Online Dating Changes People! (42)
nuala: so when are ya callin for the scones.....
oh you are such the tease
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takeit4granted: oh you are such the tease
but you love it.....
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"They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. "
Gee...what an interesting statement....
Gee...what an interesting statement....
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Online dating seems to turn many people into a bunch of liars. It´s easy to portray a persona unlike the reality behind a computer screen.
Why people do this, I really don´t understand if their objective for being here is to meet someone. Lies will soon be discovered in person as we have seen here many times, and as I have personally discovered.
I also think that some hone in on people that they would never dream of, or have the confidence to in real life. It´s an ego boost without the reality.
It´s too easy isn´t it.
Why people do this, I really don´t understand if their objective for being here is to meet someone. Lies will soon be discovered in person as we have seen here many times, and as I have personally discovered.
I also think that some hone in on people that they would never dream of, or have the confidence to in real life. It´s an ego boost without the reality.
It´s too easy isn´t it.
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takeit4granted: its not uncommon ,,seems to meet most needs,,and easy access. Imagine how many married members are on the sites seeking an "extra"
hmm well not this lady..My husband knows i am here
and only here to talk on the forums with the friends
i have made
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kissmedeeply: yes and i met my husband over 1500 miles away...
I thank CS for us meeting on here
I thank CS for us meeting on here
I'm a bit envious,,,but not of the hubby
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takeit4granted: I'm a bit envious,,,but not of the hubby
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I think it does change some people, or allow them to portray themselves as something that they are not. A site like this with forums is different in some ways for we get to know each other through conversation first, and then privately. Others are just always who they are, and it shows because we see their consistency on here.
I certainly have not found that anyone that I dated from an online service at any time has treated me like a commodity, or felt that they were deserving of more than they offered. That I've found more true in the bar scene.
I certainly have not found that anyone that I dated from an online service at any time has treated me like a commodity, or felt that they were deserving of more than they offered. That I've found more true in the bar scene.
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Jan1305: But SA, it´s undeserved self gratification in most cases, and sensible people realise this. I would much rather receive interest in a bar than interest based on a photo.
Photos, even seemingly genuine ones, are not the same as seeing somebody in the flesh.
Photos, even seemingly genuine ones, are not the same as seeing somebody in the flesh.
I totally agree, but a form of self gratification none the less.
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I think it has changed people yes. I think its different for everyone however. I think that the first time I took the plunge and move across country I did not have a realistic idea of the challenges involved.
I think this time, as my sweetie and I take our time to get to know each others minds in an honest and open manner, and don't rush to any meeting, let alone permanent relocation, but having definite concrete plans for that meeting and eventual ideas for that permanent step, I think we're more capable of doing this realistically rather than if I hadn't had that experience of pure foolishness.
This can be done people, but it has to be done in the real world. This site, or any other, is just a tool, and thus is value neutral. Its how you use it, and what your intentions are, and how honest you can be with yourself and others, that ultimately dictate how successful its going to be. Love isn't magic. It's frigging work, and some of the hardest work, at times.
I think this time, as my sweetie and I take our time to get to know each others minds in an honest and open manner, and don't rush to any meeting, let alone permanent relocation, but having definite concrete plans for that meeting and eventual ideas for that permanent step, I think we're more capable of doing this realistically rather than if I hadn't had that experience of pure foolishness.
This can be done people, but it has to be done in the real world. This site, or any other, is just a tool, and thus is value neutral. Its how you use it, and what your intentions are, and how honest you can be with yourself and others, that ultimately dictate how successful its going to be. Love isn't magic. It's frigging work, and some of the hardest work, at times.
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I am not allowed to post on celticangels threads anymore. I have been accused of harassment and do not want her to feel uncomfortable with me.
Bigotry has no bounds and I am a victim.
Have a nice day.
Bigotry has no bounds and I am a victim.
Have a nice day.
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mbcasey: I am not allowed to post on celticangels threads anymore. I have been accused of harassment and do not want her to feel uncomfortable with me.
Bigotry has no bounds and I am a victim.
Have a nice day.
Bigotry has no bounds and I am a victim.
