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RE: A Moment and Forever

You're making me crazy with this... are you inside my head????

I honestly didn't think it was possible to start having emotions about someone without meeting them... and then due to a weird series of events I thought I had lost the man I've been speaking with these past 2 months...I had the most horrible sense of loss... I feel this mans presence when we speak, fortunately it was a misunderstanding and everything is fine with us...but I do know that I'm not going to keep letting stuff get in the way of our meeting...

Thank you for the beautiful expressive words

RE: Are you a consumer ?

Thank you Leo, it took me a while to be comfortable with the fact that not owning things doesn't make me unsuccessful.

RE: Are you a consumer ?

I changed my life completely 8 years ago... I walked away from my 3bed 2bath flat, 4 TV's, 3 stereos, 2 computers, dinner service for 20, etc. and bought a backpack. I sold everything that didn't fit in the pack with the exception of one small box of photos and sentimental stuff that I left with my parents. I spent the next 3 years backpacking around the world and realized how much of the stuff I thought I couldn't live without was completely unnecessary.

I've been in Ibiza for 5 years now and all my worldly possessions will still fit in a backpack and 4 boxes and if I were to leave here, I'd leave the boxes as well. I am however planning to splurge on a camera... but again I feel it is a necessity... so many wonderful memories to record.

RE: Are you a consumer ?

I'm trying to remember the last time I spent even 10euros on something that wasn't necessary, unless you consider going out for a meal and drinks with friends... nothing in at last 8 years with the exception of an airline ticket to go to a wedding, but I think that was necessary.

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

I think you missed the point entirely... when you talk with someone over the phone emails etc. there are just things that don't come up in normal conversation. I know all about his hobbies, politics, religion or lack of... it's those personal little details that you don't get until you're in someones company that have me curious... and I think you'll notice that nowhere did anyone mention finances or jobs or anything materialistic... so please don't tar us all with the same brush...

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

Well ladies, it's time for me to turn in... no sleep last night, so I should sleep well tonight. Have fun! Claire I leave you in charge of putting together the official "List"

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

My definition of ironing... spritz clothing with water mixed with a touch of fabric softener, throw in tumble dryer for 5 min. remove and put on hanger... or in my case, put directly on... cause I never plan ahead!

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

In Ibiza it's not so good... getting from major town to town is great, but I love getting away to the quiet beaches and you pretty much need a car to get there.

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

or am I being dumb and that was sarcasm?

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

You're like my daughter, growing up in San Francisco there is great public transportation so she never bothered to learn to drive... she's nearly 26 now and I've been on her case to get her drivers license, I'd go crazy if I couldn't drive!

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

oops... eating in bed

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

Why did I know you'd answer the eating in bad that way

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

After reading your previouse post I understand you're question! But that's also a pet peeve of mine... a person getting angry over not finding a spot to park... patience!

Things I like to know about in a potential partner...

I'm going to meet someone in about 2 weeks that I have been talking to for a couple of months now. In spite of hours spent on the phone...plentiful pages of emails... there is still so much about this man that I don't know. Last night I started thinking about some things I would like to know...


1. Do you argue or walk away until you cool down?

2. Do you have a favorite side of the bed... is it negotiable?

3. How do you feel about public displays of affection?

4. When you sleep with someone do you wrap around each other all night, or cuddle to start but sleep
separated?

5. Do you eat in bed?


Feel free to answer as many or as few of these questions as you like... and to add any questions.

RE: Saturday March the first... a whole new day

All my love and good wishes to both your families!

RE: Interculturally .....in love !!

Ok... what happens if you fall in love with a man who is married? Is your happiness together more important then the love his wife has for him... is it worth breaking up a family? It's easy to say I would never fall in love with a married man... but love is what it is and you can't always control who you fall in love with, just how you deal with that love.

RE: Thoughtful Question

Well Lush and I are with you on that one... not everyone said both go together

RE: Interculturally .....in love !!

Aries, please don't take this as an attack, I really didn't realize how important this issue was to me until this discussion started. I think you have said it yourself, you are a bit of a hopeless romantic. In in some ways I envy you that, but we live in a real world and not everyone compromises and accepts differences, how lovely it would be if that were not true.

I have a good friend who grew up on Belfast, if she were seen talking to a protestant boy there would be a beating and possibly a death as a result. If you fell in love with a Jewish man from a very traditional family, would you be willing to give up your christian beliefs to accommodate his family or would your husband no longer have any family but yours, and your kids, only one set of grandparents.

You like to think that these things can be worked out, in many cases they can't. Because you are a reasonable person does not make everyone reasonable and sadly that is the world we live in.

RE: Interculturally .....in love !!

I think it's incredibly selfish to destroy families for the sake of love between 2 people... to me it takes a lot more courage to walk away. The idea that I could be the cause that a man doesn't speak with his mother anymore... I couldn't live with that. JMO

RE: Interculturally .....in love !!

Family rifts, kids not knowing grandparents and cousins, feeling a need to take sides, long term friendships ended, the loss of who you are and what you belive in, if this is the cost of "love" it wouldn't be worth it to me.

RE: Interculturally .....in love !!

Intersting thread Riya... and good afternoon to all you lovely people!

RE: Interculturally .....in love !!

Well I guess I'm not as optimistic as the rest of you are. I'm still of the mindset that when you marry someone you marry their family as well... unless they are already estranged.

I could not be with a man who's culture put a low value on women, while he may be enlightened there is a good chance his family and friends may still have their traditional beliefs which would create all types of problems... even if he stuck up for you, you are creating tensions within the family unit and trouble is bond to follow. Other cultural diversities I welcome... I love learning about traditions, foods, etc.

I feel the same way about a man who feels strongly about his religion. I am pretty much anti-organized religion, a feeling of spirituality or a belief in something is wonderful, but someone who believed strongly in the dogma of religion...these are problems that for me are better avoided.

Distance.... for a while I could deal with it, but in a relationship I'm looking for a partner. If we can't be there for each other to share the burdens and the laughter of day to day living, if I can't wrap my arms around him... then things would soon begin to feel empty... words on the phone or on a computer screen are not enough.

So I guess there's a good reason I'm still single... I want it all and I'm not willing to settle for less.

RE: The CS Clock Is Counting Our Birthdays.. :)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARTY

RE: Where to go to meet someone?

Are you sure you're asking the right people this question? I mean here we all are, single and on an online dating site!

But I think the most common advice is to be active doing things you like doing and you have a better chance of meeting someone with common interests. The biggest thing that I find is doing things on your own, you are much more approachable then if you are with a girl friend and giving people something to ask you about... like wearing a t-shirt that has an unusual logo... they can ask you what it means.

If you have a dog... talking the dog for a walk, going to the local doggie park or a park where guys are playing sports.

Good Luck!

RE: Thoughtful Question

Well said BEB! I remember after having my daughter thinking "I really am capable of unconditional love", I wasn't sure before that.

RE: MOTOR BOAT/ SAILING BOAT OWNERS CLUB ONLINE.....

Hi Goose, my possible new BF is just finishing restoration of an Ontario 32, if you have any specific questions I can forward them.

RE: whats the best way to become a millionaire ?

hhmmmm maybe I should write a book of surprise ending short stories

RE: whats the best way to become a millionaire ?

Invent something stupid with witty literature, like the pet rock.

RE: The Lonely of I Love You

Sometimes you just have to let things be what they are. I guess I'm a bit of an odd person, but I like the feeling of missing someone and don't mind the lonely of I love you.