elegantlady Forum Posts (104)

RE: My Dilemma

Hi best buddy on CS, well I almost feel like I need to revive my "Web Experience" thread for this one! I'm sorry to hear of this event that has been bugging you. However, my thoughts are until you actually meet someone in person, spend time with them, the online love thing is just fantasy! I don't dismiss the fact that people can fall in love here, I've taking a trip down that road before but the reality is that the web is a place where people can do some big time role playing The face behind the screen is not necessarily the personality that will accompany it. I really don't know what's up with all the game playing that goes on in cyberland I do know that the internet has become a candy shop for guys or girls who want to sample a few lollipops and then go NEXT!
As far as this guy is concerned, when you start receiving mail from other women, that becomes a problem. You need to talk to him find out where his head is at and also if he is putting info out there about you and how much he loves you, that limits the playing field for you. People who see this are going to think the two of you are hooked up and that you are not available Now then...you have to decide as to whether or not this is "friendship" or something more, this on again off again relationship is not cool and it sounds like to me he is playing with your emotions which would definately drive me up the wall

I'm here for you....

Rose

RE: Do you think you can make a man/women who is not interested in you to fall in love with you later??

I don't believe you can "make" anyone do anything they don't want to do! Of course there are many relationships that start out with disinterest on one part or the other and then all of a sudden things change. I've heard stories where a person says, "I couldn't stand him/her when we first met", it's all about giving the other person a chance, getting to know each other and seeing if it will work. There is a book that is a good read for everybody, especially women, It's called, "He's Just Not That Into You". At the end of the day, if he/she really doesn't like you, I doubt they will fall in love!

RE: Cause to Worry?

Definately cause for concern, I would start sending out the resumes now! Johnson and Johnson took over the pharmeceutical company my daughter had worked for many years. They took away jobs, demoted people and basically screwed up many lives, so much so that one man who they were trying to force into retirement committed suicide! It really pisses me off when companies terminate loyal employees and give their jobs to people in other countries just so they can avoid paying benefits and of course the ceo's can pay themselves more!

RE: The signs of a soalmate

Of course you will be able to tell when you connect with your soulmate, however, did you know that in your lifetime, you will have many! People always say that they are looking for their soulmate but they don't think about the connections they've made with people who have come into their life. A soulmate does not necessarily mean a connection with a person on a romantic level, you can have a friend who is your soulmate. On a romantic level you will know when you have found your soulmate when the comfort level between you is beyond comparison. You don't have to prove anything to each other, you appreciate time together as well as apart and you respect each other's differences.

RE: communication

Communication is key to any relationship be it romantic or friendship. The problem with email is that you can not necessarily convey the emotions behind the words. Something written can be taken totally out of context merely by the words or sentence structure used. That is why it is probably better to limit email exchanges and then proceed to conversations by phone which should lead to a meeting if you are interested. But I agree that this form of communication (email) has provided a web of safety for women in particular and also you can express yourself in a creative way.

RE: hi morning, how do you get rid of a headache i had for 5 days pleaseeeeeee

Don't know if this is a serious discussion or not, if you truly have had a headache for 5 days, please seek medical advice. I had a cousin who had a headache for several days, she went to the emergency room at the hospital and they dismissed it, told her to go home and take some aspirin or tylenol. They should have done a scan because she died within 24 hours of a brain aneurysm! However, if you are talking about a headache that reoccurs daily, not consistent, that is different. It could be migraines, allergies, etc,, but still should be checked out by a doctor! Hope you feel better soon

RE: Im so happy...

Don't want to put a damper on this love thing, really wish you all the best But a word of caution here....I do hope that he is first and foremost being truthful to you, also hope that whatever photos you've seen are really him. The thing about the web is that it is very easy to "hide" behind the screen, the web allows you to become the greatest performer, some people could replace some of our best actors and actresses! The true test as to whether or not one has found their "soulmate", lover or potential partner is meeting them, spending quality time with them (not just one night) and seeing where it goes from there. If you have been lucky enough to find that, then I am happy for you! I've been down this road before where a guy I fell for told me things I wanted to hear , he was handsome, charming, everything I thought I wanted but in the end he turned out to look nothing like his photo, very married and a total jerk! Be careful!! Still want you to be happy, everyone deserves that and everyone wants to be loved!

RE: Foreplay or Just do it?

