Christmas is love and spending time with our families and friends.To mend wounds,putting aside differences and begin anew.
Christmas is also about giving to those who may be less fortunate then myself.I believe that giving of ourselves we're acting as agents of Santa Claus.
Well my parents are both gone but I know for sure that if they were alive today that they would accept and welcome anyone that I would've chosen for a partner.They weren't perfect and nor did they expect anyone else to be. They were the kind of people who respected and accepted anyone regardless of flaws ,religious background,race etc.I was raised to do the very same and continue to do so.
If it was an adult child of mine I would listen to and respect his opinions in regards to the the man I was in a relationship with but I would still do what I wished anyway.My mistakes and choices would be mine to make and not theirs.
Sometimes family and friends say that they're looking out for someones best interest but are they really?I've often wondered just WHO'S best interest are they really and truly looking out for anyway? Hmm
The very same would go for the mans family.Example:My late husband's family didn't like me for someone unknown reason but I didn't really let it bother me. I was more concerned about how hurt my late husband was and him knowing that his family didn't accept me.For some reason my family didn't like him either.So we were both in a pickle.But it wasn't anything we couldn't overcome.
One day I had a talk with my two older brothers who didn't like my late husband and set a few things straight with them.That I loved my late husband and he loved me and if they chose not to accept him in the family then it was their choice.That I deserved to be happy and that my late husband made me very happy,that he was good to me and respected me etc. I also explianed to them both that I was not going along just to get along.
I've dealt with narrow-mindness in my family all my life and found the only way to deal with is by not assocating with some of them.
If I met someone and my family chose not to accept them then I would consider it my families problem and not mind.
If anyone in my family for some unknown reason chose to dislike me I would also consider it their lose.My family will either love all of me and accept and respect me for who and what I am or not at all.I've just got so I really don't care anymore.Like in that song'My give a dams busted'.
Hi Summer I volunteer at a nursing home by helping in serving meals during the holiday season and whenever I'm not busy to the residents who reside there.Some of either don't have families or have families who never visit them.
Acouple times I have also adopted acouple families for the hoildays.
I take a nice warm bath and play some of my favorite music and light some candles. Sometimes I turn on my indoor table fountain and listen to the running water.
I volunteer all year long at a nursing home which is just behind my home.
This holiday season like I've done for so many others I'll be serving Christmas Eve & Day dinner to the residents who reside there.Some of them either don't have families to visit them or have families who don't.Noone should have to spend the hoildays alone.
In aliitle while I'll be going on a date with a friend of mine to do some ice skating at an outdoor rink and then later on he and I will be going for some hot cocoa.
No I wouldn't just go/date a rich guy over a poor guy I'd date both.
I've been around rich guys who were complete snobs and thinks they're gods gift to women and I've been around those men who had a super personality and dirt poor.
So how much money a guy has or doesn't have has nothing to do with the kind of person he is.
If there's really nothing going on other than friendship why break it off?
I have alot of male friends who have Imore trust in than I do any of my female friends and wouldn't end those male friendships for anything in the world.
I used to be one of those people pleasers.I think you've got to start saying "NO" and not beat yourself up about it.That it's perfectly ok to say no every once in a while.
Now I just come right out and tell them how I feel and if they don't like it so be it.Idf that sounds harsh to some but,sometimes that's just how it has to be.I became tried of feeling like I was a push over so to speak because of my niceness.I also learned that you can't please everybody cause it's just not possible to do so.
somechick Forum Posts (11,116)
You're such a sweet man.
RE: On the 1st Date, who should pay?
I don't think it makes a difference who pays.