to judge is just a natural innate trait that humans are born with, helps with survival of species. thers nothing whatsoever wrong with having a judgement on anything. everybody does it by default.
traits can be used and put to good or bad purpose . its how we use them that counts. like any of our other innate traits ..using them for good is the key.
but , its our nature that gives us the right to judge. not , a 30 year qualification /experience in anything ..inc psychology..
when one reads posts on threads it gives them an insight into the person behind the tread. because , although the profile /pics etc may be true or false , nevertheless their is a real person somewhere behind them. so regardless what they post,,,be it genuine or false..or troling , or whatever....that is what the person does. so, your observation and judgement ...of threads , will give insight into real person behind them. because that is what they do. regardless nature of threads.
when you read a thread jour judgement is kicking in automatically, regards real person . on a computer somewhere , ....depending on content ...you may think, ..are they serious , are they joking , are they trolling , ...are they totally off the wall. ? are they insane..lol you will automatically on basis of evidence be make a judgement on it .
i think people should use their natural traits for the best.... dont use them to harm anybody
i dont think people should be commenting on the people on the threads . certainly not posting about them,,,,re private email conversations...which i have seen on cs .
better just to respond to the thread.
(even though ones mind by default will be making judgements about the real person behind them.= are they serious , joking., off the wall, , insane ..etc... would i like relationship with them,,,,would i like my daughter to marry them... .... you may come to a conclusion on lots of things like that...that then would be your judgement on it.
my most valuable trait in person is that they have good nature and loving heart. because then whatever they do in life , it will shine through. (some people do and some people dont.) in reading posts and chat privately one makes judgements on stuff like re others. be they right or wrong.
its good that life is good for you :) i dont like to see anybody suffer.
of course you or i cant save them. :(
sometimes you can choose in things ....sometimes not. sometimes can choose what do about it ..sometimes not you cant choose if the branch of a tree falls on your head , and knocks u in a coma. nothing you can do about that. and million more examples...re illness/accident/disease/behaviour of others etc.
life is not just what you make out of it... its also what it makes out of you. from the colour of your eyes to the size of your feet. to much , much more.
i dont think the babies chained to the cots many also disabled...choose that life. or choose how that affect them. or choose what to do about it. or, that their life is what they make of it.
anyway, i only mentioned about the programme .because i was watching it last thing last night. then when i turned on connecting singles this morning and clicked on this thread.... a person ....your good self....was the last responder to it ...and from bulgaria
and ironically said....life is good. ( i know you talkin about in your own context.)
neverthless, i thought wow that a coincidence.
hope you continue to have a painfree life as possible. :) for as long you here ,,,however many times.
yes it is part of the experience... but more fundamentally its also part of the meaning of life.
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whereas for example ..............being a bad person (as in not doing good /being of good service)........is part of a humans EXPERIENCE of life , as are the victims experiencing the effect.
like being a serial killer etc / or whatever criminal doing wrong......but , THAT IS NOT ,,,the meaning of life.
having an experience in itself is not the meaning of life...or to have just any kind.
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RE: Irritated?
* abuses of any kind* rudeness
* unwanted intrusions
* violations of privacy
* gossip
* passive aggressive ...
are some that spring to mind..