Ahhhhh foreplay, seems like a lost art for some men, don't know why Why is it that some men want dessert first? Inasmuch as foreplay is important, afterplay is equally important. For some men, it's, "I got mine, you didn't get yours"?

RE: For all us older ladies-Men feel free to comment

Seems like we had a discussion about this topic a short time ago, I really don't know what the issue is regarding age? As I indicated previously it was always a common practise for men to date younger women, now things are different. Some people who are living in the dark ages still have a problem with it and that is their choice. I don't like the name "Cougar", I have not seen the documentary so I would need to view it to see how that label came about. I read a book once called "Older Women, Younger Men" and needless to say it opened my eyes on the possibility, prior to that I had never considered such a relationship. However, I do think there should be some consideration in regard to age differences, I am not dating someone young enough to be my grandson , I am not dating someone young enough to be my son either! Although, if someone came along in the 40-ish age bracket, I don't know....

RE: should they make it illegal to be homeless ? .. and dte some of these people of the streets ?

There are many reasons for homelessness, it is not fair to place every homeless person into the same category. In this country you have people who have lost their jobs, those who have exceptional educations are forced to take meager jobs. Some of the people who are employed can't find housing because they don't earn enough to pay the outrageous rents which usually require you to pay at least one month's rent in advance. Then you have people who have served in the armed forces, some who have been traumatised by what they've endured and what do they come back to? They return to a country that does not offer them adequate healthcare or mental health services. Some return home unable to work and very often the drinking and drug use starts while engaging in warfare, it is a means of coping. On the other hand there are people who are quite capable of working who milk the system. In this country the best thing that ever happened is to overhaul the Social Services system which was originally designed to help people who were really in need. What bugs me about the state of homelessness in our country is the fact that there are many schools, hospitals, business, etc., that have been shut down, it seems to me that some of these empty buildings could be used for housing for the numerous homeless people and their families! Also, we really do need to help people in our own country before we dish out money in foreign aid, the US is always sending aid to everyone else, who can we call to US???

Does Anyone Watch Footballer's Wives?

RE: Is it ok to wear...

Does it have sentimental value to you? I have several bands that my ex gave me during our marriage, since we have maintained a friendship after our divorce, I wear them on my right hand sometimes. Of course depending on how much gold your band has, you could sell it!

Does Anyone Watch Footballer's Wives?

I am crazy about this show, was watching the original one and then they did Footballer's Wives overtime which to me wasn't as great? Now the original one is back and Bad girl Tanya will be on. It will be interesting to find out how Amber exposes Conrad's friend who accidentally shot him!

RE: eastenders...

I used to watch Eastenders and I loved it, for some reason here in the states you now have to watch on a special channel that you have to pay extra in order to get it, don't know why?

RE: Some kind thoughts please

I'm glad to hear your Mum is doing better and has returned to work Hopefully the scan has not detected anything abnormal, sometimes it is just a precautionary measure to have her rechecked. It is important to have an ocologist who is involved with your mother's medical history, usually they will require that she maintain regular visits and routine testing. I don't know if your Mum had radiation or chemotherapy but the prognosis is usually good if she has undergone treatments as such. Wishing your Mum all the best for continued good health

RE: Is love a forgotten story???

If you've ever experienced love, it will never be forgotten, what's sad is those who have not been in love or felt loved. We have to remember that we are in charge of our destiny, romantic love is not the only kind of love that exists. Some people have rewarding experinces from the love they receive from a pet and of course there is no doubt that the love between a mother and child is most reassuring. But what about the love between friends? That is also important and satisfying.

RE: have you ever policitically domestrated ? otr attend a domenstration?

Back in the early 60's I protested against the Vietnam war, we used to raise hell back then when things bothered us, now adays everyone just voices their opinions in blogs but I think protests that are visual can make a difference. Also people tend to fear speaking against the government. Right now people are upset because of the lack of healthcare in our country, Michael Moore has produced a very interesting documentary called "Sicko". It is really sad that even people with health insurance don't get proper treatment and our denied rights that cost them their life. Also, there is something wrong with the system when a person such as myself has to pay nearly $500 a month for health insurance!

RE: What do you collect?

I collect anything heart shaped, native american jewelry, English, French,German, Portuguese and Italian pottery and dishes, pewterware, raggedy anne and andy dolls,other handcrafted dolls as well, folk art, french country furnishings, antiques, books, books and more books! Of course there is also music, linen textiles. Problem is I love too many things!

RE: how do you get on with your next door neibour?

