jbibiza Forum Posts (4,914)

RE: After 10 years....

Awwww Starlin, I'm all warm and fuzzy inside! I can't tell you how happy I am for you!!!! If I were there I'd give you a big hug, but my little friend will have to do...

RE: Post a rumor about the person above you II

RE: Post a rumor about the person above you II

Actully lives in Utah and has 4 wives and 17 children... looking for wife number 5

RE: is african proplem food or education

Hi Rusty, I'm at a complete and total loss of how anyone can help at this time. I'm involved with a group of people here in Ibiza that are doing some pretty great things in Cambodia... we've set up an orphanage and every child there is getting an education, medical and dental coverage and a lot of love, we've got a program set up with a well known artist who is teaching kids to paint, they are selling their paintings to tourists and making more money then their parents, we also help to fund a medical center there.

We tossed the idea around of trying to set up something similar in Africa, but without taking our lives in our hands there really is no way to do it until the people there stop slaughtering each other. How do you educate, how do you teach with everything going on? I recently watched a film called "Blood Diamonds" a truly horrible film to watch but one I think everyone should see... I don't think I could ever wear a diamond again after seeing it.

RE: What song describes what you are LOOKING for

How much is that doggie in the window? (arf! arf!)
The one with the waggley tail
How much is that doggie in the window? (arf! arf!)
I do hope that doggie's for sale

RE: MY AMERICA and MY CONSTITUTION

Sorry Goose, it's a lovely ideal... but I don't find these truths self evident anywhere in this world at this time.

RE: MIXED SIGNALS....ONE NIGHTS STANDS...FWB....CHANCE ENCOUNTERS

I have to disagree, I've had two long term lovers in my life, one for two years and very recently stopped seeing one that I've been with for the past 4 years. I'm not young (48) and I was never in love with either one and never wanted anything other then a physical relationship. I was faithful in that I never slept with other men while seeing them and we each understood that if we met someone else that had the potential for a full relationship that what we shared would end.

RE: Where Men go Wrong.

Thats the male/female we... not you and me

RE: Where Men go Wrong.

1. Yes, I do like a man with a good work ethic, but nothing can replace time spent with your family and if that means we don't get a new car this year because we're taking the kids camping... I know whats more important.

2. Macho is waaaay over rated, but emotional strength is important

3. If you're good enough in bed... you'll definitely get me in the mood...

4. Better if we have a few good friends

5. Nice doesn't have to be boring, and exciting doesn't mean rough

6. Hopefully we both win.

Hope that clears up any misconceptions...

RE: Where Men go Wrong.

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Mind getting me one while you're up?

RE: Where Men go Wrong.

Well Leo... that goes both ways and I've learned the hard way that if you want appreciation and respect from a man then don't do anything for him during the dating process. Don't volunteer to do his laundry, don't tidy up his apartment or house, don't pick up groceries and toilet paper.... because pretty soon it becomes expected and taken for granted and you'll be expected to keep it up for the rest of your life....

I've found that in general men have much more respect for a woman and treat her better if she starts out being a bit of a princess and every once in a while does something nice... like kidnap her guy for a romantic moonlight picnic or buy him a new shirt just because....

Believe me we know that all the stuff you do in the beginning to impress us isn't going to last... so we have to make the most of it while you're still making an effort to win us... we know the score as soon as you've got us!!!

RE: ¿Monogamy?

There are still cultures where monogamy is not the rule for humans. Monogamy has come about for humans through religion and society. It is my preference, but how much of that is learned behaviour and how much is natural to humans? Swans and wolves also mate for life and often don't take another partner even after the death of their mate. So personally I don't feel that it's what "separates us from the animals". You've brought up a good subject and my own personal feeling is that possibly it's not in human kind to be monogamous for long periods of time, but our learned behaviour drives us to try to find that one true mate. Nature vs. Nurture? I really don't know.

RE: It's snowing again and since......

No pesky penguins and no reason to blame anyone... weather was lovely here today, about 78 with bright sunshine and a clear blue sky. (not that I'm trying to rub it in or anything) hehehe

RE: Good Luck to Scottishlass for that Cataract Operation tomorrow!!!!

Thinking of you!!!

RE: Cs im

Exactly what I do as well, I have met a couple of really great guys via IM and I'm not going to let some idiot run me off!

RE: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It’s a catchy phrase, but is it true?

Couple of jaded, cynical wenches aren't we..???

RE: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It’s a catchy phrase, but is it true?

So much depends on the type of people involved and the honesty of the communication. I met my ex- husband while I had a job where I traveled all over the US... our time together was romantic phone calls, passionate weekends etc. basically nothing that was real!

We didn't have to deal with each others quirks and faults, everything was lovey dovey and romantic and the fact of the matter is, if I had spent just 3 months day to day living with him, I never would have married him. He was really good at saying what he thought I wanted to hear but there was no substance to any of it.

I could handle distance after the fact... once you've been together and know what you have is real.

