for raising this topic .... ..... and I'm sure you will learn to use the word 'recoil' when only referring to guns in the future ! But I would be totally shocked also to find out such tragic news.

Assuming that ultrasound or whatever the test required , was presented to me by professional, experienced doctors I would accept their diagnosis and elect to terminate. I would consider it inhumane not to with the constant pain element in particular.

I don't see where this is specifically addressed to women only.

Was that your intention ? .....

Thankfully I was raised around men that would have not put up with any woman being mistreated. All of them treat me with as much respect as they would a man. Even cooler they always expected as much from me as they did from a man.

Which is how it should be Katt!

Let it live and suffer, but in the process prove to all that you are the best parent in the world ......

Go to a happy thread I do believe this one has made you ill

I'm fine here thanks .....

Now, let's just get to the crux of the matter in hand shall we ......

Might have been better if you had listed a few more options in your poll, for instance yes, no, not sure, not until I did everything in my power to get a confirmed diagnosis....However, I am going with RD on this and giving you the benefit of the doubt....and it is an interesting topic...

Medical science/advancement is a good thing...to be able to determine the things you describe in your OP is a positive, a huge positive....in a case like the one you described it could even be considered a blessing...I would see a specialist and get as much confirmation/information as possible in the first trimester....I would do this immediately, and if my baby was abnormal to the degree you speak of, I would abort without hesitation.....

agreed...... Gotta go, but would like to have hung around to hear someone's logic towards the decision to allow such a life to exist.....

I would feel guilty if I had to terminate the life of a deformed child but at the same time, my belief is that it would be selfish to let this child suffer for the rest of it's life in order to safe myself from guilt.