Do you think age matters in a marriage? (68)
Miss_Cellaneous: Unless the law has changed. In England,Northern Ireland and Wales, you need parental consent to marry at 16 and 17. You can marry from the age of 18 without parental consent. However you can elope to Scotland and marry there from the age of 16 without parental consent......
That is true Cell, but I did specify GB which Scotland is a part of.
Lonely1: Some of us say we are looking for true love - not one nighters - so we have to ask ourselves: what will we be like as a couple 10 years from now?
Me at 71 with a 40 year old woman? Looking for support and encouragement on this because, sadly, I told the only woman who ever really loved me after looking at my profile, that I think she was too young. Am I making a mistake?
Charlie Chaplin is a classic example of age not being a problem. After several disastrous marriages and a partner, he met and married Oona O'Neill who was 18 at the time and he was 54. Over 18 years they had 8 children and were together until his passing.Me at 71 with a 40 year old woman? Looking for support and encouragement on this because, sadly, I told the only woman who ever really loved me after looking at my profile, that I think she was too young. Am I making a mistake?
Love knows no boundaries or it shouldn't.
Lugor: How many schools have you been banned from?
Porquoi??
Lonely1: It’s not just a matter of trust: it is also common sense. I don’t think you would mind a guy 31 years younger than you, but do you think he will still be around in 10 years after your money runs out unless he’s already stinking rich?
What money is going to run out? 
Any guy whatever his age would never be with me for my money as I don't have any ... my abundance manifests itself in many ways but loaded bank accounts is not one of them
I have set myself a younger than "rule" ... he must be at least a few years older than my oldest child who happens to be 36 years old. So no chance of me and a guy 31 years younger than me "hooking up" ... that would make him 29 years old ... many years younger than my youngest child and just over 10 years older than my grandson
It's not happening!!!! I don't care how "cute" he might be Selenite: What money is going to run out?
Any guy whatever his age would never be with me for my money as I don't have any ... my abundance manifests itself in many ways but loaded bank accounts is not one of them
I have set myself a younger than "rule" ... he must be at least a few years older than my oldest child who happens to be 36 years old. So no chance of me and a guy 31 years younger than me "hooking up" ... that would make him 29 years old ... many years younger than my youngest child and just over 10 years older than my grandson It's not happening!!!! I don't care how "cute" he might be
I'm with you on this one. Past experience of dating a guy , parting then getting back together when he had 3 children just didn't work. Any guy whatever his age would never be with me for my money as I don't have any ... my abundance manifests itself in many ways but loaded bank accounts is not one of them
I have set myself a younger than "rule" ... he must be at least a few years older than my oldest child who happens to be 36 years old. So no chance of me and a guy 31 years younger than me "hooking up" ... that would make him 29 years old ... many years younger than my youngest child and just over 10 years older than my grandson It's not happening!!!! I don't care how "cute" he might be
Tiger_Moth: You looking for a man then.
HaHa I did correct it in the post below it
Tiger_Moth: I'm with you on this one. Past experience of dating a guy , parting then getting back together when he had 3 children just didn't work.
I hear you 
Most on here have been married, some multiple times.. So I don't think it's an age matters thang at all and just the institution itself that seems to be the matter..
TheDino1: Most on here have been married, some multiple times.. So I don't think it's an age matters thang at all and just the institution itself that seems to be the matter..
Yep!!! Been married more than once, had other relationships... ages ranging from 20 years older to 17 years younger ... I don't even think it's "the institution" ... it's people "playing roles" and not being authentic to who they truly are ... because of expectations, wishful thinking, lying to self etc ...
I like transparency but the majority of people don't ...
It does when you're leaving your wife for a woman half her age. Now you're both in your 40s your wife being 5 years younger means not even that much. Everybody knows the brightest stars shine the shortest.
Selenite: Yep!!! Been married more than once, had other relationships... ages ranging from 20 years older to 17 years younger ...
