My first boyfriend was in the Navy. He joined during college and I stayed at college. It was very difficult for me to have any kind of social life. I had a boyfriend who was not at my side and guys continued to hit on me. I left college and went home and lived my life with family and not around singles. We wrote letters and sent pictures. I saw my boyfriend when he was in port - about every six months. After a year, he disappeared - no letter - no apology - and no, he was not dead or injured. I was devastated.
Long distance relationships are very difficult, especially when you are young. And the temptations and loneliness- for both parties makes for a tough road that many do not want to follow.
I think it's unfortunate that some guys can't say what they feel. They miss out on opportunities and women are not mind readers. If a man doesn't tell a woman how he feels, she will assume he is not interested and will move on. Also, a lack of emotion and romance can be a real turnoff to a lady who wants to be courted.
I have said this too many times - private conversations should be private.
I know this is all very upsetting, but remember what really counts here - the welfare of one of our forum members.
It bothers me so much that a nice guy like Roy is going to read this stuff, And guess what? He's going to feel responsible in some way because he's that kind of person. He cares deeply for many people. So for Roy's sake and everyone else's sake, be cool.
I second that and I miss her terribly. I know many of us "old timers" have left. Others have stayed. I hope we can continue our friendship beyond this site.
I think everytime I get a flattering email or flower on here, it is from an unknown admirer. So I say thank you and then I see if the person makes an effort to get to know me. BUT - the unknown only goes away when we meet in person!
I'm not a political person, but a friend of mine invited me to a Republican dinner when George Bush was running for President. I usually list myself as Independent when I have to choose a party. But it was a date and I went LOL
Before the dinner was served, Mr Bush came around to each table and shook everyone's hand. I'm a bit shy and I don't care about celebrity so I didn't stand up as he approached. If he had been President at that point, I would have stood up. But he was only a candidate and I thought it was optional.
Even though I really didn't want to shake his hand, he still approached me and offered his hand. I shook it to be polite. Not that this especially reflects on him, but it does show the power of politics. You're part of the show sometimes even if you would prefer to sit it out.
arabella Forum Posts (6,199)
RE: Why dont women want a man in the military?
You mean with or without a uniform???? LOL