Yes you can, I am suggesting that you would not love her, love does not stop.
I asked you if you would tell she was disgusting, foolish.
Now I could interpret your answer to mean the words I have written. But I won't like, you have misinterpreted the OP by presuming he is gay.
You believe it is wrong, I don;t beleive it is wrong, so if my son or daughter came and told me they were gay, I would still love them, support whoever they were with and still be as proud a mother as I am right now.
It would not change a thing. It would not change that I would disrespect them so much to tell them that their lifestyle is 'wrong'
I do not want to be with a person who I am not attracted to. Regardless if the rest of the world think him attractive, if I do then that is all that matters.
Same with clothes, I don't want a person who does not give a toss what he looks like, is scruffy, dirty and has no self control.
No person can be controlled by another, unless that person lets them.
But if a person instills fear in another, then that can have an influence.
How do I act when confronted? Cool, calm and together. I never lose my temper in a confrontational situation. I can speak, I can do a sermon and then I walk away.
If I am mad, I still don't show it, but I will get in my car, pu some music on or go for a drive. Or I will go home and have a sob and a sleep.
There have been many things said about me, like any other person, untrue allegations I deal with. I ask them once to stop, if they continue spreading malicious gossip, then I deal with it in the way that I have been taught. To not be confrontational. I step over them concurrently while dealing with it. No person likes untrue rumours about them.
I am on the whole, pretty much in control of my emotions and while I am an emotional person, in that I feel, I embrace anger if I am feeling it, rather than fight it.
Yes, that is a good perspective. But then what if a person has never been arrested and has gotten away with crimes such as you mention and you know, people can reform.
This is so sad. I am sorry you have been put through this.
So if you had've done a background check, you would not have continued with the relationship?
I have not had any contact other than with my partner here so deep that I felt it necessary to pursue a check. I think for me, those sort of things that make us feel uneasy are what we pick up as we go along.
Having a background check done may eliminate a criminal history, that is all, but it does not guarantee that all would be fine.
And I just could not be bothered to do one, because I think differently and am not a suspicious person and I have had my fingers burned in my past two relationships, emotionally.
Another thing for me is, that I am not going to take out a background check on a person. If I am pushed to think that about a person, then alarm bells would have rung for me and that would be enough.
Nor am I going to sit for hours scouring the internet for anything that might be on him. I would not be that desperate to meet him.
Well coming from a woman who has travelled to another country, I did have a good sense of the person I was to meet. Open, honest and yes I did go and stay with him at his place.
Yes, the stories are horrific, but like anything, if we all we driven by the news, we would never leave our homes.
Sommerauer71 Forum Posts (12,414)
RE: How would you feel if the man you had been dating told you he was bi?
Thank you for your kind words there.Tater and I have known each other for a while now, we have our differences but on the whole we have an understanding.
I think you have misinterpreted my words, nowhere did I state that he his love would not be lessened towards his little girl.
But thank you anyway, I was not attacking him about his daughter, I asked him a question.
He answered, as I knew he would.