sweet_saucy2008 Blog Comments (189)

RE: Time for decisions.. How do we deal with them?

Speaking realistically you may be right, but we are creatures of habit and habits are hard to break even if it will be in our best interest. The first response is to go with what feels the safest to us.

RE: Friends

I don't know you or your situation, but the first comment was just plain wrong. If I am to understand this correctly you had been overweight and this an aftermath of a diet. Congratulations for not being afraid of what others will say.

I agree with what you are trying to say to those who will read your blog.

RE: it cost me my eye

I have been very fortunate that my battle scars are not very visible. I have often wondered about the women who had things much worse than I did. I would fight tooth and nail to assist any woman is a situation such as your own. People say I would be crazy to do that and risk my own safety, but it would not be my safety that would be in question. One would be surprised at what I can accomplish.

My door is always open to you and others in the same situation that you were in. Call on me anytime. You are one brave lady.

RE: voting

Good point I suppose, but I never judge people by a first glance or even a second one. If they don't have the brains, the braun is quite useless.

RE: friends

When we have the opportunity to make friends at all whether they are long term or for a short time, they all touch out hearts and become inprinted into our memories.

RE: voting

What is so wrong with being noticed for your merits rather than your braun? Or is that the reason so many guys like to show their pecs?

i am more into brains than braun because looks fade and dumb is forever.

RE: voting

To this day I have yet to figure out why anyone would give a rat's behind what others think of a pic. I don't have mine set up for a rating because the opinion of others should not matter good or bad.

I like your pic, but I am not one of the "older" women who is voting.

RE: Why is it with the

What I don't get is why it should matter how anyone rates your photo. A photo doesn't tell anyone who you truly are on the inside. I choose not to rate or have my photos rated because it has nothing to do with the person I am. Beauty fades and dumb is forever.

What should matter is how the person you finally meet sees you as beauty is in the eye or the beholder.

RE: Help!! Change profile pic???

Hey. I think you look to be involved with intense thoughts. I think it shows a strong character, intelligence, and a sense of innocence. Nothing wrong with the Farrah Fawcett smile, but your pic is so natural with the way your hair sets to your posture. Don't allow others to dictate who you are or how you should look. I think a natural look works best.

RE: wolve of spirit

Very interesting art piece.

RE: good&bad

There are some pretty good dogs out there, but I am beginning to dislike them as well.

At least dogs don't try to change who you are and some do show more care towards you than the two legged ones.

Sure there are good men out there, but their specs for the right woman is way out of range and too high maintaince. What ever happen to the day when people could see past the exteriors and if children were involved that added more to form a solid foundataion? If I read anything aside from, Want children: No, but welcome yours, I am not interested. My baby was first in time and is first in line.

RE: Looking for the silver lining in the cloud.

There are many reasons to sever any ties through divorce. One important one is that you are still accountable for whatever they do. Hell I have been divorced for 3 yrs. and I got a call today from the Sheriff's Dept. looking for my ex. The Deputy thought we may have been back together. If that had been the case I would be held accountable for his whereabouts. The Deputy just told me without asking that they had papers on him. He is in deep as the cops are looking hard and heavy for him, but I can sleep easily knowing it is not my problem anymore. He took me down enough drains in 17 yrs.

I have custody of my granddaughter who is his step granddaughter and I would not want her exposed to having the law out here to pick him up as she has seen them do with her own father.

You can still have a link and get along, but it is best to sever all legal ties.

RE: people hurting people

So I have been told this. It is so difficult to be patient when waiting to see it happen. I am still waiting on so many to pay the devil his due.

RE: My Last Words

You are certainly right. How often do we read someone's profile and not their email because they may not fit the criteria that we have set for ourselves? It is sad that we even set up a certain cirteria because we may be passing up the best thing in our lives. I leave myself open on that part because we may meet someone whom we may not have considered to be a fit choice for ourselves, but would turn out to rock our world.

RE: whats up

A great day. My younger son is stepping in to help me out with yard work and is going to pressure wash the house for me. We even talked about him building clothes line posts for me.

It helps that he is an Army specialist certified in masonary.

Whoo hoo!!

RE: Maybe this site will be the greatest???

Well there you go. In the past week I have been in contact with a few different people. Guess spring is in the air. Of course we are just communicating as friends, but you know, that is probably the best way to begin any relationship. Guess now we will see what we see.

RE: HI

It's been splendid. I hope it has been the same for you.

RE: hi

You are more than welcome. Just keep on doing what you are for yourself and don't be afraid to smile. That is something most people notice first before anything else. I hear that all the time about my smile. I think it makes me look like the Cheshire Cat, but hey, whatever works.

RE: why do people?

Since having first hand experience with this, people generally hurt others because they are disastisfied with their own existence and in many cases suffer from low self esteem so they take it out on the ones closest to them and say they are sorry later. The key factor is that they know the person they hurt will take them back and continue to take their grief. It is a release for them and a means to bolster what they lack within themselves by draining you of your life's energy. It is not real love, but a real need that makes them want you. Love should be about purity from the heart and not the ego.

People leave inspite of how much you want them and hurt over them because they are out to find what it greener on the other side of the fence. It may take them months to figure out that no one else wants them so they will return to the one thing they know can be relied upon, you. You will take them back unconditionally.

