Is there a right way to love ? ( Archived) (60)

There are so many different interpretations of what love is that one might wonder if there is a right way to love? Actually, there is no correct way to love because love means so many different things to different people. What may be an act of love for one couple may not even come close to what love is to another couple.

Love is unique to every individual and every couple. The things that a couple does for each other in a relationship to express love, is very personal to them. Of course there are some general, common beliefs about what love is but when it comes to the details on how to love, this is unique to each individual and each couple for that matter.

For instance, a couple might do random acts of kindness for each other to express their love for one another. In another relationship, acts of kindness here and there may not be enough. Often, couples have expectations of each other, which need to be satisfied by their partner for love to exist between them in the fullest sense. When couples are in a relationship and one partner doesn’t meet the needs of the other, there may be tension between them. Love is such a delicate balance of give and take it seems. What is expected of a loving relationship various among people.


It is amazing actually, when no two people are the same, that love can exist as it does. It must be that people are attracted to their opposites in many situations. Not to say that couples don’t share similarities, but they certainly are not the same. When people are not the same, they think, feel and behave differently about different things. It is a rather large accomplishment actually to find love in relationships full of differences. The key is the appreciation of differences rather than the criticism of them.


Issues arise when people in relationships go into the relationship expecting their partner to think, feel and behave as they do or as a past partner did. This sort of unrealistic expectation is the perfect way to unhappiness in a relationship. This goes back to appreciation of each other’s differences and individuality. Some of the happiest couples are those who respect each other’s differences. Not to say that people in relationships should be pardoning and respecting their partner for differences in thoughts, feelings or behaviors which are destructive to the relationship. There is a need to mutually use discretion in drawing the line as to what differences are workable in the relationship and which ones are going to cause it to fail. Trust your instincts on this one and you should be fine.

In conclusion, if a person is seeking the right way to love in their relationship, they just need to trust their heart and mind on this one. Go with what your heart tells you and with what you know about the likes and dislikes of your partner. Be emotionally and mentally in tune with the one you love and you should have no problem finding the right way to love in your relationship.

I couldn't have said it better myself; this is really great.

Nicely said Pearl

I'm not sure how to reply

Well, said,

very nice and very true

I agree, this was very well written and thought provoking.

In a nutshell, I'd say that "the right way to love" is to provide what your partner needs and to receive from your partner what you need.

THIS is, IMHO, why communication is vital. No one can "instinctively" know what the other needs. Sure, after spending enough time together this knowledge does become almost second nature - but it doesn't come from osmosis.

Well...I loved your post, if that counts for anything