So you decided to live together or get married! Would you sign a prenup or similar contract? (109)
WhatUwish4: Yup!
All the rest is sticks and bricks... means very little in the grand scheme of things
All the rest is sticks and bricks... means very little in the grand scheme of things
Sorry I dont agree, my home is not just sticks and bricks, it is my childrens home to and is part of my security for the future
hate to sound pollyanna
but i am secure
all ihave survived-self inflicted and otherwise
assures me that life goes on
and im always ok
and ive always benefitted from whatever ive just been thru
"good" or "bad"
i guess people consider different sources for their feeling of security
not surprising whatever i might say would be the wrong thing
oh well
im ok w/ how i feel about my choices-
lucky thing i guess
wth happened to the friendly atmosphere at CS anyway?
seems hard to answer anything w/o someone getting irked
im so tired of apologizing for my own life decisions-
i just wont do it anymore
and clearly im not missed
but i am secure
all ihave survived-self inflicted and otherwise
assures me that life goes on
and im always ok
and ive always benefitted from whatever ive just been thru
"good" or "bad"
i guess people consider different sources for their feeling of security
not surprising whatever i might say would be the wrong thing
oh well
im ok w/ how i feel about my choices-
lucky thing i guess
wth happened to the friendly atmosphere at CS anyway?
seems hard to answer anything w/o someone getting irked
im so tired of apologizing for my own life decisions-
i just wont do it anymore
and clearly im not missed
vonney: Sorry I dont agree, my home is not just sticks and bricks, it is my childrens home to and is part of my security for the future
Unless I'm mistaken, I think he means that all the fancy frills and whistles that so many people covet - not financial investments. The waste...the greed.. the extravagant lifestyle. At least that's what I was referring to.
mindfful: hate to sound pollyanna
but i am secure
all ihave survived-self inflicted and otherwise
assures me that life goes on
and im always ok
and ive always benefitted from whatever ive just been thru
"good" or "bad"i guess people consider different sources for their feeling of security
not surprising whatever i might say would be the wrong thing
oh well
im ok w/ how i feel about my choices-
lucky thing i guesswth happened to the friendly atmosphere at CS anyway?
seems hard to answer anything w/o someone getting irkedim so tired of apologizing for my own life decisions-
i just wont do it anymore
and clearly im not missed
but i am secure
all ihave survived-self inflicted and otherwise
assures me that life goes on
and im always ok
and ive always benefitted from whatever ive just been thru
"good" or "bad"i guess people consider different sources for their feeling of security
not surprising whatever i might say would be the wrong thing
oh well
im ok w/ how i feel about my choices-
lucky thing i guesswth happened to the friendly atmosphere at CS anyway?
seems hard to answer anything w/o someone getting irkedim so tired of apologizing for my own life decisions-
i just wont do it anymore
and clearly im not missed
Is not your problem hun if someone gets irked, is theirs.
And while we may not agree on everything I would miss you if you werent here.
I think I walked in on something here and didn't know it. Sorry if I offended anyone. I assure you it was unintentional.
vonney: If you had asked me this question 24 years ago just before I married I would have said, no way we trust each other and would never do anything to hurt the other...
As a result when my marriage ended it took me 5 years to get out of the debt my ex left me in, contrary to common belief women do not always come out of marriages better off than the men.
Ten years on I have worked hard for what I have and am not going to be niave enough to lose it again.
As a result when my marriage ended it took me 5 years to get out of the debt my ex left me in, contrary to common belief women do not always come out of marriages better off than the men.
Ten years on I have worked hard for what I have and am not going to be niave enough to lose it again.
Great observation / experience stated that may make other women consider changing their answer to ' yes' I'll do a pre-nup!
If you buy a house together, business, car or have loans, the person your with might declare personal bankruptcy and leave you holding the bag! If your married or in some cases living together, you may not be able to sell the home without the consent of your estranged partner. If your still married you may not be able to get a mortgage on a house without consent by your estranged partner. If you have a large savings account and you pay even one bill for a home you both own the account becomes family property. Your car may also disappear if you let your spouse ride in it, family property. Your stuff, if you want to keep it should be kept separate especially bank accounts and investments. Even a rpersons pension that they receive down the road can be viewed as family property and a portion of it given to a spouse even though you remarry!
NOTE:
When you retire and they ask you if you want your pension to go to your wife / husband make sure you have REVOKABLE beside their name because you may divorce and re-marry! I made that error!
WhatUwish4: I think I walked in on something here and didn't know it. Sorry if I offended anyone. I assure you it was unintentional.
Not from my point of view hun you didnt.
vonney: Not from my point of view hun you didnt.
Oh Good! I was thinking to add that I already posted earlier about the pre-nup - and I WOULD at least look into it for the sake of preserving some things I consider a legacy to my girls. But I would keep it very simple. AND I would sign one if he asked, as well.
I'm not irked, but I'll remove myself from the thread to avoid any more confusion. Have a great day.
kidatheart: I'm not irked, but I'll remove myself from the thread to avoid any more confusion. Have a great day.
Why?
Are we not just exchanging our views?
Harry! Don't leave!!!
I would sign a prenupt.
I've given up on marriage 
But in the past, when I was in a marrying mood, I always had a prenup.
When there are properties, stocks and assets that have been passed down for generations, it's nice to know that they will be passed along to the next generation.
Having a will is a good idea too
But in the past, when I was in a marrying mood, I always had a prenup.
When there are properties, stocks and assets that have been passed down for generations, it's nice to know that they will be passed along to the next generation.
Having a will is a good idea too
In my case yes have property & cash in the bank.
Sure would do a prenup contract before marriage. 
Divorce involves more than just annulment of marriage, also means being taken to the cleaners.
Divorce involves more than just annulment of marriage, also means being taken to the cleaners.cameraman: Sure would do a prenup contract before marriage. Divorce involves more than just annulment of marriage, also means being taken to the cleaners.
one would assume
avecaim: one would assume
That's true. Thank you.
Yup I would sign a prenup cause if things didn't work outbetween us and we'd take what we brought into that relationship plus what we bought together and like two civilzed adults divide what was purchased during the duration of said relationship and walk away.No muss,no fuss.
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But surely security and planning for the future include financial security?