druidess6308 Forum Posts (13,695)

RE: Children´s views on marriage

Gotta love kids!

Btw...you've known the girl/boy you're going to marry for 10 years at 23?

RE: Fear and Love

This looks like it's a beautiful song, Moema. Thank you for sharing.

RE: What can you live without?

Good to see you, too! Of course I came in to talk on your thread...great topic, too. Every bit helps, and I do what I can, and strive to do more each day. It just never seems like enough, though. I know how important it is, though. So...I'll be watching and learning. Just might not be all that often tonight. I've got to start cleaning house...I've got a very special guest coming here tomorrow night, and I've got less time to get it done now that we've bumped it up to then.

RE: Tumpa's Tasty Treats

Same here, LL...how about we share some popcorn and watch out for tips!

RE: What can you live without?

I'm not as far along as you on this...but I have changed most of my lightbulbs to CF's, I recycle everything that I can, or reuse it. I composte, and I grow my own herbs. I keep the shower as short as possible, and have replaced appliances and toilets with more energy saving ones.

I actually had the water company stop by to check my inside meter because there was so much less water being used after replacing the old dishwasher and a couple of toilets. They wanted to "make sure there wasn't a leak somewhere".

RE: I have flowered woman on this sight I have IM'd them what am I doing wrong?

I have to agree that the screen name is a bad choice. Even if it's a nickname in RL, it doesn't translate well as a screen name on a dating site.

Also, a lot of women on here have their IM turned off because it freezes up the screen and just doesn't function well at all here. So...re-do the profile to change your screen name, and then send emails and flowers to women you're interested in.

Otherwise, your profile looks good, although adding a few more photos would help.

Good luck.

RE: Is today's woman too materialistic

Absolutely. I have been the breadwinner of the family, when I was married to the father of my children. He had a back injury and I supported a family of 4...no easy feat today. But, I would do it again for a disability. I'll never do it for someone who is just lazy.

RE: Today's thought...............

HJ, you're waxing very philosophical lately...but I love your posts.

This was very deep. Thank you.

RE: :::::: I Wish I'd Done That :::::::

But good luck.

RE: Is there anyone help to me get a part time job in Perth?

Though in all fairness, he might also have been hoping to find a date upon arrival and just forgot to mention that.

RE: Is today's woman too materialistic

Oh, I have no doubt that there are women like that out there, and some of these men may have had that experience...but not all of us are like that. I could care less what a man makes, where he lives, or what he drives. I care that he's honest, intelligent, has a good sense of humor and positive outlook on life, and a Spiritual nature similar to mine. I care more about his morals than his wallet, and more about his inside than his outside.

My mother raised me with the saying, "It's just as easy to love a rich man as it is a poor man", and knowing all of my silverware and proper settings. I have had the etiquette training to be able to dine with the Queen of England. She wanted me to marry a doctor or a lawyer.

I have married a clerk, a janitor, a steelworker, and a retired boilermaker. I'm now getting ready to date a welder. Go figure. I could still dine with the Queen w/o shame, but that doesn't mean a thing to me.

I have a heart of gold, I don't need to go digging for gold.

RE: Visitor ;)

I don't think either of them would understand that word, unfortunately. It's a long drop from my windows, too...

RE: Visitor ;)

Sorry...I sleep cuddled with mine at times, so laughing with you, BP, laughing with you.

RE: :::::: I Wish I'd Done That :::::::

I'll keep that greeting in mind. Mine is only driving a couple of hours, but it's straight from working all day. That kind of greeting should certainly eliminate his nervousness!

RE: Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery..............that is why today is the day..........

Each day, each hour, each minute, is special. Live for today, for
tomorrow is promised to no-one.

Very true, dear Jenny...very true. I've certainly learned that life is too short, and even when I'm feeling hectic and stressed, I slow down, breathe deep, and live in that moment. Life is a very precious gift, and I don't sweat the small stuff anymore...not often, anyway. I'm still human.

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Congratulations, Rusty! I'm glad you've found a good one, too! Awesome...and I wish the two of you the best!

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Thank you, Sxc! I think it will...and we just bumped it up to another night of torture one room away...

