I see Tina as Michelle Pfeiffer in Frankie and Johnny, in the final scene, telling Al Pacino, in his bathrobe, sitting in the window, with a toothbrush hanging out of her mouth that she really is 37 years old.
It is difficult to advise in these situations and you have received lots of good advice already.
I know from what I have read here in your posts that you see honesty and being upfront important, as we all do.
Unfortunately, we cannot rely on other people to be that way. And this is what we must protect ourselves against and be able to handle it.
I am sure you put all your thoughts and energy into this man and of course the way he treated you was awful, that being said there is a way to be able to get through it. Pick yourself up now, dust yourself down and crash on with being you.
You took a risk and it did not work out and that is tough, love involves a risk and we open our beings to it. It didn't work out.
He has hurt you and time will ease it, in that time perhaps look at how you will handle the next person who pops along. I am not at all saying that you handle yourself wrong, because you display wonderful lovely manners, I mean with personal contact. We cannot ourselves from being hurt, we can only hope that we can deal with it in a way that will only make ourselves stronger in what we seek.
We will cheer you up, we can be quite good at that...
I agree, I am not one who has blamed both my ex husband and my last partner for the break ups and remained sitting in a pit of misery. I took responsibility for the breakdown, regardless of their behaviours and faced up to what I did wrong.
I may still do things wrong, I do exactly as you write, I pick myself up, hold my hands up, admit where I went wrong and carry on.
I plan my calendar, trips my life. I do not plan emotions, I don't know how I will feel tonight, never mind in three years.
I try to embrace what I am feeling rather than fight it.
I was like that, concentrating on me, but then I did find some space to be able to love again and went careering in not even thinking about whether it will work out, I don't think any of us do know how things will pan out.
Otherwise people would never get together. I see my relationship as us both on a journey. We do it together. Slot into each other's lives quite comfortably.
You are right, I am misleading myself here. With regards to expectations.
I did have expectations! I had big ones, I never used this place as a sole platform for meeting a person romantically.
The place I was to meet a person was not the main factor, I stuck to my expectations that a person would have to really blow my skirt up before I would consider any relationship.
Isn't that a fact? Career advisors at school. I work in that area and work with young adults who are deciding what they want to do in life.
How many of us are not doing what we wanted to be? I have trained as a chef, I ended up teaching.
Our paths should change, disappear and be rebuilt. Mine certainly has. I live in a quiet country, with a quiet life that I enjoy. Never 20 years ago, when I was a young mother, with a busy life did I think I would be on this path where I am now.
Interesting John, you have me thinking all sorts now.
For me, you have the nail on the head. My compass. I beleive I had the right map and compass when I came through the trauma of my last breakup. I fell off the beaten track at times, but I got back on.
Did I try to get him to notice me? No, I think he and I noticed each other at the same time. It was a thread and I thought 'whooa' and slammed those breaks on.
I have never once compromised who I was! I knew what I wanted and I felt good about myself and where I was in my life. My fifth decade I have embraced with gusto and a drive that has surprised myself.
I never had any expectations at all, I knew that it would take a person that would make me look twice and think 'Now this I like'
Good thinking thread, Sir and I hope your day is filled with wonderful things and smiles.
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Love Actually and the Hugh Grant dancing scene, definitely you!