When you find someone on a dating site should you stop logging in? (135)
Glatlol:
"As I said earlier IMO it is not right to be on a singles site if you are not actually single."
"As I said earlier IMO it is not right to be on a singles site if you are not actually single."
I read, and re-read this a couple of times, and voila, I agree with you.
montemonte: When I joined I wasn't looking for a relationship but when you're not looking is when the best one comes along.....and he did
I'm still here because he is still here. I know I will eventually leave. If he wants to stay, that's his prerogative.
Hiya Monte--howz it goin'?I'm still here because he is still here. I know I will eventually leave. If he wants to stay, that's his prerogative.
rohaan: Hiya Monte--howz it goin'?
Hi Ro.....doing pretty well even after knee replacement for the second time.
Glatlol: I was simply posting the sites terms and conditions.
I agree that marriage can be formal or informal, there is a timeframe here, cant remember what it is, where you are considered "common law" husband and wife.
As I said earlier IMO it is not right to be on a singles site if you are not actually single.
I agree that marriage can be formal or informal, there is a timeframe here, cant remember what it is, where you are considered "common law" husband and wife.
As I said earlier IMO it is not right to be on a singles site if you are not actually single.
What if you met mr wonderful on the forums and he wanted to log in ever now and then, so many people claim to have met mr.right here and still log in.
Not about having contact with who ever you clicked with. It is the banther with all the folks you connected with, and that makes the forums. If your here day or night, remember for some, this is a life line. They wont openly admit it, but we know it is. jmo
Glatlol: I was simply posting the sites terms and conditions.
I agree that marriage can be formal or informal, there is a timeframe here, cant remember what it is, where you are considered "common law" husband and wife.
As I said earlier IMO it is not right to be on a singles site if you are not actually single.
I agree that marriage can be formal or informal, there is a timeframe here, cant remember what it is, where you are considered "common law" husband and wife.
As I said earlier IMO it is not right to be on a singles site if you are not actually single.
Glat, it's my opinion that when CS was formed it was meant for singles, hence the name.
Times have changed and the word "single" can have different meanings. I am technically single because I'm not married. However, I'm not single in the sense that I'm on here to look for a partner.
So I think it depends how one interprets the word "single".
I don't think married couples are going to cause a problem for those who are still looking for a partner.
For example, RDM and Marijo. They are attached. Do they pose a threat to other singles......no, they don't.
That is a personal choice: some choose to be part of the CS forums even if they are not single or not looking for a partner.
However, I do find hilarious to see a couple sending kisses or exchanging
messages in the fora.
Me, had I found Romeo I would not be here or at least not as frequently as I do and certainly I would keep my relationship private.
However, I do find hilarious to see a couple sending kisses or exchanging
messages in the fora.Me, had I found Romeo I would not be here or at least not as frequently as I do and certainly I would keep my relationship private.
truheart1941: ...Ohio...must be a nice place to live....(nice class of people)....
that's because its next to Indiana LOL
Checkers101: I still log in here but have made it clear on my profile that I am married to a wonderful woman,although its hard for some to believe I still have people on this site I consider friends. I also like the polls and blogs
For more than half of the time I'm on here I had it on my profile that I wasn't looking (no time for a relationship because of work, travelling and studying). At this stage I'm not looking for someone on here but I like the forums and blogs as entertainment when I'm travelling or sitting at home some evenings reading or watching telly.
So if I meet someone in RL and he has no problems with me being here, I would stay on. I personally have no problem with people who have met someone using the site as long as they say it on their profile.
montemonte: Glat, it's my opinion that when CS was formed it was meant for singles, hence the name.
Times have changed and the word "single" can have different meanings. I am technically single because I'm not married. However, I'm not single in the sense that I'm on here to look for a partner.
So I think it depends how one interprets the word "single".
I don't think married couples are going to cause a problem for those who are still looking for a partner.
For example, RDM and Marijo. They are attached. Do they pose a threat to other singles......no, they don't.