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

He is within a few hours of me. That's the thing...I cast my net a bit wider, so he's a couple of hours away, and that's outside the normal area I search within. I was looking that far for fun, saw his profile and pic and felt something, so I sent a flower. He's not drop-dead handsome, and his profile doesn't even say much, so I don't know why it stopped me, but it did. I pay attention to those things.

Ah, Lela...I hope you find someone. I have the same limits right now 'cuz I won't leave my kids behind. Right now, I couldn't even move to where he'll be, and to visit him where he's moving, I'd have to kennel the dogs...so, it's still a distance that could cause us problems. See, he'll be starting a new job, and moving about an hour further away...and working midnights. But, if it's meant to be, and we want it bad enough, we'll overcome all of that. And I'm in no hurry for it to get serious enough to talk about moving in, so we've got time.

Anyway, keep hope alive. I hope someone as good as you finds the right man. You're such a great woman, with a lot to give. You deserve to find someone who will appreciate that and give back just as well.

RE: Simple Words We Miss Hearing Because We're Single.....

Those are the ones I miss most, too, Anna.

RE: Will you dress up for Christmas?

Ya know, you're pretty awesome if you know this is what's going to happen, and you're doing it anyway.

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Awesome. I'm glad that you had that long together...esp if most of that time was good.
Yeah, the ones that are still bitter or hurt from their ex-wives are tough to get to let you in, and they don't really work through the problems in this one because they never worked through the issues from the last one.

He's been in two other long term relationships since his marriage, they're the only 3 women he's ever dated (so this is not a player!), and he hasn't let any of the things that happened make him bitter or non-trusting. This man is a gem...and guys like him are tough to find. He has old-fashioned values and new-age curiosity. I just hope that the sparks are there. I really do. But I know that no matter how good he is, I can't force it to be if it isn't there. I have a feeling, though...a very good feeling about this.

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Btw, it's fun hearing a 53 yr old man talk about feeling like he's 16 and going on his first date ever again.

He's got a good mix of good man/bad boy in him, too...and just enough common sense/flightiness mix so far. I think we're going to be a good pair...so long as the spark is there when we meet. If so, may it be a slow-burning flame, 'cuz those are the kind that last the longest.

And sorry, MyLife...I didn't mean to pretty much hog this part of your thread. But it was nice to have someone to talk to about it on here.

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Ah...they live with their dad and grandma, sweetie. When I have them, I keep them.

They'll accept it in the future if he stays over and is in my bed...just for this first weekend of all of us meeting, I think it's best if he's in the guest room, and we don't have the glow. Next time will hopefully work out when we don't have to worry about the glow being too obvious because I won't see them immediately afterward.

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Yes, it is...I've done it once before, and I remember that it was very worth it. I'm going to try to behave this time. It's time again for the thrill of anticipation while we get to know each other. So, I'm sticking to my guns.

Boy...will that shock the he** out of my best friend! That could make it worth it, too!

Knowing I have to face my sons, and my 13 yr old son's gf the next day should help. That should act like a cold shower.

RE: Will you dress up for Christmas?

Oh, man...I wish I was going to get to see this one!

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

Yep...and we've agreed to wait to make sure that's what it is.


Now, if only I can feel those sparks, but hold the hormones in control... That's usually my downfall.

RE: Feeling Broken From The Inside

All of those are good for the initial feelings of it, and then again on the worst days. For long term, meditate, spend time outdoors, and look inside at yourself. First the good parts...find them, hold them up and look at them, then hold them closer until you start to feel them shine again. Then you have to take a look at the bad parts of you...hold them up, say good-bye, and then let them go and replace them with more good parts. It's called rebuilding a better you. Seek peace and inner reflection within your Spiritual beliefs as well, whatever they might be.

Seeking to be a better you and to love you more is the best healing I've found. And it makes you strong enough to try again, and wise enough to do it smarter next time.

Shanti (inner peace)

RE: Will you dress up for Christmas?

Well, you'll be an elf nobody can miss!

RE: Making Your Romantic Dreams Come True!!

RE: who is taken???

Nope. We've already discussed that, and I have my sons this weekend too, so he's staying in the guest room. We already decided that if it's going to be we want it for the long haul, so that can wait. This weekend is to spend time together and meet in person. Friday is just us, then Saturday with my sons, and then my younger son's girlfriend is also joining us and I get to meet her for the first time...so I've got a house-full planned!

Sheesh, if he and I survive all of that, we've got it made!