Who should call after the first date? (61)
dillingersexxay town, Fife, Scotland UK14 Threads 522 Poststhe better looking one should call first. it shows good manners and it makes the uglier one feel special
dillinger: the better looking one should call first. it shows good manners and it makes the uglier one feel special
Whahaha
vinny1967: Sorry but the emoticons say it far better than I can....
dillinger: the better looking one should call first. it shows good manners and it makes the uglier one feel special
What if they both think the other person is better lookin...
HAPPY_2009: Its always a question...who should call first?
Does it really matter??
willow51: The guy should call, if hes the one that asked you out for the date, if you asked him out , then maybe you should call. some guys have that wait a week to call after the first date rule, so as to not appear over anxious, i personally think its stupid, cuz if you wait a week the woman would probably think your not interested and move on.
WRONG!!!!!!! SHe would join CS and complain about what "HE" did..
I don't think it matters who calls first.
ooby_dooby: I think it's a good question because many times this isn't ironed out before saying goodnight on the first date. Very often each one thinks the other will call and they both wind up waiting for that call that never comes.
I cannot imagine such a situation. If both had fun, the lady seemed happy, laughed and enjoyed the man's company, then he will easily find a reason to call her? If he doesn't, then either she didn't look too happy in his company, OR he's not interested?
The Woman should call.... with a very big apology ....
HJFinAZ: Does it really matter??
Nope, but if they both sit and wonder who should call first, then there won't be any calls...
scon1916: It's 2010 and this question is being asked?
Yea, men are still men, women are still women, and each one has something amazing and different to bring to the relationship. That's the charm of it (in my opinion).
vinny1967: Do you ever wonder whether you may have 'missed out' on someone you have liked because he didn't phone you ?
OK... It would be great to get replies from men - what ARE the possible reasons that you would NOT call the lady after the date? (Hints.... you're insecure and not sure she liked you... you've got no money to renew your phone credit... what else?)
weimarlady: OK... It would be great to get replies from men - what ARE the possible reasons that you would NOT call the lady after the date? (Hints.... you're insecure and not sure she liked you... you've got no money to renew your phone credit... what else?)
I agree most of the time oif the man doesn't phone its because he doesn't want to, but there are exceptions.
Maybe he did not know her well enough and misread her signals.
Love the dogs.
If only some lovely lady would take me out,, I would gladly call her and thank her.
you know yourself who sould call first, wake up and smell the rosesHJFinAZ: If only some lovely lady would take me out,, I would gladly call her and thank her.
It seems you got yourself quite a few lovely ladies in that pic!
Weimarlady: It seems you got yourself quite a few lovely ladies in that pic!
AHhhhhh yes....
I could be a great "GRANDPA" to any of them..
The man should ring after 3 to 5 days to make the woman think about the man and see if she really does like him.If she ring first shows high interest level which is a good green light for the man.Men find it hard sometimes to understand women's interest level after a first date. 
TheRocker: Men find it hard sometimes to understand women's interest level after a first date.
Then they should pay closer attention.
In 3-5 days I'll probably have forgotten him already if he hasn't called. 
pedro27: you know yourself who sould call first, wake up and smell the roses
Yes, whoever wants to, lord above why does it have to be either or..we are all adults.
The woman surely 
i used to send short message, "thanks for the dinner" , thanks for nice time, etc. then for sure he will call me.
HAPPY_2009: Its always a question...who should call first?
whoever has the most minutes!
women use want men 2 do everting tut tut
HAPPY_2009: Its always a question...who should call first?
His mother?
i THINK THE GUY SHOULD, WELL HE'S GOT TO STOP HER PASSING ON THAT S.T.D. TO HER HUSBAND
Steve5721: Emails are so much easier!!
for some reason when this guy ^ says that, it sounds hot!!
I would never call a guy first. The same as I have never emailed/messaged a guy first. It's just the way I am and I ain't ever gonna change. Too old to change my ways and don't want to either lol. Having said that, I would expect that if we were to meet again, he would say that he would call me.
Yeah! am a woman lol......
I email/phone male friends but I think that's different.
Just my own opinion. Nothing more and nothing less.
Yeah! am a woman lol......
I email/phone male friends but I think that's different.
Just my own opinion. Nothing more and nothing less.
MrsMilano: I would like to prefer a man to do things like this - to make the fist call, to invite, to make a gift, to book a hotel & tickets, to pay for dinner.
But depends ...
But depends ...
I agree MrsMilano. A gentleman usually covers this stuff at the beginning especially, and it doesn't have to be expensive dates...but I don't think it matters who calls first after a date.
If a man has done all of the above: planned & paid, etc., I think the very least I can do is call and thank him promptly. Even if he isn't that interested in me, or vice versa, the contact shows courtesy and appreciation.
He will say something, or return your call if he wishes to continue seeing you. So just thank him and then let him take the lead with the rest of the conversation. That way you avoid the appearance of "chasing."
To me, that is very important. It would seem selfish and inconsiderate to assume a follow up thank you is not necessary.
Whoever is brave enough to make the first move.
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