will my broken heart ever heal??? (38)
sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
If your heart don't heal.....you'll get over whatever the problam seem to be.
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sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
It will for several reasons. One is your own thoughts and how you deal with your broken heart. If you allow yourself to feel that pain and then really let it go that will do wonders. Even the idea that you will meet someone else if you choose to will let you mend those tears in your heart. I know these feelings all to well. I have always been one to hold onto memories and feelings that I shared with that special person. Not often do I see members from Oregon so i Welcome you to the CS Forums. I hope you feel a healing soon.
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It will heal, just keep an open heart and mind and don't be stuck with the past.
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sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
No it won't. But your mind will grow and move on when you choose to, and then your heart won't hurt any more.------ This poll is Archived ------
It will heal eventually,time really do his job.
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Has it ever healed before? If so , it will again, kinda like a snail's shell.. If a snail cracks it's shell it mends itself :)
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sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
I believe your heart will heal in time.
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Nikogas: It will for several reasons. One is your own thoughts and how you deal with your broken heart. If you allow yourself to feel that pain and then really let it go that will do wonders. Even the idea that you will meet someone else if you choose to will let you mend those tears in your heart. I know these feelings all to well. I have always been one to hold onto memories and feelings that I shared with that special person. Not often do I see members from Oregon so i Welcome you to the CS Forums. I hope you feel a healing soon.
Nice post Nicko.
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When I was 27, I had a severe heart break. The initial pain lasted 9 months. The right side of my nostril is permanently collapsed from blowing my nose everyday for 9 months.
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Yes, but I think you have to work on it. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and thinking of the person won't help you with moving on. Go out with friends, do things you enjoy and actually try to move on yourself will get you over it. 
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justjim63: Nice post Nicko.
ty Jim,
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Scars have the strange power to remind us that our past is real.”? Cormac McCarthy
cracks wwill be there also, but we move on.
cracks wwill be there also, but we move on.
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Reading some of these post here reminded me of my last real heart break in life. A friend told me she would not tell me I would get over it just that I would learn to live with it and move on. She was right. Some heart aches you just don't get over, and others I have looked back on and wondered what was all that hurting for what was I thinking 
Either way just always keep putting one foot in front of the other till you get to the otherside
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sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
Hi Sally :)
Yes..it will dear
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Happygolucky4u: Reading some of these post here reminded me of my last real heart break in life. A friend told me she would not tell me I would get over it just that I would learn to live with it and move on. She was right. Some heart aches you just don't get over, and others I have looked back on and wondered what was all that hurting for what was I thinking Either way just always keep putting one foot in front of the other till you get to the otherside
Yep i agree with you, i lost my Son when he was little, i never got over it and i never will, but life goes on and i learnt to live with it, we can adapt and overcome most things in life.
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justjim63: Yep i agree with you, i lost my Son when he was little, i never got over it and i never will, but life goes on and i learnt to live with it, we can adapt and overcome most things in life.
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It depends upon what you want the most.
If you want to hold on to a miniscule part of that person forever, choosing to having a broken heart forever is the best option.
Its one of the most difficult things about grieving for a loved one who has died, as well: If we let go of the freshness of the pain, we start to let go of the person we loved and start to accept they are no longer with us.
Grieving is entirely necessary and we should allow ourselves the time to do that, but we may also choose to celebrate all the good things we learned and gained from that person by passing it on to others.
If you want to hold on to a miniscule part of that person forever, choosing to having a broken heart forever is the best option.
Its one of the most difficult things about grieving for a loved one who has died, as well: If we let go of the freshness of the pain, we start to let go of the person we loved and start to accept they are no longer with us.
Grieving is entirely necessary and we should allow ourselves the time to do that, but we may also choose to celebrate all the good things we learned and gained from that person by passing it on to others.
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jac379: It depends upon what you want the most.
If you want to hold on to a miniscule part of that person forever, choosing to having a broken heart forever is the best option.
Its one of the most difficult things about grieving for a loved one who has died, as well: If we let go of the freshness of the pain, we start to let go of the person we loved and start to accept they are no longer with us.
Grieving is entirely necessary and we should allow ourselves the time to do that, but we may also choose to celebrate all the good things we learned and gained from that person by passing it on to others.
If you want to hold on to a miniscule part of that person forever, choosing to having a broken heart forever is the best option.
Its one of the most difficult things about grieving for a loved one who has died, as well: If we let go of the freshness of the pain, we start to let go of the person we loved and start to accept they are no longer with us.