Have a nice day.
Well then they dont know you..
You are a wonderful man and you do not harass anyone..
I am so sorry Ken
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mbcasey: "They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. "
Gee...what an interesting statement....
Gee...what an interesting statement....
everything changes us
i mean duh
its called being affected by our experiences
i need a peeve thread cuz i get so annoyed
not that it matters its just my peeve
hearing people come to dating sites and either tell the site how messed up they are and how they could improve
(before even hanging out awhile)
or slaggin off online daters
i mean wow way to attract
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Galactic_bodhi: I think it has changed people yes. I think its different for everyone however. I think that the first time I took the plunge and move across country I did not have a realistic idea of the challenges involved.
I think this time, as my sweetie and I take our time to get to know each others minds in an honest and open manner, and don't rush to any meeting, let alone permanent relocation, but having definite concrete plans for that meeting and eventual ideas for that permanent step, I think we're more capable of doing this realistically rather than if I hadn't had that experience of pure foolishness.
This can be done people, but it has to be done in the real world. This site, or any other, is just a tool, and thus is value neutral. Its how you use it, and what your intentions are, and how honest you can be with yourself and others, that ultimately dictate how successful its going to be. Love isn't magic. It's frigging work, and some of the hardest work, at times.
I think this time, as my sweetie and I take our time to get to know each others minds in an honest and open manner, and don't rush to any meeting, let alone permanent relocation, but having definite concrete plans for that meeting and eventual ideas for that permanent step, I think we're more capable of doing this realistically rather than if I hadn't had that experience of pure foolishness.
This can be done people, but it has to be done in the real world. This site, or any other, is just a tool, and thus is value neutral. Its how you use it, and what your intentions are, and how honest you can be with yourself and others, that ultimately dictate how successful its going to be. Love isn't magic. It's frigging work, and some of the hardest work, at times.
you nailed it GB
there aint no magic wand
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celticangel: I read an article where a woman stated this about online dating...do you agree with her?
"I contend that going into online dating CHANGES people. They see the people they meet as commodities they paid for (heard from dates about the "quality" of their other dates?). They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. They find that a little shallow intimacy satisfied them (instant gratification) and there's more where that came from so why have to work hard to have an old-fashioned committed relationship?"
"I contend that going into online dating CHANGES people. They see the people they meet as commodities they paid for (heard from dates about the "quality" of their other dates?). They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. They find that a little shallow intimacy satisfied them (instant gratification) and there's more where that came from so why have to work hard to have an old-fashioned committed relationship?"
I don't see it changing people...it you're already a liar or someone just seeking a quick thrill then maybe it's a better place for people like that to suck people in and score...as far as I am concerned if you're already honest and looking for something serious....then that's the way you'll stay....sooooooooo in essence...it just change who you are...just brings out more of the real you...whatever that might be....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I don't see it changing people...it you're already a liar or someone just seeking a quick thrill then maybe it's a better place for people like that to suck people in and score...as far as I am concerned if you're already honest and looking for something serious....then that's the way you'll stay....sooooooooo in essence...it just change who you are...just brings out more of the real you...whatever that might be....
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kissmedeeply: Well then they dont know you..
You are a wonderful man and you do not harass anyone..
I am so sorry Ken
I agree I have known him nearly two years also, He never harrasses anyone. He is a wonderful sweet , caring, supportive man, anyone that can't see that is the one with the problem. You are a wonderful man and you do not harass anyone..
I am so sorry Ken
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mbcasey: I am not allowed to post on celticangels threads anymore. I have been accused of harassment and do not want her to feel uncomfortable with me.
Bigotry has no bounds and I am a victim.
Have a nice day.
Bigotry has no bounds and I am a victim.
Have a nice day.
and all because I said I wouldn't date you.....
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mylifewithu: I agree I have known him nearly two years also, He never harrasses anyone. He is a wonderful sweet , caring, supportive man, anyone that can't see that is the one with the problem.
Where you there when we were exchanging e-mails?
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I now think all men I see on the streets are scammers on dating sides. They look as normal as those presented here. Yeah, I'm a traumatic kid
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I would be happier if it changed them into 500€ notes.