Times have changed and the word "single" can have different meanings. I am technically single because I'm not married. However, I'm not single in the sense that I'm on here to look for a partner.
So I think it depends how one interprets the word "single".
I don't think married couples are going to cause a problem for those who are still looking for a partner.
For example, RDM and Marijo. They are attached. Do they pose a threat to other singles......no, they don't.
I dont agree M. Single is simply that single as in not in a relationship you dont have to be married to be not single.
I am sure they dont cause a problem and if someone wants to stay on the site when not single thats entirely their business, I am simply stating how I feel about the matter.
lifeisadream: and certainly I would keep my relationship private.
......being a bigamist.....I have no conscience.....about being on here....
....that's your problem not mine....
....that's your problem not mine.... Well, I'm not 'single' and my profile clearly states Im in a relationship, and my profile picture shows me and my bf so it's pretty clear Im not looking anymore.
I was -single- when I joined , but I still like the forums and blogs and stuff and he has no problem or whatsoeever that Im still around. He doesn't come around anymore though, but it's his business.
Now , in a while I won't be legally 'single' anymore either , and more likely I will still come around.
And I don't see any harm on it, I like people here. Specially some, hehe.
Ps: Im the kind of person that doesn't take restrictions very well. If He would have told me ' You CANT come around on CS'... Just because... then I would have a problem.
Saludos :D
I found someone via this site a few years ago. I was always honest and up-front about my activity here. Yes, I have made friends over the years who I have kept in touch with via other means but I enjoyed the Forums. Some folk are very entertaining, there's good banter, interesting debates and a fair few laughs - better to inter-act with others from around the globe than watch TV repeats of rubbish. I have been clear both here and to my partner, who had access to my participation, that there was no intention of looking/dating/cheating, etc for me......
Things have changed a bit now but still only interested in the Forum and friends
Things have changed a bit now but still only interested in the Forum and friends
xxDandelionxx: I found someone via this site a few years ago. I was always honest and up-front about my activity here. Yes, I have made friends over the years who I have kept in touch with via other means but I enjoyed the Forums. Some folk are very entertaining, there's good banter, interesting debates and a fair few laughs - better to inter-act with others from around the globe than watch TV repeats of rubbish. I have been clear both here and to my partner, who had access to my participation, that there was no intention of looking/dating/cheating, etc for me......
Things have changed a bit now but still only interested in the Forum and friends
....good for you D.....Things have changed a bit now but still only interested in the Forum and friends
No.you should not stop logging in.Your partner should trust you.Anyway,its always good to have someone in reserve 
Lot of good answers on here and understandably so why one should stay on a site or stop logging-in. For me, when I find a dating partner that turns-out to be sort-of long term, I stop logging in. I feel that my attention should be given to her exclusively, logging-in could be interpreted as being a player.
CuddlingSoul: Lot of good answers on here and understandably so why one should stay on a site or stop logging-in. For me, when I find a dating partner that turns-out to be sort-of long term, I stop logging in. I feel that my attention should be given to her exclusively, logging-in could be interpreted as being a player.
....I like your thinking....C.As this is an international site, some people form connections long distance. Sometimes it can take a while to meet, sometimes it can take a while to be together regularly, or permenantly.
Do I have to permenantly live in the same house as someone to be allowed to call it a proper relationship, a real relationship?
At what point am I allowed to call a connection a relationship?
At what point am I allowed to stop showing any interest in developing a bond with other people? If I've formed a connection, but not met someone, do I have to try and make connections with other men because technically I'm single and not allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards the connection I'm forming with someone? Am I not allowed to make myself vulnerable and take a risk I might have a connection with someone that has potential to grow? Or am I just wasting your time by making my own choices about my own life with someone you don't know?
If I'm allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards someone I'm making a connection with, I'm not allowed to use this medium to maintain and develop that connection, right? I have to use mediums that I either don't have access to, or don't like using to prove to everyone I have the loyalty, integrity and commitment to the connection I'm not allowed to call a proper, or real relationship, right?
