Would you check a partners E-mail or Texts unbeknown to them?.... (77)
2girlsnocup: You never fail to amuse me
Can you see what you had for dinner where your head was as you wrote that, or is it too dark up there?
Can you see what you had for dinner where your head was as you wrote that, or is it too dark up there?
don't light a match, god knows what might happen
2girlsnocup: You never fail to amuse me
Can you see what you had for dinner where your head was as you wrote that, or is it too dark up there?
Can you see what you had for dinner where your head was as you wrote that, or is it too dark up there?
Mauss: don't light a match, god knows what might happen
The first human firework?
2girlsnocup: The first human firework?
There was light at the end of the tunnel
Mauss: There was light at the end of the tunnel
That light was a Dr asking if he needed any help.
Just wondered that if he continued to go deeper, would he turn inside out or vanish?
lol nothing like 62% of the vote lying through their teeth because their answers attached to their photo blaahhhhh lol!
If there is anything that I think I need to check what's going on with a partner; it makes more sense to ask them and talk directly.
If things can be settled in a direct approach and there are any problems with trust, which also mean etiquette and respect have been breached; it's time to no longer be with that person for both of our sakes. I don't have to wonder and they no longer have to sneak.
If things can be settled in a direct approach and there are any problems with trust, which also mean etiquette and respect have been breached; it's time to no longer be with that person for both of our sakes. I don't have to wonder and they no longer have to sneak.
If real suspicions are in the mind of someone I believe most would try to get to the bottom of it by whatever means necessary, whether intentionally or accidentally, regardless of what people are saying in this thread. I just don't believe that if the opportunity arose and someone is sick with worry that their partner may be having an affair they would not read for example a mailbox which hadn't been closed.
Would hiring a private detective be more acceptable?
Would hiring a private detective be more acceptable?
Draegoneer: If there is anything that I think I need to check what's going on with a partner; it makes more sense to ask them and talk directly.
If things can be settled in a direct approach and there are any problems with trust, which also mean etiquette and respect have been breached; it's time to no longer be with that person for both of our sakes. I don't have to wonder and they no longer have to sneak.
As I have said, I really, really believe that a need to do that much undercover on a partner denotes failure. If you find you can't trust, wtf?If things can be settled in a direct approach and there are any problems with trust, which also mean etiquette and respect have been breached; it's time to no longer be with that person for both of our sakes. I don't have to wonder and they no longer have to sneak.
No it would not be more acceptable. Believe it or not, I would not invade my partner's privacy to satisfy my suspicions. The mere fact that I was suspicious would be an indicator for me that something was badly wrong with the relationship and a serious conversation was required.
Its no joke when someone suspects you all the time. I had that for 25yrs, and I can tell you, its very stressful hiding the evidence on a daily basis. 
rebel2: Its no joke when someone suspects you all the time. I had that for 25yrs, and I can tell you, its very stressful hiding the evidence on a daily basis.
and being the innocent party.....
LadyDiz2: No it would not be more acceptable. Believe it or not, I would not invade my partner's privacy to satisfy my suspicions. The mere fact that I was suspicious would be an indicator for me that something was badly wrong with the relationship and a serious conversation was required.
Yuppers--hit the nail on the head, dearie. truheart1941: and being the innocent party.....
Of course rebel2: Of course
you alright mate....hope you are..... 
LadyDiz2: No it would not be more acceptable. Believe it or not, I would not invade my partner's privacy to satisfy my suspicions. The mere fact that I was suspicious would be an indicator for me that something was badly wrong with the relationship and a serious conversation was required.
Although you didn't quote my previous post I think your post here is in direct response to it. As I see it, being suspicious and trying to talk about it rarely works if the other person in the relationship is indeed being unfaithful, or anything else which could damage the relationship. Liars and cheats often have sociopathic tendencies which means they cannot usually admit to wrongdoing until there is hard evidence staring them in the face, and even then they may try to wriggle out of it some way.
Being extremely jealous and suspicious also often go hand in hand, and I have experience of a relationship where my partner questioned everything I did and snooped. It was awful as there was no reason other than his irrational thoughts to behave in such a way, but there are also situations where someone may have legitimate reasons to be suspicious. I haven't been in such a situation fortunately, and therefore never been tempted to snoop, but I was expecting more of a cross-section of responses in this thread, hence my previous post.
Given that droves of young people are leaving Facebook because their parents, more often mothers apparently, are checking up on them constantly, and having known more people who would and have checked up on their partners, I just found it rather strange that all the posts here gave a resounding no.
Perhaps it's simply that those who have done it, or would should the need arise in their opinion, have refrained from contributing to the thread.
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You never fail to amuse me
Can you see what you had for dinner where your head was as you wrote that, or is it too dark up there?