My next door neighbor is 84 years old and he has a girlfriend that lives down the street! Makes me think there's hope for me after all! He's not so bad, a bit nosey and complains about things that are not his business!

RE: Paris was released!

Paris Hilton was ordered to appear before the judge who originally sentenced her. She has been ordered to return to confinement, however lawyers hired by her family are appealing the judges' decision. Most likely the decision made by the judge will stand unless an appeal is won. There has been reports that the reason why Paris was released is because she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Whereas that may be true the correctional departments always have available a psychiatrist to evaluate an inmate. If need be a person with psychiatric or mental problems will be closely monitored. People are outraged that Paris was given special treatment because of her status. There are numerous women in prison who don't have the means to hire top notch legal teams, nor can they be kept separate from the general prison population because of who they are. The saga continues, can't wait to see how this one ends! The news media is going crazy here, it is insane

RE: Paris was released!

Does not surprise me, even if she had served time, she would have received preferential treatment which is the case for most celebrities. Which brings to mind the question...What in hell makes her a celebrity? Is the fact that someone has money enough to put her on a pedestal I for one am tired of people who make tons of money getting away with their criminal behaviour. But then again we are responsbile for their halo, we pay to watch them play sports, we pay to watch their movies and we keep feeding their ego and I don't understand why

RE: why would a 60 year old man THINK i would be interested?

As an "older" woman, I hesitated to respond to this forum, however, after reading some of the comments, I felt compelled to do so. First of all, the so called may/december relationship is much more popular today than it has ever been. I do believe however that vast age differences can be somewhat unrealistic because of the lack of common interests. I am not opposed to someone my age dating someone younger but you do have to think about what will keep the relationship stimulating. A man in his 60's in excellent health may be able to keep up with a much younger woman and vice versa. It is very possible that they may have an exceptional relationship. More often then not it is the older man who seeks women in the 18-35 age group even though he may be in his 50's or 60's. The one good thing about the web is that you have choices, if you are not interested in someone, you can just decline their invitation to communicate further. Some of the comments made regarding older people are derogatory and all I can say is, should you live to attain maturity, you will appreciate respect and hopefully not be judged by age.

RE: wish me luck

Good luck Deborah, hope all goes well and that you recover rapidly, before you know you will be back on your feet!

RE: If I could turn back time,

Honey, do you remember another song with a title similiar to this by Ronnie Milsap? If I could turn back time I'd be back in college or maybe even high school, those were times that were so much fun, no worries, etc.

RE: are you passionate,romantic,caring,loving,honest,faithfull.

I believe I am all of the above and I truly enjoy being a woman, I embrace femininity, have always been caring and compassionate, the rest goes without saying. Of course I'm not an angel

RE: Should Someone Lie About Their Age?

I always tell the truth about my age, people always tell me I look younger and I think I've been really lucky in that respect. But aging is a part of life, you can't run from it, you can't hide from it. I guess because I have children that are younger I have a wide range of interests that are more in tune with someone younger. As far as lying is considered, sooner or later the truth will catch up with you. I agree with what you said about the attitude of most people towards people over 50, they think we are all ready for the rocking chair! In as far as women looking for younger men, that is relatively new. Initially it was men always looking for younger women, if a woman went after someone younger she was the talk of the town. Now the tables have turned and many women don't look at age as a deterrent in a relationship. I think as long as long as you are comfortable with your age and the person you are involved is as well, who cares?

RE: Really Name.....

Hi Margo, I'm Rose, some people don't like their name, I've always liked mine.

RE: three in bed or more

Some say, "Two's company, three's a crowd", I say fantasies are healthy Of course if you start having fantasies about 3 men in bed with you, oh well... I am a child of the age of free love and all that craziness that went on way back when, you went to a party, you ended up who knows where and doing whatever! But in this day and time, you may not want to fulfill your fantasies, nothing wrong in dreaming

RE: should the astrolgy pages be banned from the daily news papers for possibly misleading people ?

Censorship under any circumstances limits the amount of freedom we have as people. If you don't believe in astrology, bottom line is you don't have to read it. I for one am against any kind of censorship whether it be in the news media, television, movies, music, etc.

RE: has anyone got a rabbit

Hi Deborah,
My daughter has a rabbit, she is studying to be an anesthesiologist but is also taking veterinary studies, she is really knowledgeable where animals are concerned. What kind of rabbit is it?

Rose