You are right, the birth has nothing to do with the relationship will be like, in the end it is her decision.
This lady should ask herself these questions, however I do think he should have the opportunity to decide if she wants him there. At some point he must be aware that she is near her due date.
She will also, regardless of whether he is at the birth, have to tell him the child is born.
Or she can walk away and forget about him and live with her child. They are married, whatever his state of health, he is the father of that child, he could come back later and demand he sees the child. That can be more damaging.
Or he could not give a stuff, he didn't while she was pregnant. Who knows, I don't.
Oh no, Captain, you have me shackled and unable to speak. Terrified of that feather.
She lies there looking up at him, with wide eyes and trying to speak for fear of that feather and the mercy she knows she will have to show. She knows that he will not allow her to speak. He is enjoying the fear she is displaying now.
He grins wickedly at her knowing full well she is his prisoner and she cannot escape. He inspects her nails, 'shabby those are, I need to get you to a manicurist, I can't have my wench not looking good' He mockingly tells her.
She struggles, attempting to wrestle free, but she knows she is trapped and eventually the struggle subsides and she relaxes. She realises that she has to give in, it was futile to escape, he had her trapped. Her mind is wandering and a jumble, but she manages to find the words...
'So then Captain, am all yours, now what you gonna do with me?' She hears her own words come out in a steady voice, gives herself some congratulations for managing to sound so together. Her eyes dart to the door, fearful of who may enter and see her like this, Summer would laugh her own bodice off at this, but then Sommer realises that Summer is probably in the same position in Captain ARG'S cabin.
Panic begins to set in again, she talks to herself silently, telling herself, there is nothing else for it.
I think you should call him and let him know when you go into labour, tell him before you go into labour that you will be telling him and then he can make the decision.
YOu are right, your child deserves his/her father there, not necessarily at the birth, but certainly throughout it's life. Only your husband can decide that, you cannot force him.
You are going to be there for the baby, and all children need a person, be it a mother, father or other person.
As for feeling he may be bi-polar, then that again is for him to get the help he needs to ascertain this. You can suggest and advise him, if he refuses, he refuses, the only way to force him would for a doctor to certify him.
I feel for you, you must be going through hell, and I cannot imagine he is in a very good place either, but you have to concentrate on keeping yourself well, and the stress you must be under must be immense. Your child deserves YOU to be well, so that you can take care of him/her.
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RE: The voyages and adventures of the Connectus and the Singulus
Is it my floor?(God, I am dead when the other Captain reads this)