I don't even think it's "the institution" ... it's people "playing roles" and not being authentic to who they truly are ... because of expectations, wishful thinking, lying to self etc ...
I like transparency but the majority of people don't ...
Yes I hear that, it does take 2 to tango, it's a pity people get married have kids then find out they don't dance so good together..I don't even think it's "the institution" ... it's people "playing roles" and not being authentic to who they truly are ... because of expectations, wishful thinking, lying to self etc ...
I like transparency but the majority of people don't ...
TheDino1: Yes I hear that, it does take 2 to tango, it's a pity people get married have kids then find out they don't dance so good together..
Agreed ... sometimes the different "parenting styles" becomes an issue ... and sometimes it takes a while to accept "it doesn't work" when things keep on getting worse instead of better ...Also people mature and change, sometimes in opposite directions. Both people need to be committed to accepting the growth of their partner which is often a problem when one of the 2 doesn't ...
Selenite: Agreed ... sometimes the different "parenting styles" becomes an issue ... and sometimes it takes a while to accept "it doesn't work" when things keep on getting worse instead of better ...
Also people mature and change, sometimes in opposite directions. Both people need to be committed to accepting the growth of their partner which is often a problem when one of the 2 doesn't ...
Total agree with the parenting styles point, mothers will be mothers, when getting wed we pledge all these things to each other and hope they are for life, but life can be tough and some aren't cut out for the long run...Also people mature and change, sometimes in opposite directions. Both people need to be committed to accepting the growth of their partner which is often a problem when one of the 2 doesn't ...
TheDino1: Yes I hear that, it does take 2 to tango, it's a pity people get married have kids then find out they don't dance so good together..
Sad thing is Dino ,it's not just about the adults when children are involved. I've seen first hand some marriages go pear shaped and then expect young children to accept the "new "partner no questions asked.
Tiger_Moth: Sad thing is Dino ,it's not just about the adults when children are involved. I've seen first hand some marriages go pear shaped and then expect young children to accept the "new "partner no questions asked.
Yes I've heard that before "Lets stay together for the children's sake" but I believe staying together makes it worse for the kids..TheDino1: Total agree with the parenting styles point, mothers will be mothers, when getting wed we pledge all these things to each other and hope they are for life, but life can be tough and some aren't cut out for the long run...
The "long run" far too often used to mean accepting and suffering at the hands of an abusive partner ... this subject gets swept under the carpet far too often by those nostalgic for "the way couples/families were" ... it used to be far too often that children used to pick up abusive ways from parents and become abusers or victims and so it got passed on from generation to generation ...People are being asked to be more accountable for their actions and it looks and feels messy
in spite of that, it does mean people healing abusive patterns and not repeating them ... 
Selenite: The "long run" far too often used to mean accepting and suffering at the hands of an abusive partner ... this subject gets swept under the carpet far too often by those nostalgic for "the way couples/families were" ... it used to be far too often that children used to pick up abusive ways from parents and become abusers or victims and so it got passed on from generation to generation ...
People are being asked to be more accountable for their actions and it looks and feels messy in spite of that, it does mean people healing abusive patterns and not repeating them ...
Definitely a complex subject, I would never recommend marriage to anyone, to me it's just a piece of worthless paper, till death do us part and all that is a nonsense imo.. Been there done that and got my T-Shirt, each to their own though..People are being asked to be more accountable for their actions and it looks and feels messy in spite of that, it does mean people healing abusive patterns and not repeating them ...
TheDino1: Definitely a complex subject, I would never recommend marriage to anyone, to me it's just a piece of worthless paper, till death do us part and all that is a nonsense imo.. Been there done that and got my T-Shirt, each to their own though..
Only the one then ?
Tiger_Moth: Only the one then ?
Definitely, was a good night though..
Selenite: Yep!!! Been married more than once, had other relationships... ages ranging from 20 years older to 17 years younger ...
