Hi Dana, sorry I didn't stick around and play last night, I couldn't keep up with all the action on CS world thread, those keyboards were smokin' last night!
This probably is an area that I am quite sensitive about. I just get frustrated at being judged for wanting to have some time of my own in life. There are so many people who claim to have raised a child, without ever being truly responsible for their child. My ex husband is a perfect example, he takes great pride in stating that he has a child... but in her 25 years he has spent about 3 years in her company.
As a single parent I worked 50 to 60 hours a week to provide her a home she could be proud of. When I wasn't working my priority was not to date and meet someone else, but to spend as much time with her as I could, her dad chose not to be a part of her life... so I didn't have every other weekend free. My first date after my divorce was when Jen was 16. I am glad that I made the choice to put time with my daughter ahead of having a social life, we share such an amazing bond with each other and you only have so much time before they are grown and having a life of their own.
So now is the time that I have to find someone to grow old with, to explore life with, all the things that so many have done while sticking their kids in daycare, or leaving them with a babysitter, or being a "weekend" parent. I feel that when you choose to have a child... that child comes before anything else in your life... and now that my daughter is grown up I choose to pursue the things I put on hold while I raised her.
Why do you have to say it's a problem? It's not a problem... it's a choice. You are still a young man, and I don't think you have raised a family yet? I had my daughter when I was 22 years old, I divorced my husband when I was 24, i spent 20 years by myself raising my daughter and giving her everything I could to insure she grew up to be an independent, competent, caring individual, and now at 48 years old I choose to enjoy some time for me, time when what I want counts for something. I really don't appreciate someone insinuating that I have a problem because I choose to have some time in my life to find out who I am and what I enjoy.
This generation are waiting until later in their lives before they have children, spending time traveling, exploring who they are, socializing, etc before going into a life filled with responsibility. I have spent more then half of my life being responsible for another human being, I think I have earned the right to be a little bit selfish now, without any one saying I have a problem because I don't choose to take on someone else's children.
Sorry if I sound like a bi*ch about this... but when you have raised you're kids and are looking at having 5 or 6 years to yourself before grandkids come along... tell me if you are ready to give up those years to help someone else raise their kids.
It depends on what stage of life you are at... My daughter is 25, at this stage I am not interested in having any more children or in helping to raise any one elses children. I'm enjoying the freedom I have now after having been a parent and don't date men who are tied with children. Ten years ago i would have felt differnt...
Leo, tonight is a night of fun and frivolity... don't be so serious... it's time to play. And besides I think my bid was high at 39.95.... so I insist you play an d have fun!!!!!
... and here I was thinking you were writing about me.... NOT! I know I have a long way to go before I'm a good woman... in the mean time I'll settle for being a fun woman!
Ok a difference at last, at this stage of my life I'm more inclined to work on it with my partner, or just tell them it's not going to happen. So my faking now is few and far between.
Yes, for the same reasons as above, and also on a few occasions where no matter how much you're enjoying it, sometimes your body just doesn't want to cooperate and some guys just won't give up...
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Dana I'm here to crack you up!!!!!!
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Hi Dana, sorry I didn't stick around and play last night, I couldn't keep up with all the action on CS world thread, those keyboards were smokin' last night!