Based solely on your choices above the least of importance for myself are:
1 - His value as a potential provider/financial partner. If that's what you're looking for in a partner, get a second job.
2 - His assets. Again, you're not looking for a partner, you're looking for a bank.
All the other choices do fall into play as we get to know each other. When you meet someone, you don't meet one thing, you meet a package. It takes time to know if that package is compatible with you. I'm not perfect, he's not perfect, but can you live with the imperfections?
If he/she does something that really irks you, gets on your nerves pretty bad, you just can't stand it, ask yourself this: "Can I live with a man/woman who______________________? (fill in the blank). If the answer is "no", move on. The relationship will not survive.
It's hard to pick one single quality that stands out. I think personality and sense of humor are the first things I would notice about someone. All of the other qualities are taken into consideration when deciding weather or not to go forward with a relationship, however I do not believe that the ability to be a provider or assets should come into play at all. If you need a provider you should still be living home with your parents as it is their job to be your provider, once you become an adult it's up to you to provide for yourself and obtain your own assets, not that these cannot be shared or combined with the right partner but they should not be taken into consideration when deciding if you would like to be in a relationship with someone.
Attention to detail .Like hair (tidy) clothes (clean and up to date) teeth ,hands ,how he walks ,and how many times he mentions his mother joking Cant think of any more the now[/quote
well i have got the rest , and clean underwear, But my teeth are still The 1960 model
ozmac: i am interested in knowing more about womans first impressions. Thanks, shall do one for Guys next.
A certain combo of the OP poll options (some of them in one degree or the other, excluding those that are not applicable for a 1st impression) + my personal criterion
HotrodLarrys: A man who's confident enough just to be himself no matter what anyone else thinks.His sense of humor & personality.[/quote Awe ! Didnt think you would notice
I like to read a mans communication,body language,and also his words.If I feel he is being sincere in what he says,then I go from there.His attitude and beliefs mean much when we first meet. So I go with personality/voice/habits.I try to see the inner person,not the outer shell when deciding if he is someone who I am interested in.
I do not think it is one single thing with me... I rake my eyes over all of him as soon as I see him. Then I pay attention to the non physical. I know, seems tacky, but it is what I do.
Crystalpistol2La Grange Park, Illinois USA383 posts
that_joe_guy: it's built into the DNA, women want somebody strong looking because thousands of years ago strong meant they would be a good hunter/provider.
all the things that attract a woman can be boiled down to reproduction and being a provider for a potential family... most of the time.
I am not looking to reproduce, been there and done that. Done with that.
I can support myself, so as long as he can support himself.
I like a man with a backbone... not afraid to speak up when he knows he's right. Intelligence is a huge turn-on. Appearance helps... looks & hygiene. Smell, yes... very big!! Attitude, romance, manners, self-confidence.
that_joe_guyAdelaide, South Australia Australia105 posts
Crystalpistol2: I am not looking to reproduce, been there and done that. Done with that.
I can support myself, so as long as he can support himself.
well that's true, most of our evolution was done when the average person was living to the ripe old age of about 30. We do look for different things at different stages of our lives.
It's hard to choose one, but for on here, it's common interests/values that attracted me...though there was a draw that I couldn't ignore, too, so that would be his energy. However, his sense of humor, intelligence, personality...the whole package that I know so far attracts me...and distracts me.
The first thing is good grooming, clean, and dressed well, clean nails, smells good. However, these things are obviously not the true measure of a man, so after getting to know him better, the voice can be a real turn on for me, then sense of humour, and of course at the end of the day, common interests and values.
I cannot answer the poll as one choice is not appropriate for me, as I suspect with most people.
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What single quality strikes a woman most about meeting a man?(Vote Below)
Thanks, shall do one for Guys next.