sarasvathy Blog Comments (705)

RE: Banshees and Lazy Boys

"Do we find it easier to accept things about others as we age? Are there things that come with age that make relationships easier? Is compromise in partners easier or harder for you with age?"

To accept and to be in a relationship I think is a two different things. As I aged I find it easier to accept things about others. As you see I'm easy to pleased and not easy to be annoyed. But regarding relationship I definitely wont settle for less. In a way that when I was younger, I choosed to compromise of my (potential) partner's flaws, hoping he would change, or kept telling my self nobody's perfect, or simply a stupid reason that what important is he (said he) loves me. Now, I know exactly what I want and what I don't want. I don't compromise anymore. Period.

The Pill

Hi Ken,
I agree with you. Financial reason, to some extent, is what keep most couple to stay in a marriage though that is not only the reason for women to stay but also for a man. Instead of having to give financial support after divorcee (to his wife and kids) some men choose to stay. As for woman, I see not only women with low education choose to stay in a bad marriage, but I see many women, educated, from a respected-rich family, closed their eyes of what their husband do outside their house as long as they come home and keep supporting their high-end life style. It's a common phenomenon here.

Living with teens

Hi Richard, Lachi
As far as I can say being a parent is a never-ending learning process, all I can say is that my kids has taught me to be a better person.

RE: Get Outa My Kitchen - Get Outa My Shed

Hi Angel, I'm good, thanks for asking. I hope you are too

RE: Get Outa My Kitchen - Get Outa My Shed

Miss,
Been there done that, taken, dumped, loved, hurt, name it

RE: Get Outa My Kitchen - Get Outa My Shed

Hi Miss,
Indeed, nothing can replace the joy to have freedom over your life, and if that means I have to be single and work all my life, so be it!

NHB,
I wish I can be those couples... wouldn't have to deal with these tight deadlines all my life! But as I have always believed, "the life I want, there's no short cut" Actually this line was from a movie "The Education", a very good movie about up-bringing.

RE: Get Outa My Kitchen - Get Outa My Shed

I want a rich man so I never have to go to work again, just stay at home doing things I love like cooking, be with kids, taking care of our house, shopping, traveling, going to spa, traveling, oops did I just say traveling again? Wait, what the hell just i said? Did I say all these or I was talking in my sleep

Living with teens

NHB,
It was great for me too. I mean it's an exercise for both of us. I have to except she's grown up and no longer a kid, give her more freedom and trust her, while she learns to be responsible and keep her promise. Beside if she's happy, I am happier

Living with teens

Thank you, Knenagh. Hope things get better with your nieces too

Living with teens

Hi Raven, I'm good, thank you for asking. You're right still a long way to go, I'm excited, thrilled, but this is what every parents have to go through so yeah, I'll try be good to them and hope they be good to me

Living with teens

Knenagh,
I am very proud of her, she's doing good at school, so far never give me any problem, her only flaws I guess she loves sleeping and so much into internet, but I guess that's nothing compare what other teens do.

Luke,
I hope she will continue like this, I mean some teens lie maybe because they thought that's the only way because some parents do not listen and give order instead. As for me, they are allowed to say/ask anything as long as they have a reason. And if there is a problem we discuss it, I have never put my self as a parent who decide something for them. I guess it's important to let them know that they are a person who has the right to decide what's best for them as long as they have (a reasonable) reason and can be responsible for whatever decision they make.

The Pill

Maddog,
Rrrrrr I don't mean it as a happy view actually. I see a marriage, 7 kids, and affairs. We both saw the man has fidelity issue, but in my country some people tend to stay in a marriage though they were not happy just for the sake of children or not wanting to be seen as failed couple. I've seen this fake marriage since I was a kid, and still saw it now. And the grandchildren that's from their teen daughter who got pregnant after prom... but your view is also possible, and the happy one is also possible though maybe almost impossible hehehe

Ken,
Wow what a story, some people's life changed all at once!

