Friends with benefits..Should single people have them? (100)
LoriJames20: Que lindo! Hablas espanol??
Si un poco, aunque hace tiempo....
freemind63: Si un poco, aunque hace tiempo....
Super!! Gusto en conocerte.
As people say being there did that.
LoriJames20: Super!! Gusto en conocerte.
igualmente
I have a girlfriend who is dealing with tthe "Friends With Benefits" situation now. It's not me, I promise. Anyway it's been one year since they've been doing this. She has developed feelings for him and wants to be in a serious relationship with him but he absolutely just wants to be friends w/bene's. He doesn't SAY it directly but the signs are crystal clear. She kinda realises this but she is relentless in trying to push him into a relationship. At the same time, she in denial. Regardless, she is heartbroken that it isn't working out. She's 49, attractive but feels like she's waisting precious time on him and her biological clock is ticking.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
Girljuice: I have a girlfriend who is dealing with tthe "Friends With Benefits" situation now. It's not me, I promise. Anyway it's been one year since they've been doing this. She has developed feelings for him and wants to be in a serious relationship with him but he absolutely just wants to be friends w/bene's. He doesn't SAY it directly but the signs are crystal clear. She kinda realises this but she is relentless in trying to push him into a relationship. At the same time, she in denial. Regardless, she is heartbroken that it isn't working out. She's 49, attractive but feels like she's waisting precious time on him and her biological clock is ticking.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
How can you separate friendship and intimacy? It must emotionally stressful to have a "friend with benefits"..............unless of course as CC says its only for exercise!!
LoriJames20: How can you separate friendship and intimacy? It must emotionally stressful to have a "friend with benefits"..............unless of course as CC says its only for exercise!!
I didn't say it Robert A. Heindein said it.
LoriJames20: How can you separate friendship and intimacy? It must emotionally stressful to have a "friend with benefits"..............unless of course as CC says its only f
or exercise!!
or exercise!!
She is very stressed, confused and hurt and I feel very sorry for her.
Girljuice:
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
It happened to some friends of mine too... Although I never had this experience, I know how complicated FWB things in the long run... One or either party could have possibility to get trapped into something deeper...
LoriJames20: How can you separate friendship and intimacy? It must emotionally stressful to have a "friend with benefits"..............unless of course as CC says its only f
or exercise!!
or exercise!!
She is very stressed, confused and hurt and I feel very sorry for her.
Girljuice: I have a girlfriend who is dealing with tthe "Friends With Benefits" situation now. It's not me, I promise. Anyway it's been one year since they've been doing this. She has developed feelings for him and wants to be in a serious relationship with him but he absolutely just wants to be friends w/bene's. He doesn't SAY it directly but the signs are crystal clear. She kinda realises this but she is relentless in trying to push him into a relationship. At the same time, she in denial. Regardless, she is heartbroken that it isn't working out. She's 49, attractive but feels like she's waisting precious time on him and her biological clock is ticking.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
I wouldn't recommend the FWB thing. I think someone always develops stronger feelings only to wind up getting hurt in the long run.
Why would the fella want that, he's happy the way it is,\good luck getting him to commit. In my case, my girlfriend already had them. I lived with it, when one showed up from the other side
of the world for a visit, I just stayed away.
pedalguy59: I would not tolerate it now, it's me 100% or nothing.
Way to go!!
pedalguy59: I would not tolerate it now, it's me 100% or nothing.
Good for you!
Cyn_Real: It happened to some friends of mine too... Although I never had this experience, I know how complicated FWB things in the long run... One or either party could have possibility to get trapped into something deeper...
Being trapped is not a good feeling.
As I see this from the 'outside', it's really sad to watch her pushing her way and trying to force him into more. She look's almost pathetic. it hurts me to see her hurting.
This is a falsehood as someone always gets hurt. A very rare occurance when two people jump each others bones and there is an equal level of non involvement. One usually harbours (yes I am Canadian, check the spelling of harbour LOL) more feelings than the other and hopes that with the intimacy of a physical relationship the other will develop deeper feelings. jmho 
Count_Me_In: I guess with two consenting adults....if this arrangement works, all is well
and
if it does not someone will need to run like hell!!!!
and
if it does not someone will need to run like hell!!!!
That's good if it is forever, but what if one or bothenter into a relationship, and the friends are still there?
pedalguy59: That's good if it is forever, but what if one or both
enter into a relationship, and the friends are still there?
enter into a relationship, and the friends are still there?
Trouble with a capital T
Yes of course, and I let them have ther benefits 
pedalguy59: That's good if it is forever, but what if one or both
enter into a relationship, and the friends are still there?
enter into a relationship, and the friends are still there?
Pedal, people who enter into these casual relationships need to be aware that they are just that, casual.
If something more comes of it, great, but at the same time, if one or the other meets someone else with a view to a commitment, the other person bows out.
I know this sounds simplistic, but that's the way it needs to be.
yes,it worked well for me when i was single.
Leo_7: yes,it worked well for me when i was single.
You are married
pedalguy59: Well it did not work out, she has friends, and I am here.
well hello 'I am here'.............
but really PG maybe they are just friends, depends how long you have known her for and I guess, what your instincts are
when there has been lots of hurt, disappointment and break ups sometimes a person is not in the same zone as you at the time....just maybe need some extra time
Count_Me_In: well hello 'I am here'.............
but really PG maybe they are just friends, depends how long you have known her for and I guess, what your instincts are
when there has been lots of hurt, disappointment and break ups sometimes a person is not in the same zone as you at the time....just maybe need some extra time
but really PG maybe they are just friends, depends how long you have known her for and I guess, what your instincts are
when there has been lots of hurt, disappointment and break ups sometimes a person is not in the same zone as you at the time....just maybe need some extra time
She was my girlfriend for two years, she did ask my viewson it. I still felt second best though.
Perhaps more likely its the attitude.
menu11: Perhaps more likely its the attitude.
My attitude was quite liberal, probably not to many menwould live with that. The relationship did not go to the next
level, which I wanted and she did not.
tomcatwarne: You are married
engaged
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