Grieving is entirely necessary and we should allow ourselves the time to do that, but we may also choose to celebrate all the good things we learned and gained from that person by passing it on to others.
In a way i think that's what i do, i don't want my heart to mend as it's a tangible reminder that Ben was once alive and by hanging on ever so slightly to the pain i still have him with me. Is that strange or wrong?
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justjim63: In a way i think that's what i do, i don't want my heart to mend as it's a tangible reminder that Ben was once alive and by hanging on ever so slightly to the pain i still have him with me. Is that strange or wrong?
It is the pain of missing what I had. When I sit at a grandchilds graduation from school I cannot help but to feel he should of been here he put so much into theirs, our lives. My daughter is getting married next weekend, first time a big white wedding. The pain I feel tug at my heart when she looked and said I have no one to dance the father daughter dance with. So I moved on I learned to do a dance called the wobble and the wedding party is going to get up and do that. That should be entertaining 
Only a parent that loves a child would be willing to get up and do something like that. But I know what you are saying. You cannot just erase their presence. You learn to move on. Same with my mum I miss her also. The pain with me is all self centered. It is not so much about them as about me 
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justjim63: In a way i think that's what i do, i don't want my heart to mend as it's a tangible reminder that Ben was once alive and by hanging on ever so slightly to the pain i still have him with me. Is that strange or wrong?
just in case you have never seen the wobble. You may send to my address cards of condolences for the act I am going to commit to the dance industry
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Happygolucky4u: It is the pain of missing what I had. When I sit at a grandchilds graduation from school I cannot help but to feel he should of been here he put so much into theirs, our lives. My daughter is getting married next weekend, first time a big white wedding. The pain I feel tug at my heart when she looked and said I have no one to dance the father daughter dance with. So I moved on I learned to do a dance called the wobble and the wedding party is going to get up and do that. That should be entertaining Only a parent that loves a child would be willing to get up and do something like that. But I know what you are saying. You cannot just erase their presence. You learn to move on. Same with my mum I miss her also. The pain with me is all self centered. It is not so much about them as about me
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it is not sure it can take many years
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sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
You may be devastated but you are not defeated.
Sometimes it takes a while to lick our wounds and get back in the saddle again, but you will. 7 months is still fresh, IMO.
Best wishes.
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No, you'll be miserable forever
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Yes of course it will. Not as long as your dwelling on it though. Its been 7 months...its time to push yourself a lil. You cant step into your future if you have one foot stuck in your past...
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sallyjomaesue: It's been 7 months and still feels as fresh as when it happened.
Have done a lot of grief counselling, it takes a woman on average about 5 years to get over the loss of a relationship. Men on average take about 2 years.
These are the statistics.
Don't focus on them, but focus on the truth that one day you will wake up and be able to live your full life again.
Having been there, I can say that it will happen. Just give yourself time, and find positive things to do and positive people to hang out with. It will help.
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justjim63: In a way i think that's what i do, i don't want my heart to mend as it's a tangible reminder that Ben was once alive and by hanging on ever so slightly to the pain i still have him with me. Is that strange or wrong?
No, it neither strange, nor wrong.
Its a natural part of grief and you're entitled to grieve in your own way.
I'm going to hazard a guess that the pain of losing Ben will never completely go away, nor will your memories of him. He will always be a part of who you are and therefore, will always be with you.
I don't think you need to be scared of losing him completely, whether you try to hold on to the pain, or not.
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jac379: No, it neither strange, nor wrong.
Its a natural part of grief and you're entitled to grieve in your own way.
I'm going to hazard a guess that the pain of losing Ben will never completely go away, nor will your memories of him. He will always be a part of who you are and therefore, will always be with you.
I don't think you need to be scared of losing him completely, whether you try to hold on to the pain, or not.
Its a natural part of grief and you're entitled to grieve in your own way.
I'm going to hazard a guess that the pain of losing Ben will never completely go away, nor will your memories of him. He will always be a part of who you are and therefore, will always be with you.
I don't think you need to be scared of losing him completely, whether you try to hold on to the pain, or not.
Thankyou Jac that was beautiful, i miss him so much.
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I want to know the same thing. I was married 20 yrs alone now for over 3 and it still seems like it was just yesterday
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justjim63: Thankyou Jac that was beautiful, i miss him so much.
I can't begin to imagine how much you miss Ben.
That's a lie. I can begin to imagine it, but then I can choose not to go there because its too overwhelming to even contemplate.
I'm sorry you've lost that choice and have to be there.
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