Laura25 Forum Posts (8,178)

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

Let me remind you:

the key phrase in your quote,

the one you found to be so ridicules to be included in a profile on dating site was:
"I'm me and I won't change for anybody."

I hear a confident person with a strong sense of self.
(Yes, it's my story and I stick to it)
There is no implication in this statement that this person is someone who is "in a self-congratulatory rut", is there, J.?

They only state that they are not going to change for these unknown potential suitors who are very possibly seeking to change another person to only cover up for their own shortcomings or suit their own bad habits.

Why you are assuming that the changes they{these unknown potential suitors} will ask of you

are in fact “growth and improvement “? not something that will keep you in the same rut they are in??

Who determines what is growth for you, and what is a complete opposite?

Why should I (or anybody with a strong identity) intrust these decisions (how to improve myself, how to develop my talents and potentials), to random strangers on a dating site who very possibly don't know who they themselves are and what they want from life?

Why you think it's so wrong to look for a like-minded person instead of setting yourself and this other person for a definite failure from the very start by promising to become what they want you to be?

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

'chancge'

should read 'change'

I only bothered correcting my typo for you, J.

And you(!!) didn't even notice it.

Ah, c'est la vie

RE: Lie is a sharp sword

"lieing is part of keeping a relationship working"
You said ^it, not me.


Re-read my post,
I said that neither truth nor lie have a power to keep relationship going.

Hi, Toad

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

RE: Is it reasonable to ask or expect a partner to change?

I have to disagree with this statement, Ambrose.

I think it's an honest representation of themselves (in most cases, excluding very few people for whom it's just a rotten attitude).

When someone says they won't chance,

to me this profile statement means that they are happy with who they are and probably confident in themselves, sure of oneself that they are a good person,

and most of all --

this statement says that they search for a compatible person, with common values, goals and interests,

not for someone to start to change each other into something unnatural for them, something they will never become.

I like what Stress said.

“If you want a cat, then don't get a bird!
As long as a couple re-lates, then it's a relationship What needs changing? “



Why not? You think so little of compatibility?

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Hope you had a wonderful weekend, Cuc.

<~~~ Spring flowers for you.

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Beautiful song. Love it.

It's a full of sunshine Sunday here in NYC today,
with brilliant blue skies and all!!

RE: Lie is a sharp sword

No, I don't.

"a nutrition"?? LOL!

The truth can tear any relationship into pieces much faster than lie.

Especially if two people involved each have their own truth, as oppose to sharing a common truth.

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Thank you for posting it, Jack.

A true masterpiece. Edgar A. Poe is one of the most weird, original and unique geniuses, IMO. I started reading Poe when I was in my early teens and always loved it.


To a National Poetry Month.

RE: Daily Rampage !!!

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P.S.
...k, I admit it - I had to look it{gauntlet} up

RE: Daily Rampage !!!

Hmmmmmmm... k, BB, none of the above,

but 'A plea for instruction' would be the closest,

let's hear it.

RE: Daily Rampage !!!

Haha... You have? It's funny how sometimes we notice things about ourselves that no one else does.

Have a great rampage ...ummm... weekend, V. !!!

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Hiya Cuc Have a wonderful weekend, Sunshine!

RE: Daily Rampage !!!

The nicest part of belonging to CS is that when I don't know what I'm doing, someone else always does.

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Fantastic video , thanks for sharing.

RE: Daily Rampage !!!

Good morning, Friday

RE: God or mother nature

Yep, just an attention ho.

RE: What girls really want...

Their parents taught them not to talk to strangers methinks.

Welcome to CS, have fun :)

RE: Is it too much to ask??

Gotta love CS with ALL its characters.


Hello, Gra

RE: Is it too much to ask??

'Yes' - he is honest with you,
judging by your two threads, he doesn't hide the way he feels about you, doesn't sneak around - pretty open and for a very long time,

and 'no' - he does not respect or want you.

Isn't it an old news, MISSEY?


Fri Aug 20, 2010




:) Now that you converted to Judaism,

are you also unreasonable and don't care how you hurt people's feelings and also very money orientated?


Besides,

what happened to 3 sides of the story?

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Laurie Anderson-Strange Angels

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It's a wonderful song.



Haha... fell off the face of the earth for a short while,

I'll make it back - no worries, sweets.

Thank you for asking - feels good that someone remembers. Much love to you, Cuc.

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Metallica - Nothing Else Matters



So close no matter how far
Couldn't be much more from the heart
Forever trust in who we are
And nothing else matters

Never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don't just say
And nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
But I know

So close no matter how far
Couldn't be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
But I know

I never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don't just say
And nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they say
Never cared for games they play
Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
And I know (yeah!)

So close no matter how far
Couldn't be much more from the heart
Forever trust in who we are
No nothing else matters.

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Thank you -- needed some laugh...


On a second thought ...sheeesh... why am I laughing? That's how much progress I do at the moment.



Hello, Sunshine!

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Ray Lamontagne - Empty

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Whoo Hoo



J.

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Hahaha... this is it, J. A Monday song.

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Bed of Roses - Bon Jovi

RE: a little tired......

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