RE: Money and Happiness

Believe me I understand that... you're talking to someone who used to live in a $3,500 a month apartment in San Francisco, who sold a business that generated an income of $300,000 a year and went backpacking for 3 years... who is now quite happy living on a tenth of that income in a little studio on a little island. As long as I have the money to visit my family and daughter once or twice a year and pay my international phone bill, I'm a happy girl!

RE: Money and Happiness

Well it's hard to be happy when you can't put a roof over your kids head, or give them a proper meal, hard to be happy when you're ill and can't afford to see a doctor or pay for you medication. The value money has for me is the freedom it gives me to do what I want. I don't like money for moneys sake but I sure do love the fun and travel you can have with it.

RE: My America

It's a topic of debate, everyone has their own opinions... if we deleted every thread that people didn't agree on there would be no threads... I think it's been one of the better mannered threads myself.

RE: My America

I think a person can be very ethical and human without religion, I don't think that people should be judged by a set of standards that is prejudicial to others beliefs and that go against the laws of the state or country. In Christianity they still can't agree on what day is actually the sabbath so how is anyone supposed to keep it holy?

Another one where we just have to agree to disagree, but you know I luv ya!

What do you think... to harsh?

All ready having one and looking forward to grandkids in a few years...

RE: My America

Personally I feel it was correct to remove him. Look at what is happening in the middle east where there is no separation of church and country... you have religious police usurping the laws of the country and women are being accused of witchcraft and sentenced to die... children are being executed against the country's laws.

These are items that have been recently posted on threads here at CS. To allow someone to go against the laws of the country in order to practice their personal religious beliefs in the court room scares the hell out of me and I'm glad they threw him out.

What do you think... to harsh?

I can't imagine you approaching someone like that, you're first contact with me was here on the forums, we found out we have the bar business in common and now diving... that's a great start to creating a friendship and communicating with each other and your age has no bearing on that.

If we were to start conversing and then find we had a lot more in common and found we had an attraction that could be more then a friendship then again your age would be of no consequence because it would happen by genuine attraction and things we can relate to with each other. I have dated guys your age in the past few years and have had a lot of fun with them, but now that I'm ready to settle down the chances of that happening are very slim, simply because of what Dana said earlier... most younger men haven't had kids yet and still want to have a family and I'm not interested in that anymore.

So I guess the real problem with the guy that contacted me wasn't so much his age, but the fact that he was obviously a scammer, someone looking to get something from someone and I don't appreciate being contacted in that way.

What do you think... to harsh?

He's 28, and if the approach had been something along the lines of... I read your profile and you seem really interesting... or I noticed that you like diving, I love it too, that would be great, we have something in common that could be the basis of a friendship or some conversation...

but when the approach is... you are so beautiful, I can't believe you are 48, I would think 28 or 30, I'm really impressed with you, I think we can be life partners...

What do you think... to harsh?

To me the only reason a boy of that age would contact me is that he is after something, money, a visa, etc. and I do find it insulting that he would think I'm stupid enough to feel flattered or desperate enough to give him what he's looking for.

RE: guys.... answer this question for me please...

No matter how well you get on with a person, or how well they treat you, if that spark is missing, you can't make yourself fall in love with them. A one sided relationship never works... you're putting yourself in a position to be taken advantage of and I know for myself if a person allows me to take advantage of them, I don't respect them and without respect, there can never be love.

What do you think... to harsh?

Ok guys, sorry I ditched my own thread... I have been on an IM for the past two and a half hours with an incredibly intelligent and interesting man of 48 years!!!! and to think I almost didn't answer it because I thought it might be the 28 year old....

You guys have done some great posts, just got done reading through them, thanks Dana just have a bit of a sore throat and am really tired... after not working for 5 months these 10 hour days 6 days a week are killing me, it'll take a couple weeks to get back in the swing of things.

Jeff, I'm LMFAO... brilliant letter, you're always so witty and dry... I love your sense of humor.

Like I said, I really was of two minds on my response and I'm actually really surprised at how many of you agreed with it... to be honest I kind of thought I was being an arrogant bi*ch, but his reply relieved me of any misgivings on that front. But I think I'll probably just go back to ignoring...

What do you think... to harsh?

This is the first time I've replied to something like this, and actually felt my reply was a lot more rude then just ignoring him. Can't believe someone thought of you as non opinionated!!!

Hi lass!

OMG Ras... say it ain't sooooo!!!

What do you think... to harsh?

I know what your saying bb, and I have to say I'm of two minds... My reaction did come from having a bad day and not feeling to well, but after I sent it I started thinking about it. Hence the post.

On the one hand, dumb kid, ignore it.

On the other hand I actually do find it quite insulting to be approached in this manner. To tell me that I look more like 28 or 30 not 48... oh come on, I wish that were true but it's not... I may look a couple of years younger then my age but not 20 years younger!!! I may be reasonably attractive, but I'm not a beauty by any means.

What I am is an intelligent woman and to be approached in this manner I find to be an insult to my intelligence.

I'll be over it by morning!