Cat, asking this is like asking "why do we breath". People fall in love, some love to fall in love, it's a natural thing to do, what is difficult is to keep being in love, that's another story and very difficult.
Hi molly, thank you so much. I told the couple (the guy in the pic and the one taking it) about this blogs and they were surprised of how positive the comments are. It gives us hope, the world is changing, to be a better place
Hi lady, I guess when we open our mind and heart, we'll will be surprised of many splendid things we can experience in life. That's all it takes open your mind and heart
Redex, I am not against drugs as medicine, but to be part of having fun... it's just pathetic, you thought you have fun while what you do is breaking your body.
kalpataru, I did. I used to hang out with those people, they did not understand how I could stand dancing and being out all night without drugs, I couldn't understand why being your friends was not enough to make them happy. But I love them no matter what, they were my friends, I just felt sorry for them.
Peony, the thing is I live in a moslem country where man and woman are not supposed to live together unless they live in certain part of Indonesia like Bali for example, or in an exclusive real estate, or in an apartment where people are more individual. I have no problem with this marriage issue as long as I can live with all my beloved; kids, and my partner. He suggest Bali, but the problem now is for him to get a job there, that's plan A. And we still don't have plan B :)
Kalpataru, I'm guite sure he was talking about me, he said that when I surprised him that I will come for his birthday. And on the night of his birthday he was only with me, and the day after with me and his friends whom are all married to each other, and for the next two weeks I stayed with him.
Amazing things he did... he flew every weekend to visit me when he was in singapore, and when he moved to thailand and was not allowed to go out for three months (visa rules) he flew to me because we had a fight which caused him visa violation and for that he had to go through visa application again. And introduced me to his family... which I haven't even told my family about him...
Hi Welela, it is nice to hear from you, you give me hope. I do believe commitment is between you and yourself and your partner rather than signing a paper. That story you shared is beautiful, I wish mine will last that long. I wish you have a good life :)
Kalpataru, no, he never said that, and neither do I. But once he said: It's been a while I spent my birthday on my own, I'm glad that this year I'm gonna spend it with someone I love. Which after saying this, he was surprised, blushed, and whisper "What did I just said?", to himself, like he did not believe he just said that.
Manik, I'm not either... it coud be good that I met him because we are in the same phase/path, but in the other hands maybe I need someone to make me believe and ready again.
HI Knenagh, he does not want kid either, but he loves my kids. When I visited him, before I went back home he gave me a bag contain things he bought for my kids. Which surprise me... For keeping the back door open, that's what I have in mind too. Because my last relationship was 4 years together, and I said no to marriage, not because I did not love my partner, I just did not want to get through the long-tiring divorcee process again.
Hi Kasih, yes I appreciate his honesty, it's always good to know things up front, we know how to do it then.
Peony, Indeed. I know what exactly how you feel. I have 4 kids, they all live with me and because of that I kinda get used to be on my own. Thus some men attracted to me seeing how strong I am, but then they got scared seeing how independent I am. Some women told me to act weak so that I don't intimidate men in order to get a man. They say men adore strong women but they tend to keep the weak one, which I think is stupid. What I like about my man is he never feel intimidated to see this independent side of me, in fact he adores me for that. I told him about things that usually make men walk away from me, he just said that's who you are and I like you for better and worse. I give him salt and he takes it, so I think I'm gonna take this chance and make it works :)
Peony, you're not only beautiful, you're thoughtful. i can't believe you are single, well most probably most men wants something sweet cheers to a better life ahead
Loulou, I have no problem with the marriage thing, as a matter a fact I don't believe it anymore. What matter is your commitment to yourself and your partner. Been there, done that and getting divorced is such a long-tiring administrative process. But sometimes... honestlyI would love to meet someone who can make me believe again... maybe that'r for the two of us to work on it...
Dear all thank you for all your valuable comments.
I agree with Loulou, I have witnessed some friends who never get married but they stay together for years. I once also think that what matter is your commitment to yourself, not just a piece of paper that matter.
As for what minzy stated, I dont think he is that kind of guy. As far as I know him he is very generous (he paid for our brunch which was very expensive, not only for me but also his friends, one table taken care by him), and he knows I am not after anything he owns, I pay my own ticket every time we meet (yes to make this more complicated it is a long distance relationship and since he works and I am a freelancer, I am the one to visit him).
Smartass, I believe he means committed to me and himself that does not necessarily have to be written in paper. So far I see he is committed. He does not keep our relationship private. He introduced me to his family (brother, mother in Skype), he took me to meet his friends, even invited his friends to my birthday. And the impression I got from his friends was he is a gentlemen, kind, and nice, they love him. They come all the way from UK, South Africa, Australia, Netherlands just to celebrate his birthday (he is 2 days older than me). I can see how much they love him for he is a good person.
I just think could it be the 9 years relationship, because his friends told me how broken hearted he was seeing his ex having a new bf only after 2 months, while it took him 3 years to be in relationship again.
Dear Daniel, You are so charming, funny, attractive... wait never mind, wrong Daniel Ok this one is honest, I like reading your blogs, it's entertaining
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RE: Why Do We Fall In Love?
Cat, asking this is like asking "why do we breath". People fall in love, some love to fall in love, it's a natural thing to do, what is difficult is to keep being in love, that's another story and very difficult.