Of course we do. Dream of that. But then I am a realist and don't live in a fantasy land.
My marriage did not work out, but we are still parents of the same children.
I am now in a relationship and whether that works out is down to the two of us.
The perfect relationship? It was perfect at the start. Hence why we went ahead and had our children.
My life is not perfect now, but I enjoy it and have no issue with my ex husband. Now. That took many years for me as a person and to look at myself and look at how I contributed to the breakdown.
Yes we do, but don't you think you are generalising a little there?
I have made a good job of my life and I don't have any regrets over my decision to have my children young. I wished at the time my life was different, as I was so young, but it is the only life I knew. Regrets are a waste of emotion and I have had a good life with good people in there, so with me it is a fruitless argument. I have achieved many things, travelled and raised my children alongside their father who has contributed to the young people they are today.
Age and wisdom go along way to enabling us to make alanced decisions, I do that now and I know that my children and I did grow up together. But I had a good strong solid family behind me and while I have had difficulties, I have not come out bitter and twisted about life, completely the opposite.
Which is why your argument is no good with me, because I don't rise to what you see. Although I am happy to discuss with you.
I have done this to death with you, Rebel. You and I have been down this road before.
You think I'm an old spinster wasted my prime rearing my children.
I think I am in my prime now, with my children settled, balanced and branching out into adulthood.
So we're a it stuck aren't we. You and I. Diametrically opposed one would say, good job I don't take offence very easily.
It does grate on my nerves that people make single parents out to be heroes though, as JB has posted, it does not have to be stressful or hard work rearing children, I have enjoyed being a mum and I am young enough to see them make a life for themselves.
Do you think that people should wait until they are older before having children?
I am often intrigued by this. My salary is usually spent dring the month. Bills, we all have them. So, in essensce, by the end of the month, I am ready for my next salary.
I have some savings, so I am not destitute.
I have a home and a car, can afford a decent standard of living.
For me, I prefer a person who is financially responsible. If a person has debts, then I would like to see that they are dealing with it.
No home? DO you mean owning their home or homeless?
I have to be a bit crass here, I would not be interested in a person who had no home.
Money cannot buy me love, but I'm at the stage in my life, where I like life to be a little easier. Having worked hard to have what I have then I would want a person to be in a simliar position as me, a home, able to travel a little.
But as a homebird, I am happy at home, either his or mine.
My children's father and I divorced many years ago. He kidnapped my/our children and disappeared (for a time). To make a long story short, it took me a year to forgive him. quote]This happened to me too.
He walked away because he could not give her what she wants. He was honest. There is no point in remaining in a relationship where two people cannot fulfill what they both want from that relationship.
If one wants fidelity and the other cannot give it, then walk away.
If one wants a child and the other one doesn't, then it will never work.
Sommerauer71 Forum Posts (12,414)
RE: Being a Single Parent
Hum.When I say I am stepping out of something, I do.
Debating is an art form. As you and I know.