I'm not denying that I'd prefer a fantastic looking woman. But if she's looking for a something I'm not (and vice versa), then it's just a waste of time for both of us.
I happened to read that thread last night. Even though I don't know you, I could tell you were reacting on a gut level. I've felt that way far more often than I care to admit. I suspect many / most of us have. I suspect those you addressed specifically understand this.
This apology probably will help to smooth things over though.
There is one thing I noticed while aging. Females in their teens and early twenties are often willing to believe in "true love" and "Prince Charming." But this attitude changes - presumably as they are involved in relationships that don't even come close to living up to those.
For the past 15 years or so what I've seen of women close to my age is that they view men as "disposable." They're to be tolerated only as long as they're useful. And I'm not just referring to personal experience - it seems to be the general attitude.
But I digress... so to return to the topic, I'd have to add to my list:
Blatantly independent - to the point that they give off the air of "I don't need you."
The fact that it's "home." I grew up here but moved to the Tampa area in the early 80's. I never expected to get homesick, but after about 15 years I couldn't stand it. I began to realize that I felt like an alien. There were many things to like there, but I had no roots.
It took another 5 years, (and a side trip to Ogden Utah) but I finally was able to return to the land of my birth.
It's the little things that I missed. First thing was the changing of the leaves. Next was the rolling landscape. The architecture of homes.
And then there were the differences that only reminded me I wasn't home. Even though I do enjoy NASCAR, I am not and never will be a "rebel." While palm trees and palmetto bushes have their own charm... I personally never cared for them.
Those... and the fact that I don't have to worry too much about hurricanes here.
And as odd as it seems, and this is more of a shock to me than I can describe, I missed snow.
This area is by no means perfect, but "be it ever so humble, there's no place like home."
There are many reasons why I don't post my photo publicly. Not the least of which is that it separates those who are mainly interested in appearance from those who want to get to know someone before making judgements.
I've heard this story before and have come to one conclusion:
I don't know the people involved. It's quite possible the people who were left out of the will had deserved this kind of treatment. But since the estate does exist and it will be dispersed, she had to pick somewhere for it to go.
As it happens, I almost used the word "needy" in my original post.
What I am attempting to describe does border on "needy", but without the implied desperation. About the best brief description (for me) is: Enjoying and desiring to spend time together, choosing NOT to do things without the other person.
I agree, this was very well written and thought provoking.
In a nutshell, I'd say that "the right way to love" is to provide what your partner needs and to receive from your partner what you need.
THIS is, IMHO, why communication is vital. No one can "instinctively" know what the other needs. Sure, after spending enough time together this knowledge does become almost second nature - but it doesn't come from osmosis.
There's one quality that I expected to be listed by now, and am surprised no one mentioned it: "Clingy." Personally I find this attractive, but I have several friends who told me that this was a reason why they broke off with the person they were dating.
Tennyson wrote a number of phrases that have become commonplaces of the English language, including: "nature, red in tooth and claw", "better to have loved and lost", "Theirs not to reason why,/Theirs but to do and die", and "My strength is as the strength of ten,/Because my heart is pure".
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