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celticangel: Where you there when we were exchanging e-mails?
Good question. Being as we don't know what was in those emails, I'm not sure if ALL you said was that you wouldn't date him.
THEN again, we don't know what he said to get you to say you wouldn't date him.
Having known Ken for awhile and you since, well, never, I tend to think there was more than a polite: "I don't want to date you" involved.
But, we shall never know. And without all the facts, I'll never be able to make an informed decision. So, I'll make an uninformed one, and bid you adieu. There are other threads.
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cristina: I now think all men I see on the streets are scammers on dating sides. They look as normal as those presented here. Yeah, I'm a traumatic kid
Then you should pop down to the Algarve for a weekend to see "I" am not!!!
('tas bem Menina?)
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yubba: Then you should pop down to the Algarve for a weekend to see "I" am not!!!
('tas bem Menina?)
('tas bem Menina?)
Sommer will do honey
Estou óptima querido. Estou a aprender Holandês agora. Tããão bom
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cristina: Sommer will do honey
Estou óptima querido. Estou a aprender Holandês agora. Tããão bom E tu? O sol já queima?
Estou óptima querido. Estou a aprender Holandês agora. Tããão bom E tu? O sol já queima?
OOOPs...I meant Summer
Sommer, come back
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Galactic_bodhi: Good question. Being as we don't know what was in those emails, I'm not sure if ALL you said was that you wouldn't date him.
THEN again, we don't know what he said to get you to say you wouldn't date him.
Having known Ken for awhile and you since, well, never, I tend to think there was more than a polite: "I don't want to date you" involved.
But, we shall never know. And without all the facts, I'll never be able to make an informed decision. So, I'll make an uninformed one, and bid you adieu. There are other threads.
THEN again, we don't know what he said to get you to say you wouldn't date him.
Having known Ken for awhile and you since, well, never, I tend to think there was more than a polite: "I don't want to date you" involved.
But, we shall never know. And without all the facts, I'll never be able to make an informed decision. So, I'll make an uninformed one, and bid you adieu. There are other threads.
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celticangel: Where you there when we were exchanging e-mails?
Nope and I don't care to know anymore about it. Don't write me again threatening to show his mail to prove he was in the wrong. I will report it.
That in itself is vindictive and harrassing also. Just keep your personal problem with him to your selves. Leave each other alone and the hurt feelings between you two will settle.
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Estou óptima querido. Estou a aprender Holandês agora. Tããão bom E tu? O sol já queima?
O sol aqui e muito fraco, tambem eu tem pele Balaia, Camons e assim!!
Aprende Hollandes, Poxa!!, nao e linguagem facil eu nao poss, mas minha lingua trabalha muito bem e vc deve aproveite...............pelos menos uma vez!!
O sol aqui e muito fraco, tambem eu tem pele Balaia, Camons e assim!!
Aprende Hollandes, Poxa!!, nao e linguagem facil eu nao poss, mas minha lingua trabalha muito bem e vc deve aproveite...............pelos menos uma vez!!
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celticangel: I read an article where a woman stated this about online dating...do you agree with her?
"I contend that going into online dating CHANGES people. They see the people they meet as commodities they paid for (heard from dates about the "quality" of their other dates?). They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. They find that a little shallow intimacy satisfied them (instant gratification) and there's more where that came from so why have to work hard to have an old-fashioned committed relationship?"
"I contend that going into online dating CHANGES people. They see the people they meet as commodities they paid for (heard from dates about the "quality" of their other dates?). They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. They find that a little shallow intimacy satisfied them (instant gratification) and there's more where that came from so why have to work hard to have an old-fashioned committed relationship?"
online dating is a best thing for to learn many new things
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Online Dating Changes People!(Vote Below)
"I contend that going into online dating CHANGES people. They see the people they meet as commodities they paid for (heard from dates about the "quality" of their other dates?). They see themselves as deserving of far better than they willing or able to offer, or should realistically expect. They find that a little shallow intimacy satisfied them (instant gratification) and there's more where that came from so why have to work hard to have an old-fashioned committed relationship?"