I don't even think it's "the institution" ... it's people "playing roles" and not being authentic to who they truly are ... because of expectations, wishful thinking, lying to self etc ...
I like transparency but the majority of people don't ...
Some people are just mean spirited and cannot be loved by anyone because they don’t have love in their hearts. I don't even think it's "the institution" ... it's people "playing roles" and not being authentic to who they truly are ... because of expectations, wishful thinking, lying to self etc ...
I like transparency but the majority of people don't ...
I had a now retired female colleague who said she was divorced twice. I was talking to her in the lunch room one day, with my lunch in the microwave. I excused myself to go to the washroom and while I was gone she increased the time to 60 minutes. I did not check the time when I came back, and she was gone, because I just thought the time had not ran out.
I am glad I was not one of her ex
tomcatty: That is true Cell, but I did specify GB which Scotland is a part of.
Yes I understand that but you stated GB which is made up of 4 Countries and only Scotland allows people to get married aged 16 without parental consent. I didn't want to confuse anyoneLonely1: Some people are just mean spirited and cannot be loved by anyone because they don’t have love in their hearts.
I had a now retired female colleague who said she was divorced twice. I was talking to her in the lunch room one day, with my lunch in the microwave. I excused myself to go to the washroom and while I was gone she increased the time to 60 minutes. I did not check the time when I came back, and she was gone, because I just thought the time had not ran out.
I am glad I was not one of her ex
Imagine the taste of your coffee I had a now retired female colleague who said she was divorced twice. I was talking to her in the lunch room one day, with my lunch in the microwave. I excused myself to go to the washroom and while I was gone she increased the time to 60 minutes. I did not check the time when I came back, and she was gone, because I just thought the time had not ran out.
I am glad I was not one of her ex
Miss_Cellaneous: Yes I understand that but you stated GB which is made up of 4 Countries and only Scotland allows people to get married aged 16 without parental consent.
I didn't want to confuse anyone
Ok, sweetheart, I didn't mean to snap.I didn't want to confuse anyone
Miss_Cellaneous: Yes I understand that but you stated GB which is made up of 4 Countries and only Scotland allows people to get married aged 16 without parental consent. I didn't want to confuse anyone
GB is made of 3 countries.........The UK Includes N.Ire.......4 different countiespedro27: GB is made of 3 countries.........The UK Includes N.Ire.......4 different counties
The United Kingdom (UK)The UK is short for The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland… quite a mouthful! It is a sovereign state (in the same way as France or the USA) but is made up of four countries; England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Sorry to burst your bubble Peter
pedro27: GB is made of 3 countries.........The UK Includes N.Ire.......4 different counties
Are you getting mixed up with your Countries and Counties? Either way I think you're incorrect....Miss_Cellaneous: The United Kingdom (UK)
The UK is short for The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland… quite a mouthful! It is a sovereign state (in the same way as France or the USA) but is made up of four countries; England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Sorry to burst your bubble Peter
I was taught Britain is an Island with 3 countriesThe UK is short for The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland… quite a mouthful! It is a sovereign state (in the same way as France or the USA) but is made up of four countries; England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Sorry to burst your bubble Peter
and the Uk is 4 countries
Miss_Cellaneous: The United Kingdom (UK)
The UK is short for The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland… quite a mouthful! It is a sovereign state (in the same way as France or the USA) but is made up of four countries; England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Sorry to burst your bubble Peter
why UK is called Great Britain?The UK is short for The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland… quite a mouthful! It is a sovereign state (in the same way as France or the USA) but is made up of four countries; England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.
Sorry to burst your bubble Peter
tomcatty: Ok, sweetheart, I didn't mean to snap.
I didn't think you were snapping. I could do with a nice brandy snap filled with bailey's thick double cream. Yummy ... 
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You obviously don't trust women much so may be narrowing down the age gap will make you feel more comfortable ...