So you decided to live together or get married! Would you sign a prenup or similar contract? (109)
kkitty4u: I learned my lesson I have been divorced for 13 yrs now and I have had a very long term relationship with another for 12 yrs and choose not to get married again and its not because I have never been asked. its because I know that nothing last 4-ever
So you were 14 when you got married or started living together, or your not 39! LOL .. I'm just being obnoxious, again!
iamsimply: So you were 14 when you got married or started living together, or your not 39! LOL .. I'm just being obnoxious, again!
no I was only married for 4 yrs 
I did marry my high school sweetheart 
kkitty4u: a very luck lady
kkitty4u: no I was only married for 4 yrs I did marry my high school sweetheart
Sorry! Misinterpreted what you wrote!
That's nice! Your lucky to have married your highschool sweetheart.
I went to a technicsl school full of guys, a couple of them wanted to marry me but I was focused on women!
For sure I never dropped the soap in the gym shower when they were around!
Untill now I never thought I would. In the last year I've had three proposals from men I've known all my life. It makes you think . Me or Money, Me or Money 
Moonneeyy yea I'd sign one.
This isn't normally something i would be worry about ,i would have said no to a pre-nup ,and no not because im stupid as some have said it or because im too young but just because i never thought along these lines .
So , i read the thread and iv took in what most of you have wrote and yes to an extent i agree with what most of you are saying ,and yes im now reconsidering how i think .
But it still sounds like some have no trust ,yes we have all said at one point il marry for life and it never works but what if you just dont give them that divorce to start with ? in the U.K unless you have done something both parties must agree or its a no go .
What a pre-nup says to me is "yeah i love you and wanna marry you BUT .........." maybe i just have a lot of thinking to do on this one and look at all sides .So il get back to this later .
I would just like to point out tho ,age does not define how intelligent you are nor does experience ,i may be young but keep in mind you were my age at one point too .
So , i read the thread and iv took in what most of you have wrote and yes to an extent i agree with what most of you are saying ,and yes im now reconsidering how i think .
But it still sounds like some have no trust ,yes we have all said at one point il marry for life and it never works but what if you just dont give them that divorce to start with ? in the U.K unless you have done something both parties must agree or its a no go .
What a pre-nup says to me is "yeah i love you and wanna marry you BUT .........." maybe i just have a lot of thinking to do on this one and look at all sides .So il get back to this later .
I would just like to point out tho ,age does not define how intelligent you are nor does experience ,i may be young but keep in mind you were my age at one point too .
dillydally: This isn't normally something i would be worry about ,i would have said no to a pre-nup ,and no not because im stupid as some have said it or because im too young but just because i never thought along these lines .
So , i read the thread and iv took in what most of you have wrote and yes to an extent i agree with what most of you are saying ,and yes im now reconsidering how i think .But it still sounds like some have no trust ,yes we have all said at one point il marry for life and it never works but what if you just dont give them that divorce to start with ? in the U.K unless you have done something both parties must agree or its a no go .What a pre-nup says to me is "yeah i love you and wanna marry you BUT .........." maybe i just have a lot of thinking to do on this one and look at all sides .So il get back to this later .
I would just like to point out tho ,age does not define how intelligent you are nor does experience ,i may be young but keep in mind you were my age at one point too .
So , i read the thread and iv took in what most of you have wrote and yes to an extent i agree with what most of you are saying ,and yes im now reconsidering how i think .But it still sounds like some have no trust ,yes we have all said at one point il marry for life and it never works but what if you just dont give them that divorce to start with ? in the U.K unless you have done something both parties must agree or its a no go .What a pre-nup says to me is "yeah i love you and wanna marry you BUT .........." maybe i just have a lot of thinking to do on this one and look at all sides .So il get back to this later .
I would just like to point out tho ,age does not define how intelligent you are nor does experience ,i may be young but keep in mind you were my age at one point too .
All the more reason to never get married in the first place. If both parties aren't in it together, they're better off apart, or everyone will end up miserable.
Likely where all those "who dunnit" murder mystries started from.
kidatheart: All the more reason to never get married in the first place. If both parties aren't in it together, they're better off apart, or everyone will end up miserable.
Likely where all those "who dunnit" murder mystries started from.
Likely where all those "who dunnit" murder mystries started from.
Kid! I'm shocked!
Report to my office for a good butt kicking!
WhatUwish4: Kid! I'm shocked!
Report to my office for a good butt kicking!
Report to my office for a good butt kicking!
I don't think anyone should ever have that feeling of being "trapped" in a relationship, especially if it's over. If all efforts have been exhausted to make it work and it won't, then no point in staying together.
Not granting a divorce can be seen as being spiteful.
kidatheart: I don't think anyone should ever have that feeling of being "trapped" in a relationship, especially if it's over. If all efforts have been exhausted to make it work and it won't, then no point in staying together.
Not granting a divorce can be seen as being spiteful.
'Not granting a divorce can be seen as being spiteful.
OHHHH! I thought you were saying never to marry at all...
OK No butt kicking for you!
WhatUwish4: '
OHHHH! I thought you were saying never to marry at all...
OK No butt kicking for you!
OHHHH! I thought you were saying never to marry at all...
OK No butt kicking for you!
I'm not totally opposed to the idea of marriage, just extremely wary. I've seen a lot of seemingly nice, civil and trustworthy people get extremely ugly during the course of a divorce that could have easily been worked out amicably.
I don't ever want to go through that myself, and will take every precaution that I can to prevent it from ever happening.
There's no reason for things to denegrate to mud slinging and underhanded tactics to hurt the other or to see them suffer, although it seems that's the norm.