True love never hurts. It grows deeper with each day and each year. It is too easy for some to say "I love you" because they can play with your emotions and feed off your energy. It would be like guy having a secret affair and then coming back to you when it doesn't work out and say, "Oh she meant nothing to me." Apparently she meant enough for them to go to them in the first place and had things turned out differently, they would have remained with that other person.

There is nothing wrong with dreaming of a true love. The key is to not settle for anything less than what you want. That person will be out there and it takes time and patience to find them even in the real world. I have settled and learned some hard lessons, but I did learn that no matter what, there are worse things than being alone. Be true to yourself first because you are all you have.

RE: QUOTE

If more people would think that way they could understand my profile more accurately. I feel as though I have lived many lives and for all intense purposes have.

It is so true that what we have to experience brings us to who we become. For some the journey is a smooth one and for others it is filled with land mines. Coming through to it and make good of oneself is what matters the most.

RE: This online dating can be so time consuming!!!

It does look like it just you and me doesn't it. LOL.

I can describe my strengths which should be a good thing for anyone who doesn't want to have to carry the lead. If you paid close attention you would have been alerted to the the fact that I am not in an hurry to hook up as I have been asked to do. Lonliness is a sad thing, but I want someone to walk with me and not run to see where things may lead.

As for who I am looking for, that is wide open. If you hold tight to a set of ideas you may miss out on a real good thing. Maybe you should read the profile over again and with open eyes and mind.

I want those interested to know going in what I am all about. I do not play mind games. The show stopper seems to be the fact that I have custody of my granddaughter. I am not looking for someone to be her Dad. She has no parents to speak of, but she will always have me. I wear two hats very well.

RE: This online dating can be so time consuming!!!

Remember, there is always more to a person than what their profile discloses.

RE: I See Clearly Now

Although I am not a poet, what you wrote speaks for so many of us here.

I have been taught that there is someone for everyone and it takes time and patience on our part to finally reach that point.

RE: I will give up or not

I have been to many sites just to check them out and on CS people seem to be more understanding and friendly about who you are then other sites will offer. I dropped the others, but always maintained my foot in this door at CS because it feels like home. I am accepted by many and for those who do not, just remember they have done you a big favor.

In the US people all speak differently and it is even hard to distinguish what they are saying. I have moved around through my life and traveled and have met and listened to many different lingos. Whatever you do, don't give up. Other sites tend to want to cyber with you or play mind games. To them it is all a game. I think from what you are saying you want more than that and deserve more.

Hang in there. I speak fluent English, but "differently" as it is put because I was attended college. Guys tend to be intimidated by what they do not understand on their level.

RE: genuine

I would have to say yest there are genuine women out there. I happen to be one of them, but meeting someone who is equally genuine has been up to now difficult a best.

We all have our problems to bring to the table, but with that we bring our own experiences. Since when has anyone been too perfect to accept others as they are. It seems that instead of a loving ralationship others are looking for the drama free, no complications type of love. What ever happen to for better or for worse whether you are married or not? Read my profile if you want to get an insight into my world. I may be raising a granddaughter, but I am still a woman who is not into the mind games I have been been up against. I am as real as I get. It is what it is.

RE: DO U THINK SOME ARE MENT TO SPEND THEIR LIVES ALON

Doomed!? Not at all. I have been divorced for 3 yrs. now and my last ex tell me that I had better get a move on or no one will be interested. Whatever. After the kinds of relationships my two marriages were I am fortunate to have come out of them with a sense of self and sanity.

I can honestly say I am picky, by why settle just to keep from being alone. There are far worse things than that. When the right person for you does come along you will know it. As for myself I am enjoying the time I have as I know that I have other obligations raising my granddaughter. Most men I encounter want you to be there for them alone and I cannot push her to the wayside.

When you least expect it the person you long for will come along.
I am not looking, but I am open for the opportunity. It is when you look hard that you do not find. Once you sit back and let things happen love will find you.

Best wishes.

RE: Tell me why it is that I haven't got hit on by any

Well I have to wonder if you have tried to hit on anyone yourself? If you make contact you will receive contact. Somes guys like to be hit on and others don't. Even if this is the age where women ask men out, there are still many of us who would never consider doing that.

Have you tried to expanding your profile to include more of your personality? At times the less you say the fewer responses you will receive. I did read your profile and although it is neat, it is too simple. I would show more interest in a profile that had more of a description about the person. Looks aren't everything although you do look nice.

RE: thanks

It is not difficult to speak the truth. Give yourself a chance and you will find happiness. You may go through many before finding the right one. I have come across many and have yet to find what suits me. It is better to walk then it is to run.

RE: why dont people respond to you at least

I have had that experience as well. My only thought is that they are the idiots. Maybe they view us as being too good for them. Truthfully we probably are, so they have done us a favor by leaving us alone.

RE: whyis being nice, taken the wrong way?

Some men think that women are on here to hook up. We are not allowed to be here just for friendships or that we can be self reliant without a man in our lives. All too often I receive messages from men who come across as though they are a gentleman, but if you are not interested in them or want to take things slowly they go postal. It's crazy. You end up feeling like you have to be on guard with anyone who may send you messages or flowers. I dread receiving new messages and flowers because I just don't want to play mind games.