It is a good question. I have to say that men are not wrong, they may not be right for the woman, but that does not make them wrong.
Wrong for me? Wrong for me would be a person who never listened. Who was not willing to compromise with me, as I am.
Being alone? I quite like being alone, I enjoyed my time alone and was offered dates but I knew that I did not want that. So I remained alone without a partner, I was not lonely.
Can we change a person? No! If I fall for a man, I have done, I fell for what he was about. Why would I want to change him?
The rest of the post is interesting for me, gives me an insight on how you feel.
Superb Shedman, just superb and I can echo what Ven states too.
And there is no apology needed I do not think at all.
It is that desire to know their views and why they hold those views, that drives me to give them respect first, in order that I may try to remain as open to what they say as I possibly can. Knowing that it may very well be their views are such that I could never agree with them but at least maybe by respecting them I can find out why. If I know why then at least there is a chance I can better understand them and others who may share the same views as they do. It is called acceptance that my views are NOT the right ones for anyone else but me.
This paragraph I particularly like. I often ask for explaination on people's views and often I am answered by another member, usually 'a friend' of that person and telling me I am wrong for asking the views.
Debating is an art form, it is sadly lacking here, the percentage overall of people who can debate well is low. There are so few people here who can debate.
Back to Ven's post, EU forums, same people, we have new ones occassionally, but we get on, all of us. We are blunt, we can debate and different a little because we do actually know each other. Not all together but we have met people who have met other people, the few that have not met each other still get on. Debate, fun and laughter is happening.
It happens here, but there is an undertone. I can handle it and I can step over it, but like you Shed, I do struggle with it sometimes and cannot understand why people have to resort to the behaviour they do.
That being said! There are many who are able to interact well and kind and respectful.
There are many who see this place as a popularity contest, setting the competition themselves. Also the vigilante behaviour, drives me potty. I noticed yesterday that an old friend of mine from here, we began as sparring partners, both strong minded very different views on matters, but we ended being great friends, that she had said her confidence came over as a know it all, and that she realised that and had scaled down that confidence as it was causing people to think she knew it all. I don't see why people should compromise themselves.
Shed, I hope this does not mean you are going! This place would be a blander without you, that is a certain. Intelligent, smart, able to hold a discussion with respect and of course watching you and Mercedes spread the feelings you have for each other grow until you meet is something that I enjoy reading.
I selfishly don't want you to go, really. But if you do, I thank you for what you have brought here, wisdom, an enigma, an aura of feeling, enjoyment and a wonderful humour.
We cannot guarantee that our children's partner will not work out and that we will like us, just like we cannot expect that our partners will like our children.
I would not have entered this thread, had it not been for WW, as it made me laugh.
I would not, in any event be buying furniture in a 14 bedroomed home and arguing about stuff and my son.
I would step away and find somewhere else to live.
It is their home, like my home is my home.
I would like to see how many people would like this scenario as suitable!
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When?
I'll slap you on the left cheek. Let me know the results.Ja?