Yep, and guess what, If he had been interested, he would have pursued and been anxious to have another date to please you, either with his wallet OR with a date which he PLANNED himself with no hints from you....
I think it's INITIATIVE and not the cost. The guy plans the date and gets credit for how it turns out and how pleased the woman is....
Lots of times in my youth, I tried to make it easy and cheap for a guy, and then, like you, I never got past those two, three dates LOL
You know, I bet she's just as nervous to meet in person as you are.
Heck, take the trip, meet her, have no expectations and see how you are together in person. Don't be running around awfulizing. And wait until you meet to decide about her moving because that is a huge step compared to this face to face meeting.
RE: Outside CS...how soon?
Now Allen, you haven't done that for me. I am so bummed!!! LOLBut on the other hand, I don't use the messengers :)