be patient or cut and run ( Archived) (33)

I wish you lived just 20 miles from me!

Whoops - I just realised that would make you in the sea some point between here and Sicily! Sorry!

Good answer!

Would you swim to Sicily or back here?

if you swam my way you could rest up half way in hawii

I am going to go against the grain here and say stick around. I myself use caution in meeting new people. You may be a great guy but she doesn't know that. I have met some really strange people in RL, and maybe she has an experience similar to mine. Talk to her and find out why she doesn't want to meet. What is the rush anyway?

Two months; no picture; and, why are you hanging around? Cut-n-run! Don't look back. If she was interested in you she would not have a problem wanting to meet you.

I missed the no picture part. I would still like to know what she said whne you confronted her.

Sparky I think this is one of the problems we humans have: we alway want to know why? Once we give up caring why others do things we are a lot more happy in our own lives. We shouldn't let others influences how we feel.

This faceless person has something going on and I don't care what it is. I would kick her to the curb.

If she has no pic, and refuses to meet you in person so for, I would council EXTREME caution.

Take your time, my friend - make sure she IS who she appears to be..

Good luck.

Stop wasting your time and energy - direct it towards people who are interested in meeting for real. 2 months is plenty of time for her to feel comfortable enough to meet - if it was a week or two then I could understand that hesitation but surely in all that time you've had plenty of conversations.

If you do meet her ....be sure to bring a tent to wrap her in in case she's cold...........

Married..........or maybe, not even a woman!

Ohh, that's even a worse thought than I suggested ... a man

She could be a MAN ! many fake profiles around, some guys I guess get some kind of turn-on like this

thank you all. you have confirmed all of my thoughts on this, one person did say I am rushing it in the pole, but no narrative, Id be cerious to what that person would have to say.

I was in a similar situation as the OP recently. Only I was the one saying wait. I have nothing whatsoever to hide and really am interested in the person who wanted to meet. There were circumstances that made me hesitate. We live about 200 miles apart and our schedules are hectic. I really regret saying wait now, but we are working it out.
My point being that the reasons why can be very important. Also, I believe that most things worth having are not easy to come by. Relationships are work and they require communication. I see a lot of kick so and so to the curb on here without knowing underlying circumstances. I think that a lot of people want instant gratification and real life isn't about instantly getting what you want.
That is why I asked the question I did. She may be playing a game or there may be other factors at work. Now if she evades answers then by all means move on.

I think you should just back off a little.
Maybe explain that yu would like to meet, but will be patient if she wants to wait, but also make it quite clear that it would be good if you knew some of her reasons behind her hesitation.

I honestly think you are trying to rush things.
That is the beauty of women... they are not all the same... some may want to meet quickly, others may want to take their time and some may have very good reasons for not wanting to meet you straight away.

She may just be concerned that you have got too involved too quickly and she is not ready to commit. It may also be that she is hiding something, but who knows.

Back off, wait until she contacts you again and in the meantime, go and speak with some of the other lovely ladies here.

JMHO