People are funny creatures.
kidatheart: I'm not totally opposed to the idea of marriage, just extremely wary. I've seen a lot of seemingly nice, civil and trustworthy people get extremely ugly during the course of a divorce that could have easily been worked out amicably.
I don't ever want to go through that myself, and will take every precaution that I can to prevent it from ever happening.
There's no reason for things to denegrate to mud slinging and underhanded tactics to hurt the other or to see them suffer, although it seems that's the norm.
People are funny creatures.
I don't ever want to go through that myself, and will take every precaution that I can to prevent it from ever happening.
There's no reason for things to denegrate to mud slinging and underhanded tactics to hurt the other or to see them suffer, although it seems that's the norm.
People are funny creatures.
True, and everyone should be a little wary until they are sure.... but it's a WONDERFUL thing when it works!!! Truly...
WhatUwish4: True, and everyone should be a little wary until they are sure.... but it's a WONDERFUL thing when it works!!! Truly...
So is the peace of mind knowing you won't be eating cat food later in life.
kidatheart: Don't tease me like that.
Hmpf!
I would never tease a mean, negative GRINCH like you!
Still love ya though!
kidatheart: All the more reason to never get married in the first place. If both parties aren't in it together, they're better off apart, or everyone will end up miserable.
Likely where all those "who dunnit" murder mystries started from.
Likely where all those "who dunnit" murder mystries started from.
Who says anything about saying together ? i know plenty of people who are still married for the kids but apart from each other ,thats what i meant by not divorcing .
And murder mysteries only hold up half that claim ,the rest falls under pms
dillydally: Who says anything about staying together ?
even
your fault
dillydally: even
your fault
your fault
Not to worry Dilly Dally, Ked's going to get a good old-fashioned red-headed slap so we can knock some sense into him.
He'll be putty in your hands after that! KID!
WhatUwish4: Not to worry Dilly Dally, Ked's going to get a good old-fashioned red-headed slap so we can knock some sense into him. He'll be putty in your hands after that!
as long as he dont poke the eyes
dillydally: as long as he dont poke the eyes
I'll mention that to him....
Nice to see you!
Men haven't continued to reply to the poll so their stats haven't changed, still about 70% in favor of pre-nup or contract!
Women have continued to respond and if you add the yes vote and half the maybe vote as a % of the total women's vote it looks now to be much higher at about 62%
It seems that now there is a better chance of men and women forming a permanent relationship based on a pre-nup or contract agreement!
70% of men say pre-nup
62% of women say pre-nup
Means there are so far 38% of women who could not form a permanent relationship with 70% of the guys when con a pre-nup is taken into consideration.
Fortunately there are always about twice as many men on a dating site as there are women!
Which might raise another question, 50% or more of men will not have a relationship with a woman on the dating site for one reason or another ... is my logic flawed, I am a little tired!
Women have continued to respond and if you add the yes vote and half the maybe vote as a % of the total women's vote it looks now to be much higher at about 62%
It seems that now there is a better chance of men and women forming a permanent relationship based on a pre-nup or contract agreement!
70% of men say pre-nup
62% of women say pre-nup
Means there are so far 38% of women who could not form a permanent relationship with 70% of the guys when con a pre-nup is taken into consideration.
Fortunately there are always about twice as many men on a dating site as there are women!
Which might raise another question, 50% or more of men will not have a relationship with a woman on the dating site for one reason or another ... is my logic flawed, I am a little tired!
If you had asked me this question 24 years ago just before I married I would have said, no way we trust each other and would never do anything to hurt the other...
As a result when my marriage ended it took me 5 years to get out of the debt my ex left me in, contrary to common belief women do not always come out of marriages better off than the men.
Ten years on I have worked hard for what I have and am not going to be niave enough to lose it again.
As a result when my marriage ended it took me 5 years to get out of the debt my ex left me in, contrary to common belief women do not always come out of marriages better off than the men.
Ten years on I have worked hard for what I have and am not going to be niave enough to lose it again.
vonney: If you had asked me this question 24 years ago just before I married I would have said, no way we trust each other and would never do anything to hurt the other...
As a result when my marriage ended it took me 5 years to get out of the debt my ex left me in, contrary to common belief women do not always come out of marriages better off than the men.
Ten years on I have worked hard for what I have and am not going to be niave enough to lose it again.
As a result when my marriage ended it took me 5 years to get out of the debt my ex left me in, contrary to common belief women do not always come out of marriages better off than the men.
Ten years on I have worked hard for what I have and am not going to be niave enough to lose it again.
id sign
i came in alone ill go out alone
stuff is replaceable
ive lived 6 figure salary for some years consecutive
and i once lived in a car for 7 months
i know for sure the growth and experience stays w/ me
-it cant be removed
and it is for sure more valuable than any 'thing' i have ever owned
my experiences-they are what build me, make me grow me and shape me-experience is what stays
i can always shop again
whether its at Dillards or the dollar store
i came in alone ill go out alone
stuff is replaceable
ive lived 6 figure salary for some years consecutive
and i once lived in a car for 7 months
i know for sure the growth and experience stays w/ me
-it cant be removed
and it is for sure more valuable than any 'thing' i have ever owned
my experiences-they are what build me, make me grow me and shape me-experience is what stays
i can always shop again
whether its at Dillards or the dollar store
oh hiiii vonney!
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oh
ps
i dont do credit-so no debt...
ps
i dont do credit-so no debt...
mindfful: oh hiiii vonney!
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Hiya hun
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It's amazing how many people get the idea it's all about "stuff" and material goods. It's not, it's about security and planning ahead for the future.
kidatheart: It's amazing how many people get the idea it's all about "stuff" and material goods. It's not, it's about security and planning ahead for the future.
Yup!
All the rest is sticks and bricks... means very little in the grand scheme of things
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a very luck lady