I like the connections I've made on here, they're all different and one is particularly important to me. I like the format and colours on here, I find it comfortable to read (its a dyslexic thing). I like being able to dip in and out all day and all night long as it helps my focus if I break down work tasks (I think that might be an ADD/ADHD thing). I like knowing people are around and I'm not totally isolated as I work from home, even if I don't make any comments, or talk to anyone for a bit. I like the forums. I like that I have material to discuss with the people I'm connected with, it helps developing those connections across the distance.
But you're deeply suspicious that none of this is really true and I'm a liar and a cheat.
When are you going to let me call those connections relationships, as you and I often relate to each other over the forums?
When are you going to let me be me, accept me as I am, let me decide for myself about my relationships, honesty, integrity and how things work best for me?
Sorry, that's a bit of a confusing babble directed at no one in particular, but its an accurate reflection of how I think when I see all the different opinions about what a 'real' relationship is and what function CS has for me according to you.
May I decide for myself please? Can you trust me to make decisions appropriate for me? Its so much simpler.
Do I have to permenantly live in the same house as someone to be allowed to call it a proper relationship, a real relationship?
At what point am I allowed to call a connection a relationship?
At what point am I allowed to stop showing any interest in developing a bond with other people? If I've formed a connection, but not met someone, do I have to try and make connections with other men because technically I'm single and not allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards the connection I'm forming with someone? Am I not allowed to make myself vulnerable and take a risk I might have a connection with someone that has potential to grow? Or am I just wasting your time by making my own choices about my own life with someone you don't know?
If I'm allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards someone I'm making a connection with, I'm not allowed to use this medium to maintain and develop that connection, right? I have to use mediums that I either don't have access to, or don't like using to prove to everyone I have the loyalty, integrity and commitment to the connection I'm not allowed to call a proper, or real relationship, right?
I like the connections I've made on here, they're all different and one is particularly important to me. I like the format and colours on here, I find it comfortable to read (its a dyslexic thing). I like being able to dip in and out all day and all night long as it helps my focus if I break down work tasks (I think that might be an ADD/ADHD thing). I like knowing people are around and I'm not totally isolated as I work from home, even if I don't make any comments, or talk to anyone for a bit. I like the forums. I like that I have material to discuss with the people I'm connected with, it helps developing those connections across the distance.
But you're deeply suspicious that none of this is really true and I'm a liar and a cheat.
When are you going to let me call those connections relationships, as you and I often relate to each other over the forums?
When are you going to let me be me, accept me as I am, let me decide for myself about my relationships, honesty, integrity and how things work best for me?
Sorry, that's a bit of a confusing babble directed at no one in particular, but its an accurate reflection of how I think when I see all the different opinions about what a 'real' relationship is and what function CS has for me according to you.
May I decide for myself please? Can you trust me to make decisions appropriate for me? Its so much simpler.
jac379: As this is an international site, some people form connections long distance. Sometimes it can take a while to meet, sometimes it can take a while to be together regularly, or permenantly.
Do I have to permenantly live in the same house as someone to be allowed to call it a proper relationship, a real relationship?
At what point am I allowed to call a connection a relationship?
At what point am I allowed to stop showing any interest in developing a bond with other people? If I've formed a connection, but not met someone, do I have to try and make connections with other men because technically I'm single and not allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards the connection I'm forming with someone? Am I not allowed to make myself vulnerable and take a risk I might have a connection with someone that has potential to grow? Or am I just wasting your time by making my own choices about my own life with someone you don't know?
If I'm allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards someone I'm making a connection with, I'm not allowed to use this medium to maintain and develop that connection, right? I have to use mediums that I either don't have access to, or don't like using to prove to everyone I have the loyalty, integrity and commitment to the connection I'm not allowed to call a proper, or real relationship, right?
I like the connections I've made on here, they're all different and one is particularly important to me. I like the format and colours on here, I find it comfortable to read (its a dyslexic thing). I like being able to dip in and out all day and all night long as it helps my focus if I break down work tasks (I think that might be an ADD/ADHD thing). I like knowing people are around and I'm not totally isolated as I work from home, even if I don't make any comments, or talk to anyone for a bit. I like the forums. I like that I have material to discuss with the people I'm connected with, it helps developing those connections across the distance.
But you're deeply suspicious that none of this is really true and I'm a liar and a cheat.
When are you going to let me call those connections relationships, as you and I often relate to each other over the forums?
When are you going to let me be me, accept me as I am, let me decide for myself about my relationships, honesty, integrity and how things work best for me?
Sorry, that's a bit of a confusing babble directed at no one in particular, but its an accurate reflection of how I think when I see all the different opinions about what a 'real' relationship is and what function CS has for me according to you.
May I decide for myself please? Can you trust me to make decisions appropriate for me? Its so much simpler.
Do I have to permenantly live in the same house as someone to be allowed to call it a proper relationship, a real relationship?
At what point am I allowed to call a connection a relationship?
At what point am I allowed to stop showing any interest in developing a bond with other people? If I've formed a connection, but not met someone, do I have to try and make connections with other men because technically I'm single and not allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards the connection I'm forming with someone? Am I not allowed to make myself vulnerable and take a risk I might have a connection with someone that has potential to grow? Or am I just wasting your time by making my own choices about my own life with someone you don't know?
If I'm allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards someone I'm making a connection with, I'm not allowed to use this medium to maintain and develop that connection, right? I have to use mediums that I either don't have access to, or don't like using to prove to everyone I have the loyalty, integrity and commitment to the connection I'm not allowed to call a proper, or real relationship, right?
I like the connections I've made on here, they're all different and one is particularly important to me. I like the format and colours on here, I find it comfortable to read (its a dyslexic thing). I like being able to dip in and out all day and all night long as it helps my focus if I break down work tasks (I think that might be an ADD/ADHD thing). I like knowing people are around and I'm not totally isolated as I work from home, even if I don't make any comments, or talk to anyone for a bit. I like the forums. I like that I have material to discuss with the people I'm connected with, it helps developing those connections across the distance.
But you're deeply suspicious that none of this is really true and I'm a liar and a cheat.
When are you going to let me call those connections relationships, as you and I often relate to each other over the forums?
When are you going to let me be me, accept me as I am, let me decide for myself about my relationships, honesty, integrity and how things work best for me?
Sorry, that's a bit of a confusing babble directed at no one in particular, but its an accurate reflection of how I think when I see all the different opinions about what a 'real' relationship is and what function CS has for me according to you.
May I decide for myself please? Can you trust me to make decisions appropriate for me? Its so much simpler.
Jac, I think the question refers to folk who continue to log on after having found the "love of their life".Depends
Migsy: Depends
Hi migs.This site is nice even if one finds a soulmate.
jac379: As this is an international site, some people form connections long distance. Sometimes it can take a while to meet, sometimes it can take a while to be together regularly, or permenantly.
Do I have to permenantly live in the same house as someone to be allowed to call it a proper relationship, a real relationship?
At what point am I allowed to call a connection a relationship?
At what point am I allowed to stop showing any interest in developing a bond with other people? If I've formed a connection, but not met someone, do I have to try and make connections with other men because technically I'm single and not allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards the connection I'm forming with someone? Am I not allowed to make myself vulnerable and take a risk I might have a connection with someone that has potential to grow? Or am I just wasting your time by making my own choices about my own life with someone you don't know?
If I'm allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards someone I'm making a connection with, I'm not allowed to use this medium to maintain and develop that connection, right? I have to use mediums that I either don't have access to, or don't like using to prove to everyone I have the loyalty, integrity and commitment to the connection I'm not allowed to call a proper, or real relationship, right?
I like the connections I've made on here, they're all different and one is particularly important to me. I like the format and colours on here, I find it comfortable to read (its a dyslexic thing). I like being able to dip in and out all day and all night long as it helps my focus if I break down work tasks (I think that might be an ADD/ADHD thing). I like knowing people are around and I'm not totally isolated as I work from home, even if I don't make any comments, or talk to anyone for a bit. I like the forums. I like that I have material to discuss with the people I'm connected with, it helps developing those connections across the distance.
But you're deeply suspicious that none of this is really true and I'm a liar and a cheat.
When are you going to let me call those connections relationships, as you and I often relate to each other over the forums?
When are you going to let me be me, accept me as I am, let me decide for myself about my relationships, honesty, integrity and how things work best for me?
Sorry, that's a bit of a confusing babble directed at no one in particular, but its an accurate reflection of how I think when I see all the different opinions about what a 'real' relationship is and what function CS has for me according to you.
May I decide for myself please? Can you trust me to make decisions appropriate for me? Its so much simpler.
Do I have to permenantly live in the same house as someone to be allowed to call it a proper relationship, a real relationship?
At what point am I allowed to call a connection a relationship?
At what point am I allowed to stop showing any interest in developing a bond with other people? If I've formed a connection, but not met someone, do I have to try and make connections with other men because technically I'm single and not allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards the connection I'm forming with someone? Am I not allowed to make myself vulnerable and take a risk I might have a connection with someone that has potential to grow? Or am I just wasting your time by making my own choices about my own life with someone you don't know?
If I'm allowed to have integrity and loyalty towards someone I'm making a connection with, I'm not allowed to use this medium to maintain and develop that connection, right? I have to use mediums that I either don't have access to, or don't like using to prove to everyone I have the loyalty, integrity and commitment to the connection I'm not allowed to call a proper, or real relationship, right?
I like the connections I've made on here, they're all different and one is particularly important to me. I like the format and colours on here, I find it comfortable to read (its a dyslexic thing). I like being able to dip in and out all day and all night long as it helps my focus if I break down work tasks (I think that might be an ADD/ADHD thing). I like knowing people are around and I'm not totally isolated as I work from home, even if I don't make any comments, or talk to anyone for a bit. I like the forums. I like that I have material to discuss with the people I'm connected with, it helps developing those connections across the distance.
But you're deeply suspicious that none of this is really true and I'm a liar and a cheat.
When are you going to let me call those connections relationships, as you and I often relate to each other over the forums?
When are you going to let me be me, accept me as I am, let me decide for myself about my relationships, honesty, integrity and how things work best for me?
Sorry, that's a bit of a confusing babble directed at no one in particular, but its an accurate reflection of how I think when I see all the different opinions about what a 'real' relationship is and what function CS has for me according to you.
May I decide for myself please? Can you trust me to make decisions appropriate for me? Its so much simpler.
Wow, I had to read that twice. This stuff is new to me. So a connection, like you have with one or more is actually a relationship that could or could not progress. I can see that.
I would if it was that serious. As a single man I feel ashamed about coming on here as it is and if I had a proper, serious girlfriend - as opposed to the stream of floozies I'm currently ploughing my way through - then I'd feel not twice, but thrice the shame about coming on here for my daily howl at the moon.
janie1305: Jac, I think the question refers to folk who continue to log on after having found the "love of their life".
When am I allowed to call someone the 'love of my life'?
pedalguy59: Wow, I had to read that twice. This stuff is new to me. So a connection, like you have with one or more is actually a relationship that could or could not progress. I can see that.
Try reading a third time.
I hope that question is rheorical
jac379: Try reading a third time.
Hey, I might be the only one who read it.
pedalguy59: Hey, I might be the only one who read it.
No I read it twice too...um what to say..speechless..
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When I joined I wasn't looking for a relationship but when you're not looking is when the best one comes along.....and he did
I'm still here because he is still here. I know I will eventually leave. If he wants to stay, that's his prerogative.