Steff,
Hi Steff, nice meeting you

The Pill

Minerva,
I believe we all have an interesting life story even more interesting than any movie as movie is, in my opinion, is a simplified life story.

Maddog,
20 years from now? I see a big family, probably with 7 kids, oh maybe a grandchildren...

The Pill

MInerva,
yes, love surely could change one's life and death too. Thanks for stopping bye and nice meeting you

NHB,
indeed, death of a loved one could change you to a certain degree, reminds me of my late best friend who died 2 years ago. May he rest in peace.
Heeeeey you are a romantic! I think you'll like the trilogy of Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, and Before Midnight, try watching, it's a traveler's love story. Looking forward to hear yours, maybe on your way back, you will have your plane delayed, meet someone interesting, change your planned, you can tell me the rest, I'd make a movie about it

The Pill

Being a broke writer, broken hearted and alone, Man managed to finish his novel. He was happier than he was when he was in relationship. He only regretted one thing, he missed the woman and wish he would have a second chance to start things with her in a different way, without a lie.

Until one day they met again. Man was happy. Woman was indifferently. Man asked for another chance. Woman just stood still. They finally shake hands. He wondered what would this second meeting with Woman would affect his life now. He had no idea. Like he had no idea that some years ago, his life would change in less than 24 hours after meeting her.

Has something or someone has ever changed your life in less than 24 hours?

PS: It's just a movie, I don't think one's life could change in less than 24 hours... well it actually can, giving birth change a woman to a mother, ah but there's a 9 months process before that...

RE: Some Good news.

FInally some good news for today! Thanks for sharing non

RE: Socializing

No, it was the first time I shaved my head, back in 2004, mmmm when I was young Like it when I'm bald, but my kids made me promise not to do it again after the second time. Dunno why it became my profile pic, guess the one I used (enigma and ring) does not show my face clearly so they changed it.

RE: Socializing

1.What is your preferred way to socialize?
Anywhere with good food, I loooooove eating.

2.What percentage of your social time is spent online?
With internet service on my phone, whatsapp, wechat, kakaotalk and God's knows what else is coming, I have everything on my hand 24 hours, yes sometimes in sleep I still check my phone. sigh...

3.Have you noticed any change in your socializing habits and what were/are they?
Used to go to clubs and dancing till morning, now my aching bone scream when I do so. Age does not lie.

Now gimme a hug and a cigarette, no kisses unless you have brushed your teeth.

RE: Are More Intelligent People Happier?

I think it's more wisdom than intelligent...

RE: Are More Intelligent People Happier?

"Does higher intelligence bring with it a certainty of higher happiness?"
no, the ability to appreciate the simple joy of life does. IMO :)

(True) Love

NoseHairBob,
go, go, go! Lemme me know when it's ready, I'll come by and enjoy sunset, beer, and your singing, laying on the hammock.

Knenagh.
oh, in this case, I agree with you.

(True) Love

India,
I agree with you!

NotMisstaken,
indeed, love should be liberating, both you and the person you love.

(True) Love

Knenagh,
So you mean to love is to run after someone to make him loves you back?

(True) Love

NoseHairBob,
yes, a hammock, and a guitar, perhaps :)

(True) Love

No, unfortunately there's no hammock here, wish there is!

(True) Love

Choco! It's been a while thanks for sharing, I'll try to digest what you wrote but I guess it will take a while, it's so cozy here all I wanna do is laying lazy and let the day goes by

A mumble in a chaotic city far from home

an update, another friend is preparing to move to another city to start a new life with his girlfriend. So it works, this site, long distance, love, relationship

A mumble in a chaotic city far from home

You too, Bogart

Guadal, sometimes I think "normal" is overrated, don't you think?

A mumble in a chaotic city far from home

Charming, I totally agree with you. This time I'd rather be single and happy than being in a relationship and unhappy :)

Migsy, yes, who knows

A mumble in a chaotic city far from home

Santi, or I need more time to find him

Hans, indeed. I'll wait, patiently, this time