Would you date someone with a mental illness? (Please answer) (69)

Yeah, I get you.

But isn't there a difference between a potential relationship rule which says, "I can't afford to emotionally give more than I emotionally receive" and "a mentally ill person will emotionally drain me and a mentally well person won't", before knowing about someone's needs, or capabilities?

It strikes me the former is good sense, the latter foolish.

Yes! In some degree, we all have mental illness.

What is Mental Illness: Mental Illness Facts

"Mental illnesses are medical conditions that disrupt a person's thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others and daily functioning. Just as diabetes is a disorder of the pancreas, mental illnesses are medical conditions that often result in a diminished capacity for coping with the ordinary demands of life.

Serious mental illnesses include major depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic disorder, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and borderline personality disorder. The good news about mental illness is that recovery is possible..... "



Would you date someone with a mental illness?





No.

The Concept of Terminal Mental Illness

According to U.S. Legal, a terminal illness is defined as "an active and progressive illness for which there is no cure and the prognosis is fatal."

Think back to Elena for a moment: Her illness was certainly active; it haunted her almost every day of her life. It was also progressive and each episode of clinical depression was worse than the one preceding it. Her illness was impervious to multiple modes of treatment from faith healing to traditional Western psychiatry. And several physicians predicted Elena's mental illness would end in death by suicide. Eventually, it did. Elena's depression seems to meet all the criteria for a terminal illness.

Just like a cancer patient can take every recommended treatment and still not achieve remission, some people with severe mental illness can try a host of remedies and still not achieve relief from their symptoms, symptoms so painful their ultimate result is predictably self-destruction.

For People with Mental Illness

This article looks at severe mental illnesses that do not respond to treatment – fortunately, this type of mental illness is the exception rather than the rule.

Estimates suggest that depression is 80% to 90% treatable with a combination of medication and talk therapy, though symptoms may reoccur and the patient may need to undergo another round of treatment.

Bipolar disorder, too, can usually be well managed with education, mood stabilizers, and therapy.

It's a sad fact that many mentally ill people who commit suicide never seek any type of treatment at all due to their fear of being stigmatized – the equivalent of women dying of breast cancer years ago because they were too embarrassed to go to a doctor.

If you are considering suicide, talk to a counselor, social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist. If you think you can't afford to seek psychiatric treatment, go to your community mental health center and see if they will treat you on a sliding scale, or call the National Suicide Hotline, 1-800-273-8255 for the location of a crisis center near you.

Don't make the assumption that your symptoms can't be managed just because they haven't been managed yet.

For Suicide Survivors

Those who have lost a loved one to suicide are frequently haunted by questions about why their loved one chose to leave them. If you are able to accept the view of some mental illnesses as terminal, you may find some comfort in realizing that often there was no "choice" – only unbearable, intractable pain that could have had no other reasonable outcome.

For additional support and information, check out the Alliance of Hope for Suicide Survivors.

what do you categorise as a serious mental illness?

Psychopathy, along with borderline personality disorder and malignant narcissism, is an incurable personality disorder. Personality disorders are character deficiencies that are so deeply ingrained in one’s personality that they are, for all practical purposes, unchangeable.


Most websites and books on romantic relationships tell readers what steps to take to get them or improve them. By way of contrast, I tell you bluntly and in detail why and how to disengage for good from the psychopathic bond. If there’s one kind of relationship that’s not worth saving, it’s one with a psychopath. You can’t change a psychopath. Consequently, you also can’t improve your relationship with him.
Psychologists call psychopathy “pathological.” They state that psychopaths suffer from a severe “personality disorder,” not just normal human flaws that can be worked on and ameliorated. Sandra L. Brown, M.A. underscores in How to spot a dangerous man before you get involved that “Pathology is forever.” (23) It’s the result of a faulty brain wiring, sometimes coupled with emotional trauma that occurs during childhood development, which can’t be altered in any significant way once the psychopath reaches adulthood.

Brown doesn’t mince words when she describes a psychopath as “an emotional predator” who represents “the pinnacle of poisonous and pathological dating choices.” (179) When involved with such an individual, she cautions, “You will never change his physiology or his bad wiring. You will never love him into safety, sanity, or sanctity.” (21)
Women involved with psychopaths have been conditioned by their partners to assume most of the blame for the problems that occur in the relationship. They’re often deeply in love. They hope that the psychopath will magically improve and grow to love them more meaningfully. Often, they seek therapy, counseling or support groups. They grasp at any straw that can help them salvage the pathological relationship. As time goes on, they focus on the increasingly fewer positive aspects of the relationship. They cherish the memories of how well they were treated in the beginning. They go into denial so that they don’t have to face the deliberate malice of the person they love, to whom they may have devoted their entire lives.


When faced with the vast discrepancy between the psychopath’s nice words and his malicious actions, they feel lost, disoriented and alone. They stubbornly cling to the psychopath and to the fantasy of romantic love he initially created. They believe the psychopath has a good side, which reflects his real positive qualities, and a bad side, which they often take the blame for. Psychopaths don’t have a good side. That supposedly good side—made up mostly of fake charm, manipulation and lies–is only a mask they put on in order to establish dominance over other human beings and use them for their selfish purposes. Because we want to believe there’s some good in every human being, it’s difficult to accept that

psychopaths are, at core, evil. Unfortunately, that’s the case. As Liane Leedom puts it, psychopaths are “driven to do evil”. Their compulsion to harm others and their predatory desires are physiologically